To feel disgusted he washed it in the kitchen sink

[OneLittleFinger]

Dp rarely does the washing, therefore I wasn't expecting him to wash the clothes I'd left by the machine this morning. Among them were my toddler's dirty pants in a box to remind me to add them to the wash.

I returned home to find not only had he thrown the pants into the wash unrinsed (so with solid poo stuck to them) he'd cleaned the box they were in in the kitchen sink, and used the kitchen sponge to do so.

He's pissed I'm not happy, as the box was sitting in hot, soapy water first, so can't see the problem.

Your method sounds much worse. Storing a box of poo?

You are unreasonable for not binning the pants. If there are too many to bin I'd put the potty training on hold for a bit.

Of course putting pants with solid poo on them into the washing machine along with other stuff is horrendous and he should have engaged his brain there.

However, why the hell hadn't you fully rinsed the pants out immediately? Then they could just have gone straight in with the next wash with no issues. I'd have got rid of the worst down the toilet, then rinsed them thoroughly in the sink and then cleaned and disinfected the sink well. It takes just a few minutes. I might also have left them soaking in a solution of biological washing powder.

Keeping poo covered pants in a box is really gross.

I think the OP means she rinsed them in the bathroom sink. I would use the kitchen sink either (faecal bacteria) but the bathroom one and them bleach it.
The kitchen sink is the wrong place to do this.

@girlswillbegirls Ahhhhhh yeah I see. I thought she meant the actual loo! 🤦🏼‍♀️

Personally pants covered in poo would have gone in the bin but otherwise I'd have rinsed them at the time. Putting them in the wash covered in lumps of poo isn't great but maybe he didn't realise. Washing in a sink is totally normal. It's either that sink or the one you brush your teeth in surely? He definitely should have binned the sponge though so is UR for that

Leaving pants unrinsed in the first place is worse.

It is also gross if he hasnt binned the sponge and washed the sink.

I have to give points for a gripping title that just begged me to read on. It was like a mystery thriller. Who washed what in the sink?

After that, I was slightly disappointed to discover it wasn't incriminating evidence.

Mumsnet is batshit today

Sorry but I'm 44 and never in those years have I never ever rinsed anything in the loo. Do people do this? 👀

I'd be more revolted with pants covered in shit left in a box in the kitchen. If they're that badly soiled throw them out or wash them immediately.

I thought you were going to say his penis

I have a small airer in the utility room which is 'unclean'.
Anything filthy gets rinsed by hand immediately, then put on the airer to await the appropriate wash.
Potty training finished years ago in this house but the system still works. Yesterday's manky cloth had been used for washing down a muddy bicycle.

I don't understand why people are horrified at the thought of poo being rinsed off in the loo. Surely that's the whole point of the bloody thing!

Grip pants tightly by a non-pooey bit, hold pants down the loo, flush the loo to rinse off worst of poo. Put pants in washing machine.

It's really not that difficult for anyone with half a brain.

It's pretty common with cloth nappies to hold them in the toilet and flush it to rinse poo off before washing, no reason you shouldn't do that with pants if it works for you. We found it just made them wet and pooey so used a cheap spatula to scrape instead and it's still in the bathroom to use it for any pants incidents since toilet training but yeah I'd do it before it dried.
Binning clothes instead of washing them is ridiculous.

If it's a frequent thing with pooey pants then get yourself some Napisan to soak them in till you wash them

Where would you have washed the box @OneLittleFinger ?

I don't get the storing the dirty pants for later. They would go in the wash by themselves as soon as the accident happened. I would throw the sponge I think for poo but otherwise it would go in the dishwasher on a hot wash with all the other cleaning cloths and brushes.

If the box didn't fit in the dishwasher I would have taken it in the shower with me like we do the recycling tubs when they need a rinse in Winter as the hose as been put away.

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I agree with you OP, so disgusting. Throw the sponge in the bin and fill up the sink with boiling hot water and add bleach. Leave that sitting for a bit and rinse with boiling water from the kettle.

Kitchen sink can be bleached… leaving poo on pants and not dealing with it immediately is gross though.

Everyone that uses cloth nappies rinses in the toilet and then stores it in a bag/basket until wash day…

What @fyn said…

So much to unpick here:

1. why so many pants filed with solid poo? Is your child ready to be potty trained?
2. how long are they kept stinking in a box with actual poo in them before washing?
3. why not just rinse the pants and wash them when your child is an accident?
4. or just him the pants!

Your house must smell delightful