School mum

[donnaella]

Just posted for advice really as I'm really concerned about a little boy in the school where I work. I do a lot of work with his particular class (Year 2).
The little boy and his sibling (in Year 1 at same school) live literally 2 minutes walk from the school, yet they are late every day... The bell goes at 8.50am and classes are taken in by teachers at 8.55am.
Every single day, the mum of these two children is casually strolling towards school with them at 9am, caked in heavy makeup and fancy hairstyle. Like she's spent hours getting herself ready but can't even be bothered to get her DC to school on time, any day. The mum posts on social media a lot, posing in underwear. I just feel so upset for these little DC, having the embarrassment of being late for school every day. They're such sweet little children and I guess it just upsets me.
Should I report the mum?

If you work in the school, discuss your concerns with your line manager or appropriate safeguarding person. Posting this information here is totally against any child protection training you should have been given as an employee in a school. You could face disciplinary action for sharing this info online.

Are you going to report any mums you see posting holiday pics in their bikini's on SM too? Or is it just the ones with make up and fancy hair do's?

You sound like a gossip and a drama queen checking out this mums social media on your cousin's account and wanting to report it.

ADHD and executive dysfunction presumably come under "stupidity" for you?

Getting ready earlier does not help when you have executive dysfunction.

There are strategies to support these difficulties, but some people have a harder time than most in being on time.

Just like you have a harder time than most in being polite.

Wind your neck in.

It's so creepy that you are spending so much time talking about this woman with your cousin, don't you have anything better to do.

@millsiem

You could face disciplinary action for sharing this info online.

Honestly. People on mumsnet are such drama queens. It’s an anonymous forum 🙄🙄

If this person eventually uses this 'anonymous forum' to post outing info, it ceases to be anonymous.

My sister works in a salon. She's required to put on a full face of make-up and have her hair done before going into work. It's awful to think of nosey school.staff judging her parenting because of it.

It's five minutes. They're getting to school safely. Teachers can highlight any concerns with admin through the register. Stay in your lane.

Do you seriously believe this mother needs to be investigated because she's a little late and does her hair before leaving the house?

Sure, but she’s not done that. Has she? There is nothing remotely outing about I work in a school, a mum is routinely late and she wears make up, does her hair fancy and posts images of herself in her undies. Show me a school where someone couldn’t be accused of that.

Don’t be naive, this is nothing to do with the kids being routinely 5 mins late. And everything to do with the ops jealousy and judgement of this woman for her appearance and how she presents herself.

ive a suspicion she’s the same poster who reported to the head that the dinner ladies wore their uniforms before work and felt they were showing off. She’s likely got some significant issues with other women, this is about her, not the mum.

As someone who works in a school, I can assure you it is a concern if a child is late every single day

I don't know why you don't know the process here. The time they arrive will be recorded and once persistent lateness is of concern it will be followed up by whomever has that role at the school.

If you have concerns about the children's welfare, have a chat with your DSL.

It's a bit worrying to me that you work at a school but don't know what to do with such a run of the mill situation. Haven't you done safeguarding training?

Call 101 and log it. 😂

This is standard lower class behaviour - not much one can do other than look disapprovingly and tut

If you work in a school you'll know there is an attendance officer.
I'm a dinner lady in a school and know 100% the school would be on it.Most things are a need to know basis ime.

If you work in the school then you should've had safeguarding training so any concerns you need to pass on to a DSL.

Yes, I found it rather strange that a school employee would come on Mumsnet to share this concern. Tbh,whilst being late regularly adds up to a lot of lost learning time, being 5 minutes late is not a massive concern if the children are attending every day.
I wonder if the mum looked like shit would the OP be judging so harshly?

Jesus wept - instead of taking to mums et speak to your DSL and you clearly need to do a safeguarding course.

If you work in the school, report it to the DSL (although if they're late every day, the school already knows that!)

Beyond that, it's none of your business. And you should probably unfriend her on FB, as you're clearly NOT friends, and you're just looking at her account to find examples of her being an unfit mother.

Even if they are only late because mum is putting on make-up, being 5 minutes late every day might show skewed priorities but it is not a safeguarding issue.

The school will be dealing with this anyway.

What is it with everyone "reporting" each other? Fair enough if it's an indicator of actual harm but children who regularly do attend school but 5 minutes late is not so harmful it needs safeguarding monitoring.