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AIBU?

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to be a little bit upset and annoyed????

63 replies

shoptilidrop · 10/03/2008 09:34

My dh invited one of his old friends over for lunch on sat. we havent seen them for years. He asked the husband if there was anything they didnt eat and he said no.
I had a spread of lovely cheese topped and plain rolls from the bakers, some with egg mago, some with tuna and sweetcorn, some cheese and tomatoe,some ham and tomatoe and some plain cheese. There was also crisps, humous and veg. Small choc biscuit selection, homemade spounge cake. Homemade fruit juice jellies with fruit in them and also yougurts and some fruit too.
Their boys, aged 12 and 9 refused to eat any of it and i was told they dont like it,but might eat plain bread.. i only had wholemeal, so apparently that was no good. I was horriby embarassed. One of the boys did try a tuna roll, but apparently it was discusting so he could not eat it!

So what do you do in this situation???
and aibu to think they should have told me this before i spent money and time putting a lunch on for them!

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LLD · 10/03/2008 21:15

My dcs are now 11 and 9 and I never ever bother doing anything apart from pizza or pasta for their friends because it's a complete waste of time. When there aren't any friends we have lentil soup etc - so they love to have friends over...

pedilia · 10/03/2008 21:20

Blimey and these people are friends!!

How bloody rude of the children and old enough to know better, my DC's are 7 and 3 and would never behave like that in someones house.

What does your DH say?

MotherFunk · 10/03/2008 21:25

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ibblewob · 10/03/2008 21:26

I remember going for dinner at my neighbour's house with mum and dad and DB when I was young (prob 9ish?) and refusing to eat duck a l'orange, or whatever concoction it was. They made us sausages in the end!

However, YANBU at all, your spread sounds like perfectly decent childrens' food with lots of variety, so you definitely did your best! Obviously don't know their circumstances and sympathise that fussy eaters can be difficult, but TBH I agree with everyone else that the kids just sound really rude and what on earth are the parents thinking of letting them get away with behaving ilke that?!

ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands · 10/03/2008 21:31

What a lovely lunch.

Picky awkward children. If I had been the parent I would have said crisply "right! If you won't eat any of this lovely food kindly made for us by Shoptil, then you will go without until dinner time tonight and I don't want to hear a WORD of whinging!"

scottishmummy · 10/03/2008 21:31

what a shame when you were so kind!of course you should have been told of any preferences and if they are that exacting then give fair warning or bring yer own

fwiw, sound delicious and you evidently went to a lot of effort

VS -lol the crisps, ahem a connoisseur only walkers full fat saturated for me said the wee gentleman

hifi · 10/03/2008 21:32

disgraceful, you made a fab selection, something for everyone i would think. the boys probably didn't want to come so were just being awkward. never rely on the information given or taken when it involves 2 men.

Moomin · 10/03/2008 21:35

Dd1 is a great eater, dd2 a tad more fussy but they both know that if they are invited to someone else's house and they don't like anythign they are given to just leave it without comment - no asking for alternatives, no complaining - they just go hungry until they go home. They won't starve. I would be mortified if my dcs had said what those boys said to you. I truely wouldn't invite them back or if I did I wouldn;t bother offering food. I;d make sure it was between meal times so they could have a drink, a biscuit and like it!

lilacclaire · 10/03/2008 21:35

Sounds like a lovely spread.
Invite me and ds next time, we eat anything

francagoestohollywood · 10/03/2008 21:47

At 9 and 12 fussiness should be overcome by decent manners!

TenaciousG · 10/03/2008 21:52

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bluejelly · 10/03/2008 21:53

My dd has a friend who is incredibly fussy. I give her 2 choices and if she won't eat either I refuse to make her any more. She can eat when she gets home.

She is 8 btw, and won't eat:

anything with a sauce
bread
butter
egg
vegetables
fruit
beans

I know it's all attention seeking behaviour, and I am just not going to pander to it.

dylsmum1998 · 10/03/2008 22:01

that all sounds lovely tbh. i love my food, however my ds wouldnt have eaten this (he's 9)he won't eat anything with a tomato in it, and doesnt like tuna. but when we go out to other peoples houses, i always answer any questions about what he doesn't like before we go- he would have eaten the sandwiches without the tomato tho. and i certainly wouldn't have let him tell you it was disgusting like that- so rude.
i wouldn't worry about this at all. its not your fault at all. they should have told you any fussiness before they arrived.

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