It's my birthday today and nearly everyone forgot

[hitmebabyonemoretime21]

Feel really sad and need to vent..

It's my birthday today and the only one who wished me a happy birthday was my eldest son - he is 13.

My husband forgot and I had to remind him - he did apologise. Just saw my mum and she didn't say happy birthday - my own mum.

Im on AL and all the kids at school and I'm in bed alone crying. AIBU to feel sad that everyone forgot.

I make everyone's birthday special, I'm not really bothered I don't have any presents, but not even a card from anyone or wishing me a happy birthday. Ive spent the last 3 birthdays on my own - I just feel sad 😔

Happy birthday, birthday twin 🥳🥳🥳

Happy birthday 🥳 🎉🎂!!

Make sure you have a GREAT DAY!!!

Happy birthday - go have the most marvellous day!
Do not cook dinner tonight the family can fend for themselves.
Make sure you have a glass of champers, some chocolate and buy yourself something amazing!
Have a great day

Thank you 🙂 x

Just to say I once forgot my partner’s birthday and nearly forgot my gran’s- 2 of the people I love most in the world. Only happened once and totally shit on my part, but it didn’t mean I didn’t love them. So yes, treat yourself and maybe drop some heavy hints next time but try not to read too much in to it.

Happy birthday!
It's horrible when this happens.
I've learned the hard way that you need to celebrate your own day, make it special for yourself. Keep expectations of others low so anything is a bonus.

@hitmebabyonemoretime21 Happy Birthday! Let this also be the anniversary of putting yourself first! You should definitely continue to make a fuss of your children’s birthdays, but everyone else who forgot? For the next year at least when it’s their Birthdays scale back the fuss (and spending) and make a fuss of yourself instead. You are about to have the best year 😉

I'm so pleased to read this update. It is properly shit that no-one else has done anything to celebrate but celebrating yourself is an excellent way to spend the day. I'm single, with a birthday at an awkward time of year, so can often be by myself on the day and make sure I spoil myself rotten - my fave food and drink, take myself to a matinee or exhibition, buy myself something shiny. That's what today should be all about, you treating yourself like a queen. Happy Birthday and have a fabulous day.
Tomorrow is the time to then think about how you make sure by next year everyone is fully aware of the importance of you and your birthday.

Totally agree! Not mentioning it seems like a test for everyone. Well, they failed. Just mention it next time and plan a nice day!

Happy Birthday!
So as the adults in your family have made it clear they don't celebrate birthdays you can take whatever you were intending to spend on your mum and DP and take yourself out for the day, I recommend a nice cake shop.

Happy Birthday OP. Glad you are giving yourself a day out and a treat.
Don't forget your lovely DS aged 13 remembered and wished you happy birthday. Enjoy your day and make a resolution to put yourself first a lot more.

Happy birthday OP.
I hope you have a lovely day. My close friends from uni always ignore my birthday and it really hurts. We always used to celebrate them together.
If I knew your husband I'd be giving him a kick up the arse. There is no excuse. As you say, you don't want a big fuss, but a cake and a nice meal as a family is the least he can do.

@BeetleDeuce I mentioned it to my husband over text yesterday and I would never forgot my children's birthday. My daughter's birthday was yesterday, so not really any excuse for my own mum - she celebrated with us.

Tbh I shouldn't have to mention it to anyone, I understand people can be shit with dates and what not. However, I've never forgotten anyone's birthday and I make it very special for them - going all out. My 13 DS was the only person to not forget. I'm not asking for anything, just a little sad they didn't wish me a happy birthday and be forgotten.

Happy birthday 🎂 💐

That is bloody unforgiveable. The problem is that they all take you for granted. You make a big fuss on their birthday yet they forget yours. Stop making a big fuss of them on their birthday, let them feel how bad you feel today. By them i mean your Husband, Mother and any friends that haven't bothered. Happy birthday, go and spoil yourself, you deserve it.💜

I really don't understand how a mother could forget the day she gave birth!

Happy birthday op, I hope you have a lovely evening later with cake at least.x

I share a birthday with one of my children, and I always get lost in the celebrations for him. I make a big effort to decorate the house and have all the presents ready and a big cake. Usually around mid-afternoon someone will remember it is also my birthday too, and suggest I get to blow out the candles for a second go (on the cake I bought/made/decorated)

I have been told I should ask for what I want, or suggest things to do on my birthday, but it does feel uncomfortable, I guess I just want one of them (looking at you dp) to surprise me or something. It hurts! hope you manage to salvage the day for yourself OP x

OP of course you shouldn't be forgotten. Hugs to you.

As for making the date memorable to your loved ones, have you taken @GrumpyPanda's advice and read this thread about the birthday girl who took matters into her own hands? It's absolutely worth reading the entire thread, as it starts out slow but then becomes amazing. Most of us probably wouldn't do this but damn it was fun reading about somebody who did.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4918707-shit-birthday?page=1

Happy Birthday 🎂 💐 That's really thoughtless of your family and I'd be hurt too, I hope you get chance to spoil yourself today x

Happy birthday @hitmebabyonemoretime21 I hope that you have a great afternoon and do something that you enjoy.

Happy birthday op and Deliaskis, hope you both spoil yourselves today, even if no-one else does! 🍰🎂🍷

If I were you, I’d be taking your lovely son out for dinner tonight to celebrate, on your husbands credit card! 😀 Im not joking either.

Happy birthday!

Happy birthday! Buy yourself something lovely and give your family a kick up the bum.
It’s by birthday shortly and I’ve just bought myself a huge bunch of flowers!

Happy birthday, take yourself out for tea & cake if you can, buy yourself a small treat.

Happy birthday!
Next year make sure your husband books a day of annual leave to take you out for lunch. If your birthday falls on the weekend do it on the Friday.

Text your husband - "I would like you to pick me up a birthday cake on the way home please (specify if you want chocolate or Victoria sponge). Don't worry about food we are getting a birthday takeaway"

Yes in an ideal world your husband would make an effort without needing to be asked - in the real world he might need a nudge in the right direction. Tell him.next year it would be nice if he marked your birthday without needing to be asked. Yes you want a cake/flowers/ a nice meal.