To not want to pay friend for ticket

[User8943]

My friend bought tickets for her and her boyfriend to attend a concert, however, he can no longer make it.

My friend has now asked me if I want to go instead. She is really keen for me to go as she is unable to find anyone else and will lose the money of the ticket if I don't go.

I have said yes, but have said I won't pay for the ticket. I don't see why I should when she's only asking me because she has no one else and she'll lose the money from the ticket anyway as her boyfriend can't make it.

My friend is now really annoyed and said I'm a bad friend. AIBU?

Glad it's sorted, OP, and as others said, there are a lot of trolls and shit-stirrers around at the moment (especially on weekends).

thats due to mumsnet not allowing "troll hunting" reguardless of what anyones opinion is, mumsnet rules dont allow that

Of course you pay. Or she sells it on.

One of my friends had a spare ticket to a gig and advertised it on Facebook, was all very last minute but something I really wanted to see so I said I’d take it and mad dashed there to meet him with the money for the ticket in hand but he wouldn’t take it so I paid for the drinks.
If I was invited for company or it wasn’t something I was keen on I’d either just decline (I really struggle in loud crowded places even when it’s my choice) or offer to buy the first round but I wouldn’t be paying full price for something like that, if I wanted a ticket enough I would have got myself one and I’m happy to go anywhere alone, her boyfriend should pay her for the ticket he wasted.

Well her boyfriend pulled out so he should be paying for the ticket.

I agree. But I'd buy drinks etc.

I'd never charge someone who accompanied me last minute to something. If I had 2 tickets to something expensive and plenty of notice we couldn't go I'd sell the two tickets, if last min I'd give away to avoid waste

Depends if she asked if you want to buy the ticket or mentioned she's reselling the ticket or asked you to come and then has later dropped paying for it in

Read OP's update, people. Her friend isn't even going to the concert now, so it's no longer a question.

Because she's offered it to the op ! If the op doesn't want to go then she should decline

I have said yes, but have said I won't pay for the ticket. I don't see why I should when she's only asking me because she has no one else and she'll lose the money from the ticket anyway as her boyfriend can't make it.

If this is how you phrased it then YABU - there are ways to politely say "I'll come if it's free" without being rude. Even if it's not something I'd want to go to but was willing to attend to keep a friend company I'd also still at least offer to buy a round of drinks as thanks because, unless it's something I hate (in which case I wouldn't even attend to keep someone company) then I'd acknowledge that they didn't have to invite me at all.

Something like "Sorry your BF can't go now, I am free that night and I'd happily come to keep you company but I don't really have any money in my budget to pay for the ticket so I understand if you want to try and sell the ticket on to someone else first" is fine as it gives the other person the opportunity to clarify that they aren't bothered about payment for the ticket and just want it to go to use rather than being wasted, whilst also being clear that you are willing to join them but as it's not something you would have attended in the first place you aren't going to pay for it.