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To think that if you send an email, you don't need to text someone to say you've emailed them?

77 replies

DietCokeAddict19 · 17/11/2023 13:11

Why do people do this?!

I know you have sent an email - I got a notification for it in the same way I got a notification from the text message you sent to tell me you sent the email!

Drives me insane!!

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Lovingitallnow · 17/11/2023 13:13

Because not everyone uses emails and gets notifications? I don't. Most of my emails are ads or for orders. I havn't received an email from a friend in years.

FourStringsNoWaiting · 17/11/2023 13:14

Depends. Someone recently emailed me a contract to sign and then text me to tell me about it because it would've been helpful for them if I'd got it done by the end of the working day, without the text it might have had to wait until the next day

DonnaTellMeThis · 17/11/2023 13:15

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DaftyInTheMiddle · 17/11/2023 13:16

Depends what it was I suppose. If it was something important I might text to make you aware in case it gets filtered in spam.

Cheeesus · 17/11/2023 13:16

I think it’s common to not have notifications on for email.

ohtowinthelottery · 17/11/2023 13:17

I do if I email my brother.

Birch101 · 17/11/2023 13:20

Depends in the situation. I frequently contact my work colleagues via email but because they are out on the road in clients homes etc I can't rely on when they will read email so in a more pressing situation I send text saying client cancelled check email

I have been told that texts are more appreciated by work colleagues but it is company policy to send updates via email so I do both. Bare in mind some people can get dozens of emails a day so sifting through these for my message may happen to late

Richie23 · 17/11/2023 13:39

Oh my word, yes this annoys me so much! I kind of get it if you’re working from home and they need a reply straight away. But, majority of my work is office bashed and we have to all have the email notifications on. There’s a couple of people who send an email and then straight away come over and say I’ve just sent you an email. I can clearly see that. And then, even worse, is when they then start to explain the email. Whhhhyyy?! All the information is in your message. Either Email me or come and talk to me. Both are not needed and you definitely don’t need to let me know you’ve sent an email.
Glad I’m not the only one who finds this annoying.

cloudglazer · 17/11/2023 13:57

So I do this. In my work, I reply to contacts via my website, and sometimes they end up in junk mail, so I text as well. People get upset if they think I haven't replied, and it's actually their junk filter, not me.

ManateeFair · 17/11/2023 13:59

In most cases it's unnecessary. But I think that, if the email is urgent and you know the person might not check their emails every day, a text might be justifiable. I check my work emails constantly but I only check my personal emails about once every three days.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 17/11/2023 14:01

I do if it’s someone who has form for not replying to anything, like my exh

ManateeFair · 17/11/2023 14:01

Cheeesus · 17/11/2023 13:16

I think it’s common to not have notifications on for email.

Yeah, I don't have notifications on my phone for emails. I don't need a notification popping up every time I get an order confirmation through from Asos or something.

Bouncyball23 · 17/11/2023 14:01

I don't get notifications for emails so yes a text would be helpful, also email might go into junk/spam folder. Or as above said you don't reply so a text aswell might prompt you too.

Pollyannamex · 17/11/2023 14:02

this used to drive me mad at work. There was a man who was notorious for sending an email then calling to say ‘I’ve just sent you an email’ then proceeding to tell you everything that was in the email.
it wasn’t even urgent.

FlamingBlue · 17/11/2023 14:04

I've had the reverse, an e-mail informing me the person had sent me a text. I have a basic mobile which I only use about once every couple of months.

Not everyone gets alerted to e-mails, it seems perfectly reasonable to me.

Thepeopleversuswork · 17/11/2023 14:04

It's context-dependent isn't it?

If you're waiting for someone to urgently send something, for example, you've sent them an email and they haven't replied and you're close to deadline I think it's absolutely fine and normal. I get and send hundreds of emails a day and people prioritise the ones which are most important so sometimes you have to expedite things. If you're waiting on a legal document to be signed off for a transaction to close or you're a journalist on deadline and you're not getting what you want via email it's completely normal to send an offline nudge.

It would be a bit twattish on the other hand if you sent your mate an email with a baby picture of your DC and nudged them to respond if they hadn't done so within an hour.

IceIceBabyBump · 17/11/2023 14:09

There are some circumstances when I think it's okay if you need to give context that you can't explain in an email, or you need to explain why you've done a certain thing in an email.

Example: I've just emailed my friend from my work email address to her work email address. We're both very senior with managerial responsibilities. I didn't know if she'd forward on my email or if her emails are monitored. Either way, emails can be subject to an FOI request at any point. So I was very formal in my tone. I texted her after I sent it to kind of apologise for formality because I'd normally do gifs and kisses and perhaps smutty jokes 😂

DietCokeAddict19 · 17/11/2023 14:12

Hmm ok I see how context is important. And I am someone who has email notifications on so it seems pointless to me to send a further message when I'd already got notified the first time.

And it's my ex who is currently doing it, so that might explain my grumpiness!

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Dartmoorcheffy · 17/11/2023 14:13

I do it as most of my clients are not frequent email users and it reminds them to check

GasPanic · 17/11/2023 14:15

Depends how important it is and whether you need a fast response.

Emails can end up in junk folders or not get delivered. So if it is an important email double checking is worthwhile.

BlueGrey1 · 17/11/2023 14:27

Yes, at work sometimes I do this to highlight the urgency, it is not always a text sometimes it’s a call
Some people have an awful lot of unread mail in their inbox and it could otherwise take them days to come across it

SerendipityJane · 17/11/2023 14:29

Could be worse. They could phone you.

I've worked with people who would call you to tell you they were sending you an email, then call you when they had sent it, and then call you when they got your reply.

Mind you, it makes up for people and organisations who can "lose" an email.

EBearhug · 17/11/2023 18:36

A recruiter messaged me earlier to say they'd mailed a form to be signed and a meeting request for a phone interview, and to let her know if either failed to arrive. I'm fine with that. A friend messaging me to say I sent a long chatty email - less so.

So in some contexts, it's fine. In others, definitely not.

Anonymouseposter · 17/11/2023 18:38

I don't have notifications for emails. I could easily miss one. I would appreciate the text to alert me if it was important.

Sillysoppysentimental · 17/11/2023 18:45

I have three e mail accounts and not one gives me notifications. 🤷‍♀️ l don't check them every day.
You are being adverse.