AIBU I think piano teacher is rude

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I pay for my child’s piano lessons a month in advance.

My child has a group lesson (with one other student) to keep the cost down.

My child was off sick today so I messaged the teacher this morning informing them and saying we would carry this lesson over to then next term.

Teacher responded saying sorry she was unable to credit/ reschedule due to it being less than 24 hours notice. However she would spend longer with my child next lesson.

I responded with ‘how am I supposed to give 24 hours notice with sickness?’

I then got a shirty response ‘you don’t, which is why I am kindly offering to spend extra time next week’

I don’t see how it is an issue given it’s a group lesson that still takes place whether my child is there or not!

This is rude is it not?

You're rude. Not the teacher

I am sure I read this exact same scenario on here before.

This is rude is it not?

your comment to the teacher was, yes.

I'm sure I've read this exact same post about 6 months ago? Was the original post the CF parent and this the reverse?!!

If it's a reverse, you're still being rude by posting the "dilemma" in that manner.

My child was off sick today so I messaged the teacher this morning informing them and saying we would carry this lesson over to then next term

You were the one being rude. Surely you should have politely ASKED the piano teacher if it was possible to carry the lesson over, not told them? Most piano teachers don't carry lessons forward, even with plenty of notice. You've booked a slot each week, it's not like they can just fill the space for the odd week that you miss.

You are lucky that you share a lesson, and that the piano teacher is being nice enough to try to redress the balance next week. The piano teacher is not obliged to do this, and is being the very opposite of rude.

Seriously 🤔

I'm a singing teacher, and I try my best to accommodate requests like this, but at the end of the day I have a mortgage/other bills to pay, so if every parent did this a couple of times a year I'd seriously struggle to budget/survive financially! If a parent asks politely/acknowledges that it's not ideal I would usually try to rearrange the lesson time, but if they tried to lay down the law like that, I definitely wouldn't.

" and saying we would carry this lesson over to then next term."

....I don't think this was for you to say!

She couldn't rebook the lesson at that notice, therefore she would be out of pocket.

This is how these things generally work, I would imagine she would have been quite taken aback by your message

Op is rude.

Your child is sick.

Not the teachers problem.

Suck up losing a lesson instead of being entitled.

People like you are the reason society is breaking down. The woman has bills. Pay up.

oh and lol

Seriously?

I can't think of many appointments where you don't forfeit the money or pay a cancellation fee if you cancel with less that 24 hours notice!

Driving lessons for example.

Do you not understand that they have a business to run?

They sound lovely and very generous and you sound entitled and lacking in understanding how life works for others not just you.

I always pay for lesson my kids miss, I think you’re being a bit of an entitled cow and I’m not surprised she was rude back! I think she has been very generous saying she’ll give more time next week.

Yeah, this is absolutely a reverse. The OP is a piano teacher.

why do people do this?

Reverse situations are really naff op. The parent was rude but just say it as it happened in future…

She was exceptionally polite given how shockingly rude you were.

I pay for my son's piano lessons a semester in advance. Last semester half the lessons were cancelled by the teacher due to her being ill (surgeries after being hit by a car). It never occured to me to demand lessons for free this semester.

There have been a few missed music lesson threads over the years it’s not an uncommon situation. There was one last year.

Yep, pisses me off that I took time to reply to bullshit.

This ^

I'm with the YABU camp.
Based on no other otherheads and putting it simplistically - she has set herself an hourly wage of say £14. If you have a class size of say 2 people, the £14 is shared between the 2 pupils. If one drops out, she is only being paid £7 for that hour, which is unfair.
She was nice to offer extra support during the following week's lesson.

You were rude. The teacher is giving back the energy she received, rightly so. I don't take shit from rude clients either.

The teacher was kind to offer extra time- she didn’t need to do this and you are being v unreasonable. How do you think she pays her bills?

You were the rude one.

YABVU. Who the hell do you think you are? Telling the teacher that she will have to make the time missed because YOUR child was ill. If the teacher was ill then yes requesting a refund/catch up lesson is fine. But in this situation. Fuck that. And you'd have a hard time trying to claim the money back because YOUR child was sick. The teacher didn't cancel. She was there ready to teach her class and YOUR child wasn't there.
You are the rude entitled one here. I certainly would withdraw any offer of spending a bit more time and I'd tell you not to bother with lessons next term if I got a message from you whining "how am I supposed to give 24 hours notice with sickness?" after you instructing the teacher to give your daughter a free lesson next term as if she's your fucking slave.