To break up with partner for not supporting me?

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Me and my partner have been together for several years.

I am half Indian and half Caucasian and he is Caucasian.

On a few occasions now his parents have make racist remarks in my presence.

They have repeated comments made by other people and finding it funny.

Both of them have said the P word which I find very offensive.
They have said in casual conversation such as "When the P's first come over to the UK they would eat dog food".

My partner claims his parents aren't racist and refuses to discuss this any further with me.

I am really considering leaving him as he just refuses to see my point of view or even talk about it.

I have told him I don't want anything more to do with his parents.

Dump him.

I'm sorry you're in this situation, OP. Absolutely break up with him. Disgusting that he sticks up for his racist parents. If he doesn't see a problem with their racist language then he probably holds some pretty unpalatable racist views himself. All the best.

Thats awful OP 💐

Oh my. Not really selling himself or his family, is he...

Dump him.. Imagine dc in this abuse.

When the P's first come over to the UK they would eat dog food".
My jaw dropped reading that, utterly deplorable.

Disgusting. Leave him.

He is as racist as them. You deserve better, please don't put up with this

Ltb

They're disgusting. Dump him and have nothing more to do with him or his pig-ignorant family.

LTB

Ah, the old I’m not/they aren’t racist… but.
If he’s not willing to discuss something you find offensive and hurtful now, what makes you think he’ll be anymore reasonable in the future?
You already know the answer to the question you asked

Yes I’d dump. What a group of nasty people

Horrific. Imagine having kids with him and them being around people like that. Dump.

Utterly disgusting comments. I would dump him for refusing to see it for what it is…straight up racism.

Dump him for being racist. It's funny how often racists never see racism.

Why are you only considering leaving him? Do you have very low self esteem?

Their behaviour is disgusting. You need to end this relationship. I am shocked that your partner is defending their comments.

I knew a guy at work who was a racist and misogynist and I was so shocked when he started dating a black woman, I thought he might change. Nope - still a racist and misogynist who just happens to live with a black woman.

dump him

It's a no brainer. LTB and his vile family
Their comment is one of the most despicable things I've heard

This is awful, my DC are mixed race white/Asian and I would advise them to leave ASAP if their partner behaved like yours. Hopefully you don’t have any children with him and can make a clean get getaway.

Leave him

People so racist and stupid that they can’t even recognise that they’re racist. Imagine what example they’d be setting if you had children. Get rid.

His parents behaviour and comments have upset me for years and I am always made to feel like I'm over reacting.

I did tell his parents that I find their comments absolutely disgusting and I have not spoken to them for weeks.

My partner told me today that they were wondering if iI would talk to them again with Christmas coming up.

No apology or nothing,it is as if his parents just expect me to carry on and talk to them.

I am really not happy in this relationship at all and I moved from a different city to be with my partner.

I have told him that it is probably best we separate as I cant see how can move past this as I told him if he had told his parents this behaviour was not acceptable etc they would of at least apologised and wouldn't be asking when I would be talking to them again.

I think you are right to separate it will only get worse, imagine if you had kids with him and they had to be around them.