To not mention on my dating profile that I have a child?

[Butterscotch81]

I will obviously mention it when I get chatting to or messaging someone but just don't know if I'm obliged to mention it on my profile? I have one son and he's 6.

I didn't, I waited till day 3 of talking and just said' I totally get if it's not for you and no hard feelings but I do have a child but I wanted you to get to know me as lostmumdotcom rather then mum'. A lot of guys it was a dealbreaker and no hard feelings but I met a great guy who I'm still with 3 years on and who absolutely loves my daughter and has been in her life as a dad more than her biological dad x

When I was online dating children were a deal breaker for me. I would've wanted to know before a first date.

Absolutely no way. If you match you say. It's a given that people of a certain age will have more complicated lives!

Protect your child first.
Don't mention on profile to stop men targeting single mothers.
Then mention it quickly when u do start communicating so if they don't like it they can go.

Haven't done online dating in years but I never put it in my profile. I'd mention it if it got to the stage of talking on the phone before a first date. It's not wasting anyone's time. If you tell them at this stage they can say on the phone that they'd rather not and cancel the date.

YABU

Having a kid is a pretty major thing. You absolutely should mention it on your profile.
Personally, it would be a deal breaker for me.

I read that too.Makes sense.

I feel the same. I think i'd feel a bit mugged if someone sprung a child on me! Introducing them is a different matter of course. But it's dishonest not to 'disclose' a child imo.

I would not put it on my profile you do not know what weirdo is looking for a single mum with children.

I never put it on my profile, I had avery lighthearted and fairly limited profile so it's not like I spoke loads about myself and failed to exclude a certain part. I didn't mention it for the reasons stated here about not wanting to advertise the fact I had a young child online (I happened to be spending a significant amount of time working on a sex offender wing of a prison at the time so perhaps my view is slightly jaded). I always mentioned it in the initial conversation and most people I spoke to were very respectful and didn't have an issue with it, they either didn't mind or just politely said not what they were looking for. No harm either way. Worst case scenario you have wasted 30 seconds of someone's time, who really cares?

Exactly, I don't understand the comments about feeling mugged off by it not being put on the profile. If you tell them on the phone before the first date they can decline the date! Simple really, I'd rather safeguard my child than worry about the feelings or time (the whole 2 mins of time) of a potential date, anyone who had an issue with that wouldn't be for me anyway.
When I was online dating (10 years ago) it used to put me off men if they put pictures of their kids on their profile. It's such a silly and dangerous thing to do!

I wouldn't leave it to tell them on the phone before the first date. I'd make sure I told them within the first few messages. Telling them on the phone puts them in an awkward situation to be honest, it's a deal breaker for some. I would feel under pressure not to be a complete dick to cancel the date for this reason, especially in a phone call. Just tell them in a message before you've even arranged a phone call or first date.

DSIS works in child protection for police. No way would I state that I have children on my dating profile.

And I would actively avoid any man who stated on his that he was fine dating someone with DC.

Of course most men aren’t a concern, but I would always prioritise my children’s safety over my dating life.