Page 4 | To be mildly annoyed people abuse BB parking spaces?

Soubriquet · 2023-11-16T15:25:12+00:00

I went out today for the first time in a while. I have a BB and was lucky to be able to get a space since I kept seeing parents parking there and getting out prams. No badges in the windows I was mildly annoyed tbh but I was also a saddened that people feel they can use a blue badge bay without one!

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 16/11/2023 18:47

Sirzy · 16/11/2023 18:45

Ds (14) has a blue badge. The worst place in our experience for people abusing the spaces in the children’s hospital we have to go to regulary. They have rows of about 10 disabled spaces on each floor on the car park and often less than 50% of cars in those spaces have badges on display.

That's terrible. You'd think in a hospital of all places that people might have a bit of consideration for others.

Maybe people justify it to themselves somehow because their dc is sick? It's so thoughtless though.

Neriah · 16/11/2023 18:54

Mintesso · 16/11/2023 17:33

I can see that’s very annoying.

My local supermarket has allocated the 50 spaces nearest the supermarket door as disabled spaces. But this expected army of disabled shoppers never seems to arrive, and they’re always 90% empty. It really annoys me having to park further away and trudging through the rain past all the empty disabled spaces. It was particularly annoying when I had a leg injury for months! I am beginning to wonder if I should just start parking in them. I can see that once you start doing that you’d just give up on respecting reserved spaces anywhere.

Oh dear God. I can quite see your point. It's awful hauling your able-bodied arse through the rain, especially when you're a little bit injured. Please feel free to park in my BB space, because being unable to fucking walk ever, whatever the weather, is no big deal.

I'd like to say what I think of you and your ilk. But I'd be banned...

JanewaysBun · 16/11/2023 18:54

Ive had 2 x non walking babies and never had an issue with using normal spaces/pushchair etc. If youre able bodied yourself then it's just an excuse needing the extra space. I had to keep my car in a car park all the time (flats) and it was literally never an issue.

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 16/11/2023 18:59

I used to like the P&C spaces when dd was small because they were easy to park in and near the shop. I didn't need them though...it was perfectly safe to park in a normal space and I often did if the P&C spaces were full. A little bit more awkward with the pram etc, but no big deal!

That's very different from a disabled person with mobility issues who probably wouldn't be able to park at all without an appropriate space.

Holidayhell22 · 16/11/2023 19:02

Always lots of free BB spaces where I go.
I do think people are getting more selfish. They see it in high up places and think why should I care when nobody else does.

mcdonaldschip · 16/11/2023 19:07

Babyghirl · 16/11/2023 16:52

@Soubriquet
Same as people using p&c spaces with no child, I would park in a bb space if no p&c spaces cause If I don't I have to get my daughter out of the car leave her in her pram while I put car in to the space and do the same get the car out before I can put her in as the spaces are to tight. Do I feel bad about it ni cause my daughters safety is important to me.

Parent and child spaces are a privilege and not a need! Please don't park in bb bays if you don't have a bb. It's incredibly selfish. You can park further away where there are less cars and walk. I, however, can't walk across a car park because some entitled parent thought they could park in a bb bay without a badge because all p&c bays were taken.

MrsAvocet · 16/11/2023 19:16

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 16/11/2023 18:47

That's terrible. You'd think in a hospital of all places that people might have a bit of consideration for others.

Maybe people justify it to themselves somehow because their dc is sick? It's so thoughtless though.

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I think there will be a percentage of people attending hospital who have significant mobility issues but not a blue badge and it is a difficult position to be in. I'm not sure what the answer is, as given how many people abuse spaces where you do need a blue badge, I can't imagine how spaces for the temporarily disabled could be policed, but there probably should be some kind of provision for the temporarily disabled at least in hospitals and other health care settings.
As I said upthread, I have been either in a wheelchair on on crutches for just over 3 months now and probably have several more months to go, but I can't get a blue badge. Were I this immobile permanently I have absolutely no doubt I'd be entitled to use disabled spaces. But currently I am not, and I haven't done so, but it is making my life pretty difficult. For most of my hospital appointments my DH chucks me out as close to the door as he can then leaves me whilst he finds a space to park, but that can leave me waiting on my own for half an hour or more - you couldn't really do that if you were a single parent bringing an immobile child for an appointment. I'd actually probably have more sympathy with the parent of a sick or injured child using a disabled space in a hospital carpark than just about anyone else.

DaftyInTheMiddle · 16/11/2023 19:16

It really annoys me having to park further away and trudging through the rain past all the empty disabled spaces.
I mean the hyperbole is slightly ridiculous, it’s hardly like a cross country slog, it’s a 30 second walk across a paved car park, how lazy do you need to be?!

I bet it really annoys disabled people when they can’t even get out their car to do a shop because some fanny has parked in it because she doesn’t understand the concept of a waterproof coat.

Catch2222 · 16/11/2023 19:19

We have BB for my mother who is blind and immobile. I recently
Couldn't get a BB spot so I parked in a mother and baby spot as the wide access is really what we need. I took dogs abuse from two women unloading babies from the car beside me.
Despite seeing the difficulties I was having.

Maybe we all need to be a
Little kinder.

mcdonaldschip · 16/11/2023 19:20

My local Tesco is horrendous. So many people park in the bb bays without a badge. If they're all full, we park in front of the cars with no bb and put mine up, with the excuse of "oh, we'll only be 5 minutes" if they confront us as that's usually people's excuses to park in them.

I actually complained to Tesco about it as it has been so bad for so long. I don't think they'll do anything about it though, annoyingly.

backtowinter · 16/11/2023 19:23

Lilclover · 16/11/2023 16:18

This is a real bug bearer of mine!! Happens a lot with Parent and baby parking spaces too. I have a 6 month old and I have had at least 10 arguments at our local Tesco alone with people who have no baby and park in those spaces. Same as BB spaces they have additional space relative to a standard space specifically for wheelchairs etc etc.

with the baby parking I’ve gotten into the habit of thanking people for being so lazy that they put my child at risk (from having to be put in their pram at the back of the car in a standard spot rather than being able to use the designated baby aisles at the side). People are usually either narky or embarrassed.

Not remotely the same thing

backtowinter · 16/11/2023 19:25

Babyghirl · 16/11/2023 16:52

@Soubriquet
Same as people using p&c spaces with no child, I would park in a bb space if no p&c spaces cause If I don't I have to get my daughter out of the car leave her in her pram while I put car in to the space and do the same get the car out before I can put her in as the spaces are to tight. Do I feel bad about it ni cause my daughters safety is important to me.

Wow

Unless you're drip feeding that your daughter needs a blue badge

greengreengrass25 · 16/11/2023 19:29

Catch2222 · 16/11/2023 19:19

We have BB for my mother who is blind and immobile. I recently
Couldn't get a BB spot so I parked in a mother and baby spot as the wide access is really what we need. I took dogs abuse from two women unloading babies from the car beside me.
Despite seeing the difficulties I was having.

Maybe we all need to be a
Little kinder.

Totally agree

I don't understand people parking in disabled parking without a badge

It's dishonest and selfish

CuboidsAndSpheres · 16/11/2023 19:32

Catch2222 · 16/11/2023 19:19

We have BB for my mother who is blind and immobile. I recently
Couldn't get a BB spot so I parked in a mother and baby spot as the wide access is really what we need. I took dogs abuse from two women unloading babies from the car beside me.
Despite seeing the difficulties I was having.

Maybe we all need to be a
Little kinder.

Awful. How much of a prick do you have to be to abuse a blind woman and her dd. Sorry you have to encounter such people, hopefully their children don't end up like them

EveryKneeShallBow · 16/11/2023 19:32

soashamedd · 16/11/2023 17:30

It’s not too bad in my area and whilst blue badge spaces can sometimes be hard to come across most people have a badge displayed.

However I had a hospital apt a few days ago at a massive hospital with multiple car parks. We got there early as we knew parking would be a nightmare as always is at hospitals. Not a single car park space available in the hospital at all, we drove around for 25 minutes looking. All disabled spaces taken and about 80% of them with no badge. Ended up having to drive out of the hospital and park on double yellows on a street next door which was a nightmare.

I have been visiting my local hospital for regular appointments for 11 years. Including with my husband before he died. I always have to arrange for another driver to come with me because I have never once, ever seen a parking space in any of the car parks. Neither bb spaces nor general ones. Genuinely, never once. The nearest streets are residents only and the nearest spaces are too far for me to be able to walk. I once went there at 8pm, because I accidentally left something behind. There were still no spaces.

brokenhearted2 · 16/11/2023 19:35

@HouseonAshTreeLane BB holders have every right to use P&C spaces
But being disabled doesn't absolve you of all reasonable behaviour. If there are several BB spaces empty, why would they use a P&C space thus unnecessarily making life difficult for a parent .

HouseonAshTreeLane · 16/11/2023 19:43

brokenhearted2 · 16/11/2023 19:35

@HouseonAshTreeLane BB holders have every right to use P&C spaces
But being disabled doesn't absolve you of all reasonable behaviour. If there are several BB spaces empty, why would they use a P&C space thus unnecessarily making life difficult for a parent .

Maybe it's closer? Or all the BB spaces were full when they got there and have since emptied, or they have a child with them.

Sirzy · 16/11/2023 19:43

brokenhearted2 · 16/11/2023 19:35

@HouseonAshTreeLane BB holders have every right to use P&C spaces
But being disabled doesn't absolve you of all reasonable behaviour. If there are several BB spaces empty, why would they use a P&C space thus unnecessarily making life difficult for a parent .

I will park in the best space to allow Ds to safely access where we are going. In most places that will be a disabled space, some places however are badly designed. They have P and C spaces nearer to the shop than disabled, or have disabled spaces position without a safe walking route. In those cases I will display his blue badge and park happily in a P and C space.

PhantomUnicorn · 16/11/2023 19:47

i was on one of these threads a couple of months back, and pointed out i was disabled but didn't have a blue badge, so parked in the P&C spaces.

That thread actually gave me the courage to apply for one through the council, and i got one. (had to have a full medical and physio assessment to get it)

Having it is making my life SO much easier. But No, having Kids is NOT on a par with being disabled, ever.

TomeTome · 16/11/2023 19:49

brokenhearted2 · 16/11/2023 19:35

@HouseonAshTreeLane BB holders have every right to use P&C spaces
But being disabled doesn't absolve you of all reasonable behaviour. If there are several BB spaces empty, why would they use a P&C space thus unnecessarily making life difficult for a parent .

Because ds has difficulty crossing roads and moving too far across pavements so the closer we are the more likely we are to get to where we need to be. Honestly when he was in a double buggy with his twin and I had another baby in a carrier it was STILL possible for us to use normal parking spaces.

Ratfinkstinkypink · 16/11/2023 19:53

brokenhearted2 · 16/11/2023 19:35

@HouseonAshTreeLane BB holders have every right to use P&C spaces
But being disabled doesn't absolve you of all reasonable behaviour. If there are several BB spaces empty, why would they use a P&C space thus unnecessarily making life difficult for a parent .

Because in one local car park we use, the P&C spaces are on the floor we want to be on whereas the BB spaces mean several floors in a lift (and my child hates lifts), BB holders get free parking provided a badge is displayed. What you wouldn't know from seeing my BB is that the holder is 3 so is entitled to use BB or P&C spaces, you would just see a car with a badge in a P&C space.

SuellensResignationLetter · 16/11/2023 19:53

brokenhearted2 · 16/11/2023 19:35

@HouseonAshTreeLane BB holders have every right to use P&C spaces
But being disabled doesn't absolve you of all reasonable behaviour. If there are several BB spaces empty, why would they use a P&C space thus unnecessarily making life difficult for a parent .

Because the p and c spaces are next to the entrance of our local supermarket and the bb spaces are around to the side. It's the difference between me being able to shop or not.

Jux · 16/11/2023 19:54

PhantomUnicorn That thread actually gave me the courage to apply for one through the council, and i got one. (had to have a full medical and physio assessment to get it)

Good!

It's not like they just hand out BBs willy nilky. They DO require proof that you actually need it; if you see someone displaying a BB who can walk, you can bet your life that there's another problem - BUT it's none of your business. Abusing BBs is not common. Yeah, some people do but to mist people they are a very precious resource which is guarded carefully.

My BB lives in my handbag. I'm not a driver so rely on dh to drive me anywhere. If I'm with him, he'll use a disabled space (assuming there is one) but if I'm not with him he wouldn't dream of doing it even if he's going somewhere entirely for my benefit.

Flopsythebunny · 16/11/2023 20:00

Lilclover · 16/11/2023 16:18

This is a real bug bearer of mine!! Happens a lot with Parent and baby parking spaces too. I have a 6 month old and I have had at least 10 arguments at our local Tesco alone with people who have no baby and park in those spaces. Same as BB spaces they have additional space relative to a standard space specifically for wheelchairs etc etc.

with the baby parking I’ve gotten into the habit of thanking people for being so lazy that they put my child at risk (from having to be put in their pram at the back of the car in a standard spot rather than being able to use the designated baby aisles at the side). People are usually either narky or embarrassed.

Blue badge spaces are not comparable to parent & child spaces

Flopsythebunny · 16/11/2023 20:23

Babyghirl · 16/11/2023 16:52

@Soubriquet
Same as people using p&c spaces with no child, I would park in a bb space if no p&c spaces cause If I don't I have to get my daughter out of the car leave her in her pram while I put car in to the space and do the same get the car out before I can put her in as the spaces are to tight. Do I feel bad about it ni cause my daughters safety is important to me.

You are either stupid or selfish