AIBU to not want dog in my house?

[Holly1212]

AIBU to not want dog in my house?

Me and my partner live together with our DS.
When my partner invited his dad over for dinner etc he brings the dog with him. We do not have any pets and I do not want the dog in the house. We have light cream sofa and carpets and I do not want the dog in the house as his dad allows him to run all through the house.

It has got to the point where I do not want him to invite his dad over as I know the arguments that will be had by the dog coming over. I will admit I might have OCD but there is dog jumps up everything. I also do not like that his dad feels the dog at our house from our plates and forks. Things like that turn my stomach.

I have tried to be out my case across why I do not want the dog in the house but I am made to feel like this is normal that you must bring a dog to someone else’s house. I have tried to be reasonable and say he can come but put in kitchen or dining room as this has wooden flooring. There are all the promises but after 10 minister he is jumping on everything in every room. One of my main annoyances is that the dog tried to eat or play with my little ones toys so when he comes I have to put most of his toys away.

I am already feeding Christmas as I know the arguments which will come.

Am I being unreasonable here?

Sounds like he hasn't bothered to train his dog!

As a teenager, I had a dog who did come everywhere with me, because I could not leave him in my flat (he was fine but my neighbour insisted on rattling the letterbox and shoving stuff through to set him off barking, then record the barking plus any other dog barking so she could make malicious complaints. She got caught out making complaints when he wasn't there!)...

He was taught to sit on the floor at my feet, not mooch or beg, not wander around unless I said he could, greet folk only if spoken to and as a result was genuinely welcome and a regular at parties.

However if he could not have come with, then I would not have visited - I would not even then, have expected someone to invite a dog into their home if they did not want to!

Allowing a dog to bounce all over peoples furniture, pinch kids toys, eat off plates/cutlery is beyond rude!

I love dogs and don't currently have one but even when we did, I'd never expect to take it to someone's house, let alone feed it from the table and let it jump everywhere. Nah, that's just rude.

If you're happy for the dog to stay in one of the tiled rooms then you'll need to be firm and set a boundary. If your partner's father attempts to break it, just keep repeating yourself, 'Please put Fido back in the kitchen now'. Keep firmly reinforcing it till they get the message.

Your house, your rules!

YANBU. If someone chooses to own an animal they have to accept other people will probably not want anything to do with it.

My FIL also has a dog. There are no compromises from me - the dog is not allowed in any part of the house or the garden.

I don’t like dogs and certainly don’t want their disgusting paws, fur and saliva all over my property.

So he doesn’t come round 🤷‍♀️