Husband and outdoor light

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We have an exterior light that is motion sensored.
Our neighbours (students) wave in front of the light to turn it on so that they can see their front door in the dark or put their bins out.
I think this is perfectly reasonable.
Husband thinks it's not theirs to use and that we shouldn't be paying for them to illuminate their front garden. He keeps turning the light off when they need it on.

AIBU to think this is incredibly tight and unnecessary?

When planning a Victorian lamppost in my garden - it contributes to lighting up the communal car park …. I researched the cost of a dusk to dawn bulb - apparently it’s £13 a year…. Enough said …

He is unreal and I would be mortified. Has he nothing better to be doing. Is he like this in all his life. He sounds like a bundle of joy to live with, you must have the patience of a saint.

Ours used to be activated by foxes taking a short cut, and occasionally a badger, when we lived in the country. Clearly I missed a ‘monetising the wildlife’ opportunity.

Just read your update op and yes you could be right as fixating on one thing is one sign asd. You are lucky you have had good student neighbours. Some are getting their knickers in a right old twist on this thread, gave me a good giggle.

It's given me a giggle too.

We were out on a rare night out and i was turning the light on for next door every time he turned it off. I was ribbing him and taking the piss. I said the whole of Mumsnet would agree with me!

No one's told me to LTB though even if this is a knobbish trait!

You sound lovely and chilled op and that is a good way to deal with things with humour. You said your husband is good to you and that is all that counts, none of us perfect. My son who may have suspected asd and myself also get fixated on things other people would not even notice. For me is is when son splashes water all over sink and taps and I wipe them with tissue as hate the water splashed all over taps , I sound insane ha!!!!! we all have out little strange ways and would love to hear everyone's little things that irritate them. Take care xx

*ImNotReallySpartacus"· Today 17:21

annual ritual in which the front of your house is covered with flashing lights in primary colours and maybe a full-size illuminated reindeer.

GRISWOLD KLAXONS!!

I would be pleased that my light was being useful to others not pissed off about it.

In this case it would be LTM (leave the meanypeg) 😁

What does “whacking on” the heating involve?

I’m actually a bit sympathetic to your DH after your update. Not about the cost, that’s ridiculous. But if he’s getting a notification on his phone each time or being disturbed by the lights constantly coming on and off then I can completely understand how that gets annoying and I’d probably be looking to change the area it monitors for movement (and turn the phone notifications off).

Yeah that’s petty, tell him to go ask them for 10p and that will cover of financially for the next decade.

and he can silence notifications. Why would you get a notification if your light goes on, I get about the bike, but good lord, a cat, a fox, even a bird could set it off, that would drive me nuts.

His light shines over their property [they rent] and he’s complaining?
perhaps he needs to adjust it so none spills over out of your property if he’s unwilling to share.

Your husband is a petty man.

They are kids. They’re being safe. I’d be relieved that the students don’t behave in an obtrusive manner and that’s it.

Was he never taught as a child not to hide his light under a bushel?

Is it really the money, or is it him objecting to people using his stuff? I'm always surprised at the number of MNers who become enraged if someone puts a crisp packet in their bin. Lots of people don't like sharing.