My grandmother tries to visit every week, she usually comes around 10am and stays the day, leaving around 3pm. Whilst here she sits and is waited on by me and watches TV, has dinner cooked for her. I spend the whole time running around after her and my two kids (6 months and 3 years) and it infuriates me. I tell her how knackered I am, that I need a rest, help ect but she just tells me how tired she is, how she had no help with three kids ect.
when I was pregnant I had severe sickness, and I got into a routine with my DD2 that I would rest on the sofa with a movie in the afternoon as a way to rest as she was out of napping by this age. When my Nan visited then she would rest on the sofa with my DD and then leave afterwards, having been here 5 hours by this point.
my grandmother is fit and well, has a social life ect she’s just completely ignorant of what I’m going through and how tiring it is with two small kids. She also only visits when she’s bored, am I being unreasonable to limit visits or only meet outside of the house so I can dip out when I’m ready