To keep school mums at a distance

[Whattherass]

They say hello one day the next completely blanked.. Why are some school mums like this?

Yes I am a school Mum: a quiet school Mum who keeps her head fully down but is very observant.

Who mentioned superiority? I certainly didn’t.

I am talking about the ones in my child’s class that I have seen and know of, for goodness sake. Not the entire school 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Would you be upset if women with children didn't smile & say hello to you in the supermarket, library, pub, swimming pool?. It's not really any different we're all there because it's somewhere we need to be at a certain time.

Do you mean women with children? All of them or just when they have a school age child?

I assume you don't have children or if you did that you home educated

How does that even work, do we all have a personality transplant when a child starts reception?

I’m like this. Just depends on my social battery as to how chatty I am. Nothing to do with the other person. Maybe it’s similar in your case. Everyone at school drop off has their own things going on I’m sure. It’s unlikely to be an intended personal slight. I agree with others though not to get het up about it. Most are not true close friends and that’s fine, they’re just acquaintance with the school/children in common at the moment.

i think it’s easier to attack than to just accept that they aren’t even thinking about you.

I think you’re right. If I see one of my friends in the playground I’ll go and chat to them. Sometimes I won’t have seen them for weeks and it’s a good chance for a catch up. I’m not purposefully ignoring the other 300 parents standing there.

I find it super rude when folk I'm on speaking terms with me blank me. A smile costs nothing as they say.

It's quite eye opening to me that some people think this is ok behaviour!

Obviously it’s rude to ignore someone waving or talking to you. My sense is that most people feel ignored actually when other people haven’t seen them or are tired/distracted and aren’t overly making conversation with them. Those are quite different things and I don’t believe there are that many people that actively ignore people. I think it’s more that’s how people perceive the actions of others. Anyway everyone has different capacities/abilities in managing social situations. Again I think there are only very few people who actively set out to be rude or unkind.

My DD will do this I'm sure when she becomes a mum. She is very polite and friendly but is face blind. She literally wouldn''t know if she's spoken to you before or not. She's embarrassed by the condition and doesn't tell people about it until she knows them well..

So your a cold and unfriendly loner but also rubberneck-y and super judgmental of others. You then go around calling the bitches and moaning they dont include you despite you actively trying not to be included.

Jeez I wonder why the other mothers dont warm to you.

If you 'keep your head' down you mind your own business, thats litrally what it means. You clearly do the opposite of that... you stand their seething, judging and brooding at women who are keeping their heads or just being cordial with others.

@Thatwasbanging

You say some days you say a quick hi and bye and some days you don't bother which is what the OP is complaining about so maybe this thread is about you.

You say the other mums in your child's class as cliquey and bitchy? What do they do? If your head's down in the playground it's clear you don't want to talk to them. Does this mean they can't talk to each other too?

So women who speak to each other are ALL cliquey and bitchy? We are Bad People if we deign to speak to other people in the playground rather than ‘keeping our head down’

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