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To not help my daughter because she's a cam girl?

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Mastmw7g · 06/11/2023 11:45

I've posted before, so I may BU for that reason alone.

We moved around the same time as my daughter finished university, and I rightly assumed she planned to live with us before this, so I offered to pay her rent for a year as long as she got a job. It's been over four months and she makes money by taking videos of herself and posting them online. She says there's no nudity, but it's been pointed out to me that this can mean tassels and a thong. She wants to move to us and intends to stay with us while looking for another rental in our area, and she wants us to pay for the rent on a new place.

What's new is that she wants to find someone to take her place in her current rental, and expects us to pay the rent there if she doesn't, even if she's living with us many miles away. This is too much. I'm already uncomfortable with all the assumptions of what I'll pay for while she's a cam girl instead of getting a proper job. I understand she's miserable and has a lot of conflict with her housemates because she has a dog that barks often and that there's many other reasons she wants to move that she hasn't shared. Only one housemate has a rental contract, so I appreciate that my daughter wants to do the right thing by her housemates. And I realize it's unfair that I would be more sympathetic if she had a proper job and wasn't making money in the manner she does. But enough is enough! I'm so tired.

OP posts:
ThereIbledit · 07/11/2023 20:11

Mastmw7g · 06/11/2023 15:47

@HamBone She's postponing giving notice until December. I agree that it would be better to give notice now. I actually don't want to buy a flight out for my husband to help her move until she's made some adult steps, like giving notice, advertising the space for rent, and more.

If she doesn't think she will be the one paying rent for a property she isn't using then she has no motivation to hand in notice any earlier, does she.

I think it is time for some tough love.

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