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It's my birthday today and nearly everyone forgot

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hitmebabyonemoretime21 · 16/11/2023 09:05

Feel really sad and need to vent..

It's my birthday today and the only one who wished me a happy birthday was my eldest son - he is 13.

My husband forgot and I had to remind him - he did apologise. Just saw my mum and she didn't say happy birthday - my own mum.

Im on AL and all the kids at school and I'm in bed alone crying. AIBU to feel sad that everyone forgot.

I make everyone's birthday special, I'm not really bothered I don't have any presents, but not even a card from anyone or wishing me a happy birthday. Ive spent the last 3 birthdays on my own - I just feel sad 😔

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hitmebabyonemoretime21 · 16/11/2023 15:14

Comvit · 16/11/2023 13:48

Happy birthday, OP. I'm glad you've treated yourself and a meal out with your son sounds lovely.

I'm positive everyone has forgotten but is there, at all, an outside chance they're planning something lovely as a surprise this evening?

This happened to a friend of mine - she called me on her birthday morning crying that everyone had forgotten even though she always made everyone else's birthdays special. She even talked about leaving her DP. All the while I knew her family had a lovely surprise evening planned for her. God, that was an absolutely excruciating phone call.

They definitely not planning anything. H is working till 9pm, I've been on my own all day. I went and bought myself a birthday cake when I was out, then my mum decided to call me wish me a happy birthday, she asked what I got up to when I went out and said return your cake I've just bought you one 😕

Wow that's lovely, what a nice surprise that turned into - I bet she was over the moon!

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hitmebabyonemoretime21 · 16/11/2023 15:20

fishfingersandtoes · 16/11/2023 15:02

Happy birthday! How about some cake and day drinking? IME if you want people to remember your birthday you have to remind them. Have a text round your mates and see if they fancy a meal or a drink

@fishfingersandtoes I texted my husband yesterday while he was at work to remind him. I said something along the lines of I'm the birthday girl tomorrow, he then replied 'yeah, you'll be 3 years older than me' - so he knew.

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hitmebabyonemoretime21 · 16/11/2023 15:21

LuciaPillson · 16/11/2023 11:11

OP of course you shouldn't be forgotten. Hugs to you.

As for making the date memorable to your loved ones, have you taken @GrumpyPanda's advice and read this thread about the birthday girl who took matters into her own hands? It's absolutely worth reading the entire thread, as it starts out slow but then becomes amazing. Most of us probably wouldn't do this but damn it was fun reading about somebody who did.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4918707-shit-birthday?page=1

@LuciaPillson amazing!! That woman is my spirit animal, I wish I could do that, it would cause to much chaos 🥴

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fishfingersandtoes · 16/11/2023 15:27

hitmebabyonemoretime21 · 16/11/2023 15:20

@fishfingersandtoes I texted my husband yesterday while he was at work to remind him. I said something along the lines of I'm the birthday girl tomorrow, he then replied 'yeah, you'll be 3 years older than me' - so he knew.

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Wow! Well that's different, he didn't forget he was just really callous about it. I'd call him out on that. I hope you have a nice day/evening out to yourself and leave him on his own!

BeetleDeuce · 16/11/2023 15:48

hitmebabyonemoretime21 · 16/11/2023 10:52

@BeetleDeuce I mentioned it to my husband over text yesterday and I would never forgot my children's birthday. My daughter's birthday was yesterday, so not really any excuse for my own mum - she celebrated with us.

Tbh I shouldn't have to mention it to anyone, I understand people can be shit with dates and what not. However, I've never forgotten anyone's birthday and I make it very special for them - going all out. My 13 DS was the only person to not forget. I'm not asking for anything, just a little sad they didn't wish me a happy birthday and be forgotten.

I do hope you’ve managed to redeem the day and enjoy it anyway! Happy birthday! X

sashh · 17/11/2023 05:47

How was your meal with your son? I hope you both had fun.

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