to be a little bit upset and annoyed????

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My dh invited one of his old friends over for lunch on sat. we havent seen them for years. He asked the husband if there was anything they didnt eat and he said no.
I had a spread of lovely cheese topped and plain rolls from the bakers, some with egg mago, some with tuna and sweetcorn, some cheese and tomatoe,some ham and tomatoe and some plain cheese. There was also crisps, humous and veg. Small choc biscuit selection, homemade spounge cake. Homemade fruit juice jellies with fruit in them and also yougurts and some fruit too.
Their boys, aged 12 and 9 refused to eat any of it and i was told they dont like it,but might eat plain bread.. i only had wholemeal, so apparently that was no good. I was horriby embarassed. One of the boys did try a tuna roll, but apparently it was discusting so he could not eat it!

So what do you do in this situation???
and aibu to think they should have told me this before i spent money and time putting a lunch on for them!

YANBU at all - you should have been told that the kids are picky. I've been in this situation many times before and I just don't care! You asked and were told that they ate everything so its just not your problem!

YANBU, you asked and catered on the reply you got.

Definitely YANBU! How annoying that if they were asked, and therefore had the opportunity, they didn't tell you about their children!

What badly behaved children. It is them who should be embarrassed, not you.

That is appalling (although am perversely comforted that my somewhat picky 4 year old would have tucked into all of that so can't be sooo bad!). They really owe you a major apology and I certainly wouldn't invite them again. Didn't they even eat crisps and cake?!

for you

very irritating - but you did what you could - you asked and were told nothing (mind you that is probably because the husband was asked - my brother has done the same to me with his kids before now).

It is not nice sitting their watching guests not eat though

why were you embarrassed? They should have been embarassed...

YANBU God how rude! I cannot believe there was nothing in any of that lovely lunch they couldn't have eaten. What the hell do they eat then??

yanbu. "so what do you do in this situation?". You let them go without.

clearly spoiled brats. at 9 and 12 they are old enough to be told that they will eat something or go without. and there was ample selection so ...

It was just embarassing, i had nothing they would eat at all. Apparently they might have eaten the jelly, but beacuse i had set fruit in it, they wouldnt. No allergies or anything either. They did eat some of the choc things, but the mum kept telling them off for just eating chocolate, and it made me feel like it was my fault because they were hungry and i had nothing else for them.
Im blaming dh and his mate, he should have said, and i shouldnt have relied on men to pass on the correct info.
And i know the bloody tuna sandwich was not discusting, and i cant believe they were so rude to say that to my face. The little boy just walked up to me and said ' im sorry i cant eat this its too discusting;, i mean what am i meant to say to that.
AND the boys refused to sit in the lounge as they are a bit allergic to dogs, and they know i have a dog, and they also said to keep out of the way off my dd who was a bit annoying as she wanted to play with them... shes 2!

i think that was so rude and you should definatly n ot be embarassed, at 9 and 12 wannabe is completely right - they should have at least made an effort. I mean who doesnt eat plain cheese rols ffs???????

what did the parents say? did they apologise?

God..Not even the less healthy stuff? Crisps, cake or biscuits?.How odd...if it's usually fussiness then they tend to eat the less healthy stuff don't they? Perhaps they had eaten elsewhere and didn't like to say and were stuffed? Seems really odd
Were the adults embarrassed?
Yes you should have been told that they had food issues if that was the case.

OMG stupid, rude people, dont invite them again! who needs friends like that

Didn't the parents say anything, I would have been v embarrassed if it had been my kids. How rude!

dreadful YANBU. I had a similar experience once with dh's friend and family who came. i asked the mumand she said they eat anything. i made lovely meatballs and pasta and they wouldnt even try it. they went hungry. their mum was embarassed, bless her!
and kids we have round to tea are the same. i ask 'anything they hate?' and then find they like pizza (a real treat in our house) but only without the cheese and the tomatoes. once made a child cry as i refused to give her an alternative to organic sasages and mash - they werent the same as what her mum gets fgs
dont thes epeople know baout all the starving people in africa!!!!

no, they just said they were sorry and they were picky eaters. Then the husband said he was really picky and ate no fruit of veg and made their excuses. Its not a problem, we all have foods we dont like, but they should have just told me. They def hadnt been anywhere else for lunch and the whole time they were here they winged they were hungry.
Thing is, we went to theirs for lunch about 2 years ago, and im almost 100% we had tuna sandwiches, crips and jellies and they ate them then.............

Also , the parents are really nice and i do like them,and hopefully will see them again soon, but i just feel embarassed and a bit crap.

maybe ive been deluding myself all these years, and im such a crap cook i cant even make a decent sandwich!!! LOL!!!!!

maybe next time suggest you go out somwhere then, to save you from aking lots of lovely food (i would have wolfed the lot!) and it being wasted

or go to theirs and see what they really eat!!!!!!!!

They sound very spoiled, and lacking in manners.

YANBU

You'll know better next time. Plain white sliced all round.

Don't feel embarrassed...everyone says it's them not you ! I can't believe a child that age would actually say something was disgusting to a host. Did his parents pull him up on it ? Just excusing him by saying he was picky is not enough imo. And the whinging that they were then hungry ?? Were they picked up on that too ?

you should hve shouted for my boys .....given 5 minutes the lot would have been eaten ....we went to a friends house for dinner it was 7pm and shed made us (us being me dh ds1 14 ds2 12 and ds3 7)spinach lasagna- the boys did eat it and complememented her on it....dh put half of his on my plate when she wsnt looking.....later she realised shed forgotten to put grlic and salt in it and only cheese sauce lol .....a few days later i made lasagna and ds 1 said mum i really dont like it i ate it there cos i was a guest.....lol.....they came to us and ate a ton of taco and chilli.....next visit to theirs we got pork pie and packet of quavers!!!

Their parents are probably mortified! My dd is a picky eater, and I'm never sure whether it's ruder to take some food she'll eat, or ask for a slice of plain bread when I'm there!

They might also have felt it was too rude to specify what food they expect you to prepare. Or they may have hoped that their dcs would eat things at your house that they won't eat at home (my dd does that).

It must have been very upsetting for you to go to the trouble, and make such nice food, only to see it turned down. It may that the parents were too embarassed to say anything beforehand, or the dh decided that they should eat what you made and he wasn't prepared to ask for something different on their behalf. I bet they are feeling bad about what happened. Could you let it pass, and perhaps suggest going out next time, or asking them to bring a contribution (this is probably what they should have done).

That's a really good selection of food to put on for anyone
what rude kids!