My friend has told me I have no idea about babies.

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I am expecting my first baby, a boy, in 8 weeks time.

I am very decided about how things are going to be when he arrives. I will be breastfeeding, he will be going into his own room from day 1 as I don't believe that babies should turn our lives upside down in the way people let them.

I also am very sure about how my son will be brought up. He will not be allowed to watch television, will not be allowed to have anything with sugar in it such as cake or chocolate and the only toys he will be allowed to have will be educational ones.

I have had a huge argument with my friend about this. She has said that I will never be able to stop my child from watching tv or eating chocolate, and has even said there's a chance I might not be able to breastfeed as it's not always possible.

Thing is, I've read all the books and I know that breast is best and I also know that television and chocolate are damaging so he won't be having any of them.

I remember being (a bit) like the OP. My DB told my to get leather seats in my new car just before we got DS, and I said that I didn't need them as I wouldn't be allowing my child to eat or drink in the car.

There is definitely a challenge on the AIBU threads, would someone please fess-up and tell me exactly what the challenge is?

HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA!!!!!!!!!!!!!

imo if you make things forbidden like chocolate then when they are older they will probably not be able to moderate how much they eat and will scoff vast amounts of the stuff. in our house nothing is forbidden. everything is good for you in moderation. not worth having an arguement over it imo - every parent has their own opinions and no one is right or wrong. not sure what you mean by only educational toys though. all toys are educational. they learn through play and by using their imagination.

Wow, I hope you've warned your friend about Fruit Shoots too, her kids could be at risk!

My abdominal muscles have have a fab workout whilst laughing at this post. Don't know if you meant to be funny tho...

don't forget sausage rolls and billy bear meat

Come back in 2 yrs and tell us how it went

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Awww, no idea if you are serious or a troll, but aww

Your friend is unreasonable in as much as no friend should ever criticise the other's parenting choices... therein will always end in tears.

You aren't living in a very real world, but nyeh, you won't be childless for much longer, so you can keep your illusions for now

I would only really say this - saying I will/will not so definitely to anything about the future is never wise. All it can ever do is leave you with a lack of confidence in yourself if you change your mind, and if you don't change your mind, make you miserable if your plans aren't actually what is best when the time comes.

well, op...I can see your friends point...
whilst I do think that chocolate and TV watching can be avoided if you wish so, at least for a number of years....
a lot of things can change once a woman has had her Baby....you see, a lot of things seem logical etc....but once that little dependent creature is born, hormones alone can change our view so much.
BTW, you say, you have read about how breast and best is the best way and therefore you will breastfeed (which is fabulous, and I wish you all the luck that it all works out), I am surprised that on the other hand you are willing to put your Baby in it's own room from day one....etc...surely you must have read the research saying that keeping a Baby in your room at night can be a big factor to reduce the risk of SIDS?

But anyway...I am pretty sure, with years to come you may also can see just how naive you are right now...and btw. I would think that the same stands for most first time mothers...I know I was completely naive about it all, and know plenty of friends...because, well, the impact of hormones just is one to be reckoned with basically!