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To ask how do "make" a child do something?

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littlegoblins · 13/11/2023 19:00

My child has got into their siblings bed and is refusing to move, other sibling is waiting to go to bed but they won't get out, I've asked sternly and they say no everytime I say get in your own bed.
Actually other child would probably swap beds for the night to stop all this but I don't want them to always back down to a child that is disobedient. Child in question is just 6. Sibling is an older 6, nearly 7.

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bellac11 · 13/11/2023 21:54

SpringPen · 13/11/2023 20:13

It won't be confusing. Child is 6 and old enough to understand that their defiant behaviour the previous evening has meant no playdate the following day.

It will, playdate is weekend, its Monday today

Mamette · 13/11/2023 21:55

Coyoacan · 13/11/2023 20:33

I think there are more mental health issues for children who find out that the adults in their lives are not in control

Yes I agree with you @Coyoacan

The other child is only 6 too, what messages is she getting when mum can’t get her own bed back for her, and her younger sibling gets to displace her?

littlegoblins · 13/11/2023 22:53

Just checked on them on my way to bed, both fast asleep looking like butter wouldn't melt.

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Goldbar · 13/11/2023 22:55

It's funny how much you love them when they're asleep 😂.

Traceability · 18/11/2023 09:32

RedRobyn2021 · 13/11/2023 20:18

Ironically the OP resolved the problem with the help of her partner talking to the child.

That's right talking, you bunch of weirdos. Why don't you try talking to your children and deal with your own issues.

This. I was just about to say. Behaviour is communication. Discuss, find out the whys, resolve the problem together, explain the consequences of the behaviour (not the consequences you would give - but why it isn't appropriate) Strange how most people have jumped straight to punitive measures 😧

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