Threats from ex husband about court

[AmyJahabee]

So I split from husband 3 years ago. I have applied for financial settlement towards him and he emailed threatening and blackmailing say if I take this to court about financial settlement he will disclose that he helped proof read my university assignment basically trying to say if it wasn’t for him I wouldn’t passed my course which is a lie and he would tell my employer ( I have been with them 8 years) and university ( I graduated 12 years ago) about proof reading some of assignments. I had trouble with the law when I was 19 and got cautioned and have never done anything wrong ( this is not on my records anymore, he also said he will tell them as I’m a bad person. During the marriage he abuse me verbally, emotionally and physically I call the police once and cancel the charges as I was scared. Should I forward his email to the court? Or just wait until he bring it up in court?

i would contact a charity I used for some emotional help - support through court

There nothing wrong with proof reading. Please don't worry about that.

I don't know about his attempt to get an extension - I think it's entirely possible he'll manage it. BUT, it's not on you so you don't reply and he can try to convince the court.

Re the mediation, be prepared - he will now accuse YOU of being unwilling to go to mediation because he asked you for the details and you did not send them. Just ignore it because you can prove that in fact you DID try to organise mediation, and he refused/ignored it until eventually you had to petition the court as it could not be resolved privately.

A quick reminder that one of the reasons controlling and abusive partners unravel when their victim finally breaks free, is because they are used to being able to make outrageous statements and demands and have them agreed with. That is what happened during the relationship. Now, the abuser has to deal with the fact that he can no longer exert this control and it makes him even angrier and more desperate and he will make wilder and more crazy accusations.

Stay strong, You've got away. You could also play a little "crazy ex bingo" - with a girlfriend or family member, figure out which are his MOST outrageous demands/complaints and laugh about them.

You have not done anything wrong at all, but you might want to report him to the police for harassment and witness intimidation.

Just leave it to the court to sort out @AmyJahabee , as everyone says they'll have seen this kind of stupidity before and on what planet does an operation on Friday make him incapable of providing information by the preceding Tuesday...it doesn't make sense!

You don't need to try and manage him any more, I know from my own experience that's a hard habit to get out of but you will manage eventually, just focus on what you need to do.

They may give him an extension but if they do I would imagine they'll want proof of the operation and why it makes a difference...but equally they may decide to award just on the basis of your statement, or more likely, they'll consider charging him with contempt of court for not observing their requirements - I had to threaten my ex with this when he refused to fill in the paperwork.

Look after yourself love, you'll get there x

Just don't engage and see what the court say. They'll ask for proof I assume not just an email and as PP have said it kind of makes no sense as the is deadline today so he can still comply