Who is bu about child's party?

[Alwayssomethingtodo]

So two relatives have fallen out.

Relative 1 - Barbara, is holding a soft play party for her child's 6th birthday.

Relative 2 - Eric and Dorothy are Barbara's brother and sister in law. They have 2dc ages 5 years and a baby 8 months old.

Barbara has invited the 5 year old to the party. It's on a weeknight after school so she offered to pick the 5yo cousin up as Eric and Dorothy don't drive.

However Eric and Dorothy have got very upset that the baby wasn't invited to the party.

Barbara said that as the party is costing a lot per head and there are only 10 places, although the older cousin is invited there didn't seem much point inviting the baby as it will be all school friends and the baby likely wouldn't eat the food or make much use of the place. They are welcome to come along but the baby won't be 'in' the party.

Eric and Dorothy said that Barbara is out of order leaving one of their dc out and have told Barbara not to bother at all.

Wibu?

Another one team Barbara!

Another thread about "parents of the year" stopping their kids from having nice experiences due to FOMO. E&D are idiots and should get over themselves for the sake of their children. If they would rather you not bother, then don't bother and let them explain to their kid why they were "disinvited" to the party. Roll on years of resentment between siblings because they are constantly missing out on nice things due to other sibling either having to tag along or nobody being allowed to go.

Team Barbs.

And our info tweets how would the cousin get there if barbs didn't offer to collect?

Eric and Dorothy are nuts. They want someone to pay for a baby to attend and therefore a 6years old friend loses out

let them sulk and invite someone else for the cousins place

TEAM BARBARA.

Eric and Dorothy sound mental.

Are you Dorothy?

Perfectly put

nuttier than squirrel shit - love it!

Exactly.

Poor 5yo is going to be the kid with their younger sibling tagging along on all play dates.

Eric and Dorothy are indeed actually lucky that Barbara has invited their older child who presumably isn't even I their child's friendship group.

As regards the baby they are batshit.

Eric and Dorothy are nuts.

I think it depends on the family but I know in my family they baby would likely be invited too and just paid for separately as not eating the party food. Alternatively I could understand if money was tight maybe that would be too much and mum and dad would need to pay for the baby but that just needs a conversation. I think lack of communication and not mentioning the baby at all has caused the problems and maybe feels a bit rude.

So if it isn't already obvious I'm Barbara. Eric is my brother and Dorothy my sil.

I was more worried about how dbro and sil would get their as it's soon after school and they don't drive. So I thought that I was being efficient by offering to pick cousin up.

Initially dbro was surprised that I'd offered to pick cousin up as they'd need to get the baby there either way, It got a bit awkward then because I said I'd only really been thinking about their eldest as thought that the baby would be a bit young, it was school friends going (all what I said in the op). Dbro then said he'd pay the baby into the venue rather than leave the baby out.

I told him that this was of course fine and I could pay the baby in, but that it wouldn't be an official party place with food and party bags but they were all welcome to come alone for cake etc.

Later on dbro said he'd spoken with Dorothy and pretty much I could shove it.

I did try to explain that I wasn't trying to offend them. It just seemed silly to pay for a party place for baby who wouldn't be able to join in with everything.

If it was a tea party at my house it would be totally different or if there were going to be lots of dc different ages.

This is crazy! Why would a baby go to a 5 year old's school party! You have been really kind to invite and offer to pick up the older cousin.

Next time, keep school parties separate, I say.

Eric and Dorothy are crazy, and no doubt they will also be kicking off when your teenager doesn’t want their little 10 year old cousin at their 16th

Great names, OP!
What are the kids called? 😏

Doreen and Irene.

The baby is baby Pat.

Eric and Dorothy have lost their minds.

8 month old baby can’t really attend a soft play party with a bunch of 5 year olds, but maybe the parents don’t want to let the 5 year old go alone without them? and would rather the parents go along with the baby too? I guess by offering to pick up the 5 year old then it means the parents are expected to stay at home?

They are being very silly.

When we had a soft play party we were told babies would be free if not eating but if that's not the case I wouldn't invite them either

Your DB and SIL are in for a lot of surprises if they think that with a 4-5year age gap that both kids will because to do everything together.

What are they going to do about their own kids birthdays to start off with?

I have an 11yo DN and a 5yo DN. My DDs are 10&12. The three older ones do lots of stuff together. Sometimes the younger one can join in, often she can't. Younger one just does a more age appropriate activity.

I love the names you've chosen!

Barbara, Eric and Dorothy all sound far too old to have young children 🤣🤣

Baby Pat is mighty pissed off.
She's been looking forward to the party since forever.
Got her party dress sorted and everything.
She's still not clear on what soft play is but she's pretty sure she'll be good at it.

Oh ok, I don't know about that as I booked the party for 10 thinking my child, cousin who is close in age and then the rest school friends.

I didn't really give it a thought about the baby. It's not even about the couple of quid entrance for the baby just seemed pointless counting them as a party guest iyswim?