Have had an argument with DH, so instead of cooking dinner going to relax with a bottle of wine?

[BasmatiCousCous]

DH is being an entitled prick! Nothing major but just always expects me to do everything and I called him out on it which led to a stupid argument. Would normally cook dinner for DH and the kids tonight (a roast) but feel like letting everyone fend for themselves and just enjoying myself for once on a Sunday!

Agree with letting your DH do the roast, if he wants one.

How old are the kids?

As long as there is stuff in the cupboards/fridge then that's fine

I do this most nights 😂

Shove the meat in to cook and have sandwiches.. Dh can make them if you have put the meat in. Don't go hungry to spite him! Actually how I ended up very very thin. A controlling dh so I stopped eating. The 1 thing he had no control over..

Yes, do this.

But why are you doing everything? Stop cooking for the twat from now on, just cook for yourself and dc.

Better yet, leave the dickhead.

The last thing he said to me ‘I don’t even like bloody roast dinners’

If I don’t cook he will probably do sausage and mash at around 6:30pm when it’s abundantly clear im not spending my Sunday cooking for him and the kids.

Why should he get to eat that OP has made?

How old are the kids?

I don't drink when I'm angry because it makes me worse but you know your own self.

Stop doing roasts on a Sunday unless you personally really really want one! Do something quick and easy (share between you and DH week by week or whatever). I love a roast but honestly DS is just as happy with me or DH doing sausages and mash with frozen veg, pasta and something etc.

Let him eat sausage and mash, then. Nothing wrong with that.

Exacrly I’m not here to bend to his every whim just to do him his dinner when he’s been a total jackass to me all day with his snide little comments.

Children won't be hungry, seems fair enough. Just don't drive.

Honestly Mumsnet is a window into another world. Are you telling us that you normally cook a roast dinner every Sunday? And only you prep/cook this?
Who made these rules and why are you still following them? It's not the 1950's.
Domestic chores need to be fairly distributed amongst able bodied individuals over the age of 11. Why is this your job/role?

My DH cooks a roast dinner every single Sunday, even through Summer! 🤣🤣

But everything else is fairly distributed.

Why is it up to OP to make sure that there's stuff in the cupboards?

@Mothership4two

this!

im sure op‘s husband knows where the shop is if there’s no food in the house

He’s a twat anyway. I’ve had a problem with my weight and putting a lot on recently and he’s shown no compassion towards me At All so yeah it’s time for a good old jolly fuck you and a bottle of wine. Im a few glasses in already and guess what im feeling fabulous. Heart on in background and in my bedroom in bed with a book and wine and I don’t care.

@BasmatiCousCous Good for you! We all deserve a fck you day. Sometimes i find its like a re-set.

Just shout down the stairs if you need a top-up or snack and ask what time's dinner and can he bring it upstairs!!

He sounds pretty shit. Snide little comments all day? Why are you with him?

He might be a twat, it’s your marriage, you know it better than anyone on mumsnet so he probably is, but what is this thing about your weight gain? It’s your weight gain… what do you want him to say about it? Commenting on someone’s weight is a no-no. And it can be hard to be compassionate when you’re watching them eat and drink themselves into obesity. What is it he is saying or isn’t saying that got you so mad?

Just to clear, i’m overweight. My BMI only recently dropped under obese into overweight. I know what it’s like to struggle with weight, but I also know it’s my own fault. I’m not looking to other people to pat me on the head and tell me it’s ok.

Always expecting you to do everything is nothing major?

Of course you will feel awful living under such conditions.
Is this indentured servitude?

Sounds like this man has gotten very comfortable and become spoilt. I would be doing nothing for him, only the children, until he learns some gratitude. No affection, sex, or access to my bed either.

Who the heck does he think he is?

And only that because I’m assuming there are young children, otherwise he would be looking for somewhere to sleep tonight. Being valued and treated with respect is the bare minimum. He can feed his own children!

Unfortunately the “DH always expects me to do everything” threads, always come about because the OP always does everything and always has.

It’s 2023, just stop doing everything OP. There is zero expectation that a woman today needs to don a pinnie and cook a roast every Sunday, what a waste of a life.

How old are your children? Don't let them go hungry just to spite him.

The amazing thing is that they have a father who could also feed them! What a stupid post, as if OP is going to let her children go hungry.