How old is too old for baby #3?

[OohIdreameditagain]

How old is too old for ttc baby #3?

Id love another child, but can’t realistically ttc for another 6/7 months due my company Mat
policy but I’m a bit concerned about leaving it too late.

how old is too old for number 3?

For me personally it was 40... I had my only child at 39

i Have literally said up thread that I have been diagnosed yes, many years ago but I’ve seen other drs and gynaes since that have cast aspersions on that original diagnosis as my last scan didn’t show multi follicular ovaries.

why are you getting snitty and crying unfairness because my diagnosis doesn’t fit the typical symptoms.

i got diagnosed off my LH and fsh ratio and irregular cycles this was apparently backed up by and amh of 46

What's your AIBU?

Is it that you have to wait until you can take more time off work as maternity leave?

Is it that you think 35 is too old to have another baby?

Oh dear. So sorry for not reading every single one of your posts, especially the latest one.

I think most posters don't trawl through every post and could read your ones from yesterday where you say you have no health conditions.

Maybe get this moved to a pregnancy or TTC part of MN because it's not really AIBU, is it?

You are just upsetting some women up who aren't as lucky as you to have had 2 children by 34. It comes over as a bit insensitive.

More is waiting 6+ months to ttc for a 3rd a 35 realistic, will it take longer at my age / at 35? Will I feel worse? You read a lot about 35 being THE age and bam then your high risk and a geriatric pregnancy. I know a lot of women have kids in their mid 30s but is it actually a lot harder than it seems

years ago I put 35 as the number I’d be finished by but I didn’t have my 1st until basically 30 due to it taking about 8 months (periods of extreme stress)

you can click read all on the OP rather than ‘trawl’.

pcos for me doesn’t exactly feel like a health condition because it doesn’t really impact my day to day life but it does worry me in the background of waiting to ttc.

I wouldn't recommend being menopausal with teenagers in the house.

Due to family circumstances I had my second and last child at 36 - previously I would have said 35 was my cutoff and even that felt not ideal to me personally and I sometimes feel a bit on the old side when I consider how old I’ll be as a granny if my dd has hers at the same age.

In a perfect world I’d have had children in late twenties and have been done by 30 but life isn’t perfect and I wouldn’t consider anything up to 42 ish an unusually older mum.

If you're only 34 I'd leave it a good couple of years before trying for another. The elder two will hopefully be sleeping well and so will you and husband.

Posts like this are really insensitive.

Many women have no choice. They don't have a partner 'in time'.

My Mum had my sister at 37. That was an economic decision as they needed to move to a bigger house, so waited.

@OohIdreameditagain I don't know what you hope to gain from your thread. You've said that for financial and career reasons you can't TTC for another 6 months by which time you will be 35.

So that's how it is.

No one can tell you if you will conceive or how long it will take.

Just be happy you have 2 healthy children, a good career, and lots of good things in your life. Many women aren't so lucky.

OP- the world is in dire straits and the children brought into this world are facing a hellscape of slavery, fires, drought, volcanoes, animal extinction, overpopulation, unnatainable housing, and being forced to work 3 jobs just to survive. Don’t you love your unborn offspring enough to not bring them into this dark ages suffering? Do you love your unborn children enough to sacrifice your own wants and needs…. And never bring them here to begin with? They will suffer. No gen Z will ever be able to buy a shitty 1 bedroom unit. But you already brought 2 innocent souls into this and you are trying to bring more? Lord Jesus Forgive Them for they know not what they do. So Selfish.

Luckily they sleep soundly now but I don’t know about a few years, that would be 36 before ttc and 37 at birth. Dh had a few sperm test when our first took longer than 6 months and he had some variable parameters, so that’s on my mind too. It didn’t seem to impact things too much with #1 and #2 but it does play on my mind

It’s all relative though, life circumstances, like when/if you meet the right man, how healthy your fertility is, money, housing etc. loads of things.
it’s not an exact science.

I'm 35 and just trying to conceive number 2 and I'll be 36 when it's born.
My lo will be 5, not what I had originally wanted but life happened in between and I knew mentally I was not ready to have another until about 6 months ago.
It won't be perfect because nothing is, but it's what I've decided to go for having taken into account all the personal factors of my life, such as mental and physical health, financial circumstances, health of relationship and personality&happiness of first child- everyone else's circumstances are completely different to mine so they will have completely different opinions and options. To me this timing feels right so I'm going for it!
I hope it you feel your life's circumstances are right at this time and your body is healthy enough to go for it that you have a wonderful pregnancy

Erm ok.

climate Change and extinction yes fair enough and we do try to do our part there but I understand that argument.

houses and property we’re ok thanks. We’ve got other houses in the family already mortgage free rented out. We’ll approach the bank to mortgage them on a BTL basis and gift the equity to the dcs as a deposit for a house if they don’t want the actual house itself. We just work the one job, not 3. We’re in a fortunate position

@IslandsInTheSunshine I didn't have the choice either. I still wouldn't recommend it. The OP asked for opinions, this is mine from my own personal experience. Sorry if it offended you.

🤣🤣

Have you got that lot on a billboard?

It’s no-one else’s business but yours really. Do what is right for you and your situation. Obviously the risks increase as you get older but many women have pregnancies which are healthy. Best wishes to you whatever you decide.

Thanks for not disappointing with that trope 😀i knew it would be along somner or later

Ive just turned 34, am pregnant with number 3 and I've really felt it this time. I don't think I could do it any older to be honest but we're all different aren't we

Another of these posts? Search the chats and you will find a zillion previously answered posts. Bottom line everyone is different. No one knows your health, fitness, financial and emotional security or any of the other circumstances that would need to be taken into consideration by anyone deciding to have another child. You can be a good or crap parent at any age. Circumstances are more important than age.

Over 35 I would say.

@VisionsOfSplendour Thanks, I'd hate to be disappointing.

I've had my 2nd at 35 and felt much older than last time and won't have more. But everyone is different, I wouldn't think it's that unusual to have a 3rd in early 40s

Jeez, of course you're not too old.

I'm struggling not to roll my eyes.

Do you both want another, are you in good health, are you financially stable and could you afford another child. These are all more important than your age.