School mum

[donnaella]

Just posted for advice really as I'm really concerned about a little boy in the school where I work. I do a lot of work with his particular class (Year 2).
The little boy and his sibling (in Year 1 at same school) live literally 2 minutes walk from the school, yet they are late every day... The bell goes at 8.50am and classes are taken in by teachers at 8.55am.
Every single day, the mum of these two children is casually strolling towards school with them at 9am, caked in heavy makeup and fancy hairstyle. Like she's spent hours getting herself ready but can't even be bothered to get her DC to school on time, any day. The mum posts on social media a lot, posing in underwear. I just feel so upset for these little DC, having the embarrassment of being late for school every day. They're such sweet little children and I guess it just upsets me.
Should I report the mum?

As for the Mum, she should take a leaf out of my dubious book and leave her mascara on overnight and put her hair in a net so she's good to go when she gets up.

She might do for all the OP knows.

Unless she lives with the woman, she has no idea why she can't seem to get them out of the house on time.

If you have safeguarding concerns you always report them to the DSL.

@WhateverMate OPs cousin sounds like she's relishing in all the shit stirring.

I always had makeup on and my hair done when I dropped my kids off at school, I was on my way to work!
Admittedly my kids weren't late but it doesn't mean anyone with children can't find ten minutes in the morning to do their hair and makeup.
Maybe she's late because her child throws an epic tantrum every morning as they hate school?

I beg your pardon?

So if my friends decide to send their kids to the school at which I teach (secondary), I’m not allowed to be friends with them any more?! Most of the staff send their children to the school. Most have a range of staff and non-staff ‘mum’ friends. It’s a very close and friendly community. @DuplicateUserName You are very rude.

And what exactly are you going to report the mum for op? Wearing too much makeup and having her hair done “fancy”, posing in her undies? Who exactly will you report it to? The fashion police? Or the morality police?

the school will be aware the kids are late. I’m assuming you’re a teaching assistant or similar. You know full well the teachers and school will deal with any lateness, it’s not your job, what you going to do, run into the class and tell the teacher the kids are late, like he or she doesn’t know?

your main issues seem to be about her appearance. So there is something else going on here, and you’re trying to dress it up as altruism as the kids are five mins late,

And to clarify, many of the friends in question are my daughter’s friends’ mums. But according to you, I’m not allowed to communicate with them in a social context either?!

Those people are idiots, and need to learn time management.
There’s no excuse for being perpetually late other than sheer stupidity and pig-headedness.

If they need more time, they need to start getting ready earlier.

This.

If you have concerns then you at least mention the situation with colleagues or SLT and they will involve the DSL if necessary.
You should know this. You absolutely shouldn't have a word with the mum without back up from the school!

The children may be anxious about the morning rush and the school have agreed to them coming in later.
Go through the channels that you're supposed to.

With regards to your cousin showing you SM posts ..... that's not great! That implies that you're discussing this family with them. That would be quite unprofessional.

Sure, but the majority of this op is about this woman’s appearance and her social media. The kids are max five mins late, the teacher will know,

the op wants to report her. God knows who to. But if this is the poster who took issue with the dinner ladies wearing their uniforms and showing off, then I guess she’s off to speak to the head again.

op I would be asking for this post to be removed.

You work in the school so should be following safe guarding procedures and reporting any concerns you have to the school. You shouldn’t be posting on a public forum as you’re now risking your own job if this goes public.

You are not aware of any of their situation and have made a judgement here. Please speak to your manager/ head teacher/ safe guarding lead of your school.

Don’t be ridiculous. Kids are late every day all over the country. Women wear make up and do their hair all over the world. It’s not remotely identifiable.

If you have any concerns then you should be following your school policy and raising them.

Speak to your DSL.

Some people are just late. When I dropped DD off I would pass the same woman at the same point rushing to school. Which meant she was leaving 10 minutes too late every day.

One of DDs classmates literally lived opposite the school side gate they came in by. They had to cross the road and they were there. She was late all the time. She said she would leave when she heard the school bell, so by the time they put shoes on and walked the 1 minute across the road, the door was closed. She wouldn’t change her routine though. Not sure what school said to her though.

I’m not being ridiculous in the slightest. Op works in a school, she should not be posting any concerns she has on a public forum, she should also not address the parent herself but instead should follow the actual safe guarding procedures.

Yes op might not be identified but if she is then she’s risked her job as this could go down for a disciplinary.

5minutes, who cares? What makes you tjink the chilsre are embarassed or uoset.Maybe if they were they would get ready quicker

Report her for what?

I’m used to internet hyperbole but that’s so extreme, no one can identify her, it’s an anonymous forum. Give over.

If you’re concerned just report to DSL - not mumsnet. They will have the history and appropriate training to decide.

Report to who? The hair and make up police?

Could be that the Mum can’t tell the time. Surprisingly common now. She might start to get ready when she sees pupils going past the house.

The thing that jumps out on me here is how unprofessional it is to discuss a parent at the school you work at, with your cousin!

Yes, it's not ideal that she can't get her children to school on time, and the school (whoever deals with attendance/ lateness issues) should be speaking to her about it.

However, I think she is just as within her rights to report you for gossiping/ judging her as you are to report her for being late getting her kids to school.

Is this another AI post?
Something in the wording....,

@Deathbyfluffy you have no idea what goes on in other peoples lives! Not everyone is morning people, people struggle. Get over yourself and stop expecting every human to be perfect. Plenty of people are late.

Report to DSL, or at very least whoever does attendance, surely they must know these children are late every day and be following their attendance policy