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To think that if you send an email, you don't need to text someone to say you've emailed them?

77 replies

DietCokeAddict19 · 17/11/2023 13:11

Why do people do this?!

I know you have sent an email - I got a notification for it in the same way I got a notification from the text message you sent to tell me you sent the email!

Drives me insane!!

OP posts:
gofullpelt · 17/11/2023 18:53

I get this all the time from someone I work with, drives me insane.

LlynTegid · 17/11/2023 18:57

Some people ignore emails. So you have to think of an alternative for them. Speaking to them in person or by phone for me is the best option, but not always available.

SerendipityJane · 17/11/2023 19:24

Some people ignore emails.

In a business capacity and from an internal contact ?

As a CEO once told someone who said "I don't do emails" ... "You do, or you go."

Same goes for keeping your calendar updated.

Miri42 · 17/11/2023 19:28

I would always send a text if email that needs urgent response and would expect the same if someone send me an urgent email

thistimelastweek · 17/11/2023 19:29

I get messages to tell my husband that he has been messaged.

DaphneMoo · 17/11/2023 19:29

In a work situation, no I get constant emails with notifications on but personal ones, yes I would appreciate a text as I don't check them that regularly and notifications are off.

SerendipityJane · 17/11/2023 19:31

Personally I didn't realise emails are still a thing. Thought it was all whastapp/signal/FB messenger

Still trying to regret not having a landline.

IMustDoMoreExercise · 17/11/2023 19:33

I do If it is important because emails can go to Spam or just disappear in to the ether.

SageRosemary · 17/11/2023 19:54

A couple of people in my contacts don't have smartphones. I myself rarely check emails when I am on the move so I wouldn't have a problem with someone sending me a quick text to check an e-mail.

idontlikealdi · 17/11/2023 19:55

It's common at my work that if you are dealing with people with a lot of email traffic and you are sending something important / needs to be actioned urgently you drop a teams message to say so. I don't have my email notifications on. It would be pinging all day and it's really distracting when I actually need to work.

mrsbyers · 17/11/2023 20:33

Some people use a couple of email accounts ? I text my husband to tell him I’ve sent an email to his private email as he doesn’t check it while at work

Gingernaut · 17/11/2023 20:39

Email notifications may be switched off

They may not access their emails by phone (keeping work and personal separate)

GodDammitCecil · 17/11/2023 20:39

I did this to someone yesterday - so irrationally assumed this was a passive aggressive dig at me! Until you said it was your ex.

Not everyone has notifications on for personal emails. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Someone I hadn’t heard from in a while texted me asking for some information on behalf of someone else, that was pretty sensitive.

I was out and about and didn’t get to it until later. I looked for the info, compiled it into an email, and because it was hours after the original text has been sent, I replied to the text saying I’d sent the info (it was too much to send by text).

I just felt bad that it had taken me a while to come back, and I wasn’t sure how often they checked their email. Is that OK?!

Laloue233 · 17/11/2023 20:44

In home life I do this - if my elderly mum asks me something I don’t know the answer to (mostly because it’s an out there question!) I’ll email her a link or two, but then have to tell her I have otherwise she won’t check.

CesareBorgia · 17/11/2023 20:47

As an alternative, they could try texting you to tell you they've sent you an email😄

readingmytealeaves · 17/11/2023 21:06

My emails don't appear in my phone in box till hours after they are on my pc or iPad but I can search for the sender if I know they've sent an email and then find the email on my phone before it shows up in my inbox if that makes sense. So a text if I am out with just my phone would potentially be useful to me.

quazical · 17/11/2023 21:14

DietCokeAddict19 · 17/11/2023 13:11

Why do people do this?!

I know you have sent an email - I got a notification for it in the same way I got a notification from the text message you sent to tell me you sent the email!

Drives me insane!!

Some people are rubbish with email, including my 2 sons. If I have an email I want to share with them, I don't forward it, I save it as a pdf and share it to Whatsapp.

I have tried to explain to them that emails are important for things like job applications and bills, but they are convinced email will be phased out by the time they need to worry about such things.

ThatWhiteElephant · 17/11/2023 23:41

My friend has done this because it is very rare for her to send me an email, it didn't seem odd to me!
I check my WhatsApp more regularly than my emails.
I would also do this with my family as I know they are the same.

JenniferJupiterVenusandMars · 18/11/2023 03:41

SerendipityJane · 17/11/2023 14:29

Could be worse. They could phone you.

I've worked with people who would call you to tell you they were sending you an email, then call you when they had sent it, and then call you when they got your reply.

Mind you, it makes up for people and organisations who can "lose" an email.

My sister does this and it really infuriates me!
She writes an email, then texts to say she’s written it then phones to tell me she’s emailed and texted me 😡

betterangels · 18/11/2023 03:51

If people need me to look at emails ASAP, they have to tell me. I don't have notifications, and no one I know outside of my work sends email anymore.

Orangeandgold · 18/11/2023 04:24

Not everyone’s email is connected to their phones and receives a notification.

Also some people are swamped with emails and it’s just another reminder to prioritise their message just incase other things come up.

or it could have a track record of ending up in spam or the other tabs.

WandaWonder · 18/11/2023 04:35

Or you could always send the email then call to ask if they have got the email and when you ask 'when did you send the email?' thinking it was a week or so ago they say 'oh about 20 seconds ago' why do that??????

No I am not expecting an answer, but I get it at work heaps

ithinkthatmaybeimdreaming · 18/11/2023 04:41

I don't recall anyone ever sending me a text to let me know they had sent me an email - didn't even know it was a thing! Nor do I get a notification on my phone - I just frequently check my emails.

JustKen · 18/11/2023 04:50

I never do. An email is like a letter without a stamp, it can sit there for a couple of days before being opened. But then I don't work in an office nor are my communications ever time-sensitive.

I expect texts to be replied to same day, though. Texts are more urgent than email. And phone calls are more urgent than texts. That's the hierarchy I stick to.

TiptoeThroughTheToadstools · 18/11/2023 05:07

I insist on emails for child arrangements with my exh if either of us want to request a temporary change or swap of days. But I know that if I email him he will ignore it, unless I text him to say I have sent an email. I think maybe people like the reassurance of text because of read receipts, last online etc