It's my birthday today and nearly everyone forgot

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Feel really sad and need to vent..

It's my birthday today and the only one who wished me a happy birthday was my eldest son - he is 13.

My husband forgot and I had to remind him - he did apologise. Just saw my mum and she didn't say happy birthday - my own mum.

Im on AL and all the kids at school and I'm in bed alone crying. AIBU to feel sad that everyone forgot.

I make everyone's birthday special, I'm not really bothered I don't have any presents, but not even a card from anyone or wishing me a happy birthday. Ive spent the last 3 birthdays on my own - I just feel sad 😔

Happy Birthday 🎂 🥳 🎉 🎈 🎁 🎊

I'm so sorry 😞

Happy birthday!!

It's shit when people forget! Hope you manage to have a lovely day x

Happy birthday Op. the day is not over, I hope it gets better for you xx

OP I’m so sorry and Happy Birthday.

Now what I need you to do, is get up! Have a lovely shower, get dressed and then you need to take yourself out to a lovely cafe and have a nice cup of tea and an enormous piece of cake. Take your book, treat yourself to a magazine, have a nice walk.

Put as much effort into making your day special as you do for others, you really deserve it.

Happy birthday 💐

dry your eyes, and do something special today. Have a long soak in the tub then go shopping and treat yourself. Or just put on your comfy and slob all day. Send out tonight .

you never know, maybe they have something arranged for later xx

Oh bless you! I won’t say Happy Birthday, I will say next year you need to extend your plans a bit. Tell DH you’re taking the day off. Remind him that someone needs to organise something and that it won’t be you.
Your mum may have forgotten in the moment without actually forgetting if you see what I mean. I can know the date but be busy doing something and momentarily forget.

Happy birthday, OP. If any of your friends would be free, ring and see if they could go out with you. Whether they can or not, give yourself a special treat today.
And well done DS who remembered!

Happy Birthday OP!

I'm so sorry your family and friends haven't made any effort, your DH and especially DM is very hurtful Please get yourself up and dressed in a lovely outfit - hit the shops / cinema / restaurant and enjoy a day spoiling YOU

Happy Birthday OP!! 🥳🎂🎁

I would take yourself off somewhere nice and treat yourself, and leave them all to it for the day!

Happy birthday!!!

Spend your day doing something you love, even if it’s on your own. For me, this would be drinking cocktails from 11am and making sure I was sober enough by the time the school run came along.

What would make your day that little bit more special? You have 5-6 hours to do it!

Do you not discuss with your husband and kids what you’d like to do for your birthday in the weeks or days leading up to it? Or at least mention your birthday if they don’t in the days before?

I never really understand how this happens. It’s my birthday soon, a couple of weeks ago I said ‘I fancy trying that new restaurant on my birthday’. Other years my partner has asked what I fancy doing or one of my friends have mentioned it and it’s started a discussion.

No wonder you are upset, that's terrible. Did you and your DH not talk about today being your birthday?

I'm sorry OP. That must feel a bit rubbish. But it can be a temporary rubbish. It's my birthday too.... Happy birthday to us! It's a very low-key one for me but I've also got the day off and am going to enjoy just having some time to myself and doing my own thing.

Do precisely what you feel like today! And after a bit of a sad start, I hope you do have a happy birthday xx

Happy birthday!
put on something dressy and go and have a lovely piece of cake somewhere and then go into a florist and ask them to make you an arrangement of what you want.

Then another day decide how your relationship is as forgetting it’s your birthday is beyond unforgiving bf and shit behaviour.

but go and spend sometime and money on you

It can make you feel like crap when those closest to you forget about your birthday, happy birthday to you I say go and do something you enjoy, spoil yourself its your day make it all about you f**k anyone else apologies for the language

Happy birthday to you.

my birthday is very close to Christmas so I tend to get forgotten about.

Get up, get dressed and treat yourself. Staying in bed is going to make you feel worse

Thank you everyone for the birthday wishes.

Everyone should know it's my birthday, because it was my daughter's birthday yesterday. So I don't even know how they would forget. I don't really do much for my birthday anyway, just a little cake at home.

I absolutely sympathise and have definitely been there. It's a weird shift in dynamic becoming the mum everyone takes for granted, and frankly forgets about. My dh is bloody useless on this. It would be nice if they all made as much effort as you do, but it's clearly not on their radar and that's not because they don't love you.
My suggestion for you is to not expect anything from your family without constant reminders. I'm not even that bothered about my birthday, but it does upset me feeling like they don't care. Your mum forgetting is different. She can sort herself out. Maybe wait until you're not upset and advise her to put in in her diary due next year.
I haven't nailed it yet, but I am pragmatic on it and having worked out what I want from my birthdayI do the following.
I give DC £10 each a week or two before my birthday so they can buy me a card and something small.
I go on about it a bit a week or two in advance and pretend to be very excited so DH actually remembers.
I mention to dh that I will be wanting a card at the very least
If there is a present I want I will send dh a link to it, then chase him up and offer to buy it myself if he's too busy. Then I give it to him to 'wrap'.

I book a restaurant or a takeaway.
There us no birthday magic, no surprises, but it's not forgotten. Giving the kids £10 is actually v cute because they get quite funny things.
That said, happy birthday.

@Deliaskis happy birthday to you!! I hope your day is going better than mine 🥴

That's shitty of them all...I'd be upset too.

Happy birthday!

Can you treat yourself to something nice today?

I'm sorry - happy birthday!

This won't make you feel any better - but my mother forgot my birthday once. I was NINE.

NINE!

Next year do what I do and remind everyone daily that it's my birthday in a fortnight/next week/ a few days ...

I'm shit at remembering birthdays so make sure I remind everyone about mine.

If I had a partner I'd make sure they didn't have a chance to forget! :)

I text out my birthday list to the kids. Which could include

• hours worth of gardening
•breakfast in bed
• favourite perfume
• candle

But sorry OP do think you're being a bit of a martyr about it.

Saying that it is pretty shitty of your mum to forget though.

But Happy Birthday anyway.

Thank you everyone for the kick up the bum, which I needed. I live in the heart of London so I will be going to a fancy cafe and I'm going to royal exchange to spend some money on myself. I will be going to spend sometime enjoying my day, even if everyone has forgotten.

That's really shit and I understand how you feel cos I've been there. I remember everyone's birthday and my own dad says "happy birthday" a month after my actual birthday and I'm 56. Whilst it's not good enough...and you deserve better...have you noticed how many adults talk about their birthday in advance? Lots. I may be a cynic but I think it's a reminder to us all so their birthday isnt "forgotten".

I had a melt down a couple of years ago over this...how I remember everyone else and really remind them how special they are to me, I felt I wasnt afforded the same level of love. I said we remember what's important to us and if we don't then we put a reminder on our phone! Next birthday could not have been more different but that doesn't help you today, so, how about arranging your own lovely day? Get dressed in something that makes you feel good, get yourself into town, take yourself for a lovely lunch and buy yourself some lovely things that you wish other people had picked out for you! Buy some wine or whatever it is you drink, flowers, some nice chocolates/snacks and go home and put your feet up and enjoy a film/book or whatever you love to do. I really hope that despite your family you have a lovely, lovely birthday!

Go on OP that's the spirit! enjoy your day happy birthday once again