I cannot protect my child from her dad's eating disorder?

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My child has been hiding sweets this week. She's not yet 3 and I had left the pack on the table and my partner saw her tuck it into her coat after eating the one I gave her.
My partner has an eating disorder which I only naively noticed when we started a family/moved in together. His mum has an eating disorder which hasn't been diagnosed either and I just thought if I was very good with food I could break this cycle.
But it turns out at only 2, she's started to pick up bad habits.

Here's some examples of her dad:
After 5 years of cooking him pasta, he's now decided he's never liked it but waits until I cook a family meal and when I put it on the table he says "I won't be eating pasta, I don't like it" queue our child not eating the whole meal.
My partner then blames me because she's obviously been eating "sweets and chocolates" all day so no longer hungry. (We'd had crumpets tbh!) Just before bed she gets some bread and butter because she's starving. Partner then goes on a hoovering rampage because he can see butter everywhere in the bedroom.

Fruit in the bedroom. When I've cut up an apple, my child will follow me upstairs to eat it and I'm pleased because I know if she's gonna choke, I'm right next to her but life gets in the way and sometimes the Apple price is left on a cupboard and when my partner sees it has a meltdown saying how disgusting it is that food is in the bedroom (not like this with any other type of mess).

Keeps changing meal location.
We have a dining table in the kitchen. He's told her it's better to sit on daddy on the sofa then tells her off for making a mess over him/down her. She's two! She's only just learnt where her mouth is!! I say to have food at the table and then sit on the sofa and all he'll breaks loose. After lunch she'll go and sit with daddy with a drink and he changes his mind saying "no food and drinks in here" and our child cries whilst I tell him that he can't keep changing his mind, it's so confusing. He rolls his eyes and says she's only crying because she's eaten cake all day and round and round it goes.

He eats a takeaway after we've eaten even if he's cooked.

He washes up slamming everything if I attempt to offer her food he doesn't want he having - ther week it was salmon (off my plate), she can have fish fingers but no.. Not food that's not done in the oven. She wanted to try it!

Saying she needs to eat more ready meals.
When we go out, our daughter doesn't like most stuff on the menu. Nor does any 2 year old and it's just good she's happy to be out. But my partner keeps going on about getting her to try chips or try burgers because she's never going to manage on meal out if not. Why?! I bring packed lunch for her anyway.

AiBU to think my partners eating disorder is going to effect my daughter? She really doesn't have a chance does she?

It’s child abuse.

This ^^

Bullies always find something to bully about. They thrive on it.

If we call it ´disordered eating’ rather than an eating disorder does that help?
I think PPs are looking at his behavior and thinking, well that’s not anorexia and he’s not vomiting so not bulimia, so there’s no eating disorder.
Whereas to me, it sounds like there are some irrational ideas happening (fear of food that’s not been in an oven? Fear of crumbs instantaneously attracting vermin?) that are causing him to behave erratically around food, which confusing and upsetting for your toddler. And maybe some guilt and some avoidance and then bingeing type behaviors? Avoiding pasta then ordering takeaway? It’s a bit weird.
I think I’d be tempted to instigate a pretty rigid food routine for your child. I don’t rigid in the sense of no fun and restrictive, but just very consistent for her. So breakfast, lunch, afternoon snack involving a treat (couple of biscuits, small serving of chocolate or an ice cream) and balanced dinner with a couple of cheap healthy but filling options always available if she’s ever super hungry between meals or a bedtime (a banana, a slice of wholemeal toast or a plain yogurt for example)w
Talk this through with your partner. Agree to stuck to your meal routine in her presence - at least most of the time. It’s fine for it to change for special occasions or holidays or whatever. But having that basic foundation of what to expect when - with a pretty good balance plus predictable but limited sweet treats will stand her in good stead later in life.

What @ManateeFair said.

Please, please put a stop to this, however you have to do it. ANY weirdness around food, not just eating disorders, will affect a child for life.

It doesn’t sound like an eating disorder, it sounds like he’s a cunt, possibly with some mental health concerns if I’m being kind.

@CaptainBarnaclesandthevegemals disordered eating... the description you state explains what I thought he had and assumed our daughter was being effected by.

I have a good routine in place for breakfast and lunch which doesn't include him and I think having her evening meal before he is finished work will help protect her temporarily.

He certainly seems irrational and controlling but most of what the OP described doesn't really indicate that her DH's own eating is disordered - the hoovering of crumbs, complaining about fruit in the bedroom, controlling what their DD is and isn't allowed to eat and the inconsistency about where their DD is allowed to eat are certainly food-related but don't seem to be directly related to the DH's own eating habits. The only thing that really seems to relate to his own eating is the pasta/takeaway thing. He certainly seems to have some odd hang-ups about food, but they don't seem to relate to what he eats himself.