To think its disgusting that dh used my towel

[WinkyTinky]

Bought myself a new bath towel recently, a lovely pink fluffy thing, a treat just for me. Dh used it this morning, stuffed it into the wash basket, and went off on his way. So I took it out to get it straight in the washing machine only to find he'd really given himself a good scrub and left the evidence behind 😠Anger level 1-10?

Gross. Does he not wash his arse?

That would make me more angry than the towel which can be washed

One where people are supposed to share their shit stories, perhaps.

Glad you’re leaving. Not just the towel is it, but the whole thing being symptomatic of his disgustingness and lack of respect for you

Good grief. I can't believe what some people find acceptable.

(Edited to clarify that the quoted post was the response to a PP saying
"I think it's just a towel and just wash it? Unless you asked him not to use your new towel before hand?".)

In future I'd lock your lovely pink towel away...oh and buy him a bum gun for Christmas.

I take the mick out of my DH for using such a massive amount of toilet roll - maybe i'll give him a pass now as he's never shitty

How thoughtless. Did he just grab the first available towel? We have our own towel colours and all 'play nicely' as regards only using our towel.

him just grabbing it, soiling it and then dumping it for you to wash makes him a Grade A arsehole, especially if it's a face towel. Not an LTB but very indicative of the type of person he is.

Not only is it unacceptable but it's the sheer entitlement that he's shitted it up and left the OP to clean up his mess after him.

I would suspect he’s done it on purpose as a means of showing his contempt and disrespect for you.

It should be fine after a super hot wash. I’d get an over-the-radiator towel rail and keep the towel in the bedroom on that. Once you’ve ditched the husband you can buy all the fluffy towels you like.

I'm truly sorry to disgust everyone! I just wanted to know if this was a typical man thing as I've only ever lived with one of them. And probably won't bother doing so again if this is anything approaching 'normal.' I am dreaming of the day I can go on a Dunelm shopping spree buying all the fluffy pink things I want. And I'm not even a pink fluffy girl! But I'll bloody well do it anyway.

@Universalsnail do you wipe your bum on your towel?

Wow! I often say that a man's behaviour is marking his territory like an animal, but this is the first time I've seen it done so literally. He rubber his faeces on your one nice towel! Just wow. Doesn't get any more basic than that.

Definitely a case of LTB what is there to stay for?

Nothing less attractive than a man child who can't even wipe his own arse properly. I can't imagine what other life failures he has.

@WinkyTinky definitely not normal, although if you're young you might find a higher percentage of untrained men. Common complaint, and I've visited some untidy/dirty houses of male only occupants. I'm quite a tidy bloke, and probably dodged a few bullets when I was younger. For almost all my house sharing years with friends, I was the only male living in house. Not by design, just how it worked out

It's a typical abusive man thing. It's the equivalent of animals pissing on things to show dominance.

Save your money and treat yourself once you have left. Good luck!

You should have bought him his own towel in a different colour

We all have different coloured towels here and woe betide anyone using anyone else's - looking at you DD - she tried it once never again - got a good talking to

That would make me vomit, very delicate gag reflex here.

I do agree that's it's a really bizarre thing of him to do and does seem a bit controlling having read other posts.

It would put me off him quite dramatically and be good reason to LTB as there's more to it than just using your towel.

It's a violation really

The towel wouldn’t bother me. We don’t have our own towels but the fact he doesn’t wipe or wash properly is fucking disgusting 🤢

Why should she?

Oh OP. Surely this is bigger than the towel.

I would have to leave someone like this

I think it happens more than you think. My DH does the same. Literal shit on his towel after showering. I have no idea how he manages it, I’ve told him it’s disgusting and he hasn’t done anything about it. He sleeps in the spare room and I’ve not had sex with him for 5 years.

This is nothing to do with the towel.

Who wipes shit on anything other than loo roll?!

This would be ending it territory for me.

OP, I hate to ask, but has he done it on purpose to spite you. Grown men don't use towels to wipe their bums.

If the relationship is in a bad place, has he deliberately soiled your new towel because you were getting some joy and comfort from it. If you think this might be true, it's time to LTB.