Apologies @bingbongbang23 , I don’t mean to be unnecessarily harsh with you. But I do get frustrated when I hear very fortunate well off people complaining that they don’t get to use and benefit from the system that is really only meant to help those who absolutely need it.
You’re right, on paper there isn’t a parity between those who earn over £100k and those who earn much much less, or between households where the earnings are much higher on total, without either person breaking the £100k threshold individually. You’re right, on paper this isn’t “fair”.
but I think you need to realise that this is splitting hairs, and that neither you nor the households earning more than you but who are still able to claim are really the intended recipients of the vital help the free childcare system gives to those who really do need it.
so when you start to not only complain about that, but also try to make some wider point (using words usually used by very angry conservatives who resent the benefits system full stop, and equate earnings to talent and merit rather than a socio-political and education system that is rigged from birth and always has the same winners and losers in life) about you not being rewarded for working hard. Or punished because you work hard. Well, that’s hard for me to stay silent about.
I think you just need to have a little more humility about it, and a little more empathy for those for whom the childcare hours are a lifeline, and their ONLY opportunity to not only work and maintain some sort of work life, but in many cases their only ability to have children at all. Whether you want to reduce a few hours of your £100k a year job to be able to get “the same” is sort of neither here nor there.
In an ideal world everyone would universally have the same access to help, but since our benefits system is in dire straits, massively underfunded and being cut daily - mostly disadvantaging the poorest, the least physically able, the mentally unwell and the people who are unable to find decently paid stable work, then I think you calling for parity for those earning more than most of us will dream of, all To funded by extra taxes we all have to pay, is pretty tone deaf.
sorry.