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Nomoreminecraftplease · 2023-10-21T18:31:50+00:00

Ds2 is 16 soon. He loves adult lego. He also loves star wars. He has asked for a star wars set that's 580 pounds! Thats way too much. He says its the only thing he wants. I've explained its too expensive. I'm out of ideas for alternatives its just such a lot of money and so close to Christmas aswell. Aibu?

KimberleyClark · 22/10/2023 22:48

DaftQuestionForToday · 21/10/2023 19:53

@OliveToboogie

I bet he'd think you spend an outrageous amount in make up.bags/shoes/clothes/horse...whatever YOUR thing is.

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If she does she EARNS that money.

Hankunamatata · 22/10/2023 22:48

If he wants that then it's a combined birthday and Christmas present.

Fawbs89 · 22/10/2023 22:48

There's loads on ebay

TiredCatLady · 22/10/2023 22:49

That’s more than my first car cost (which wasn’t that long ago)😟

Clingfilm · 22/10/2023 23:03

Try ali express for a really good quality knock off for a fraction of the cost, though if he's a purist I get that he'd not want that.

SadlyACupOfTeaDoesNotSolveEverything · 23/10/2023 02:16

Clingfilm · 22/10/2023 23:03

Try ali express for a really good quality knock off for a fraction of the cost, though if he's a purist I get that he'd not want that.

I think most Lego fans would rather have nothing than a knock off alternative.

OrderOfTheKookaburra · 23/10/2023 02:33

Don't get the cheap Knick off versions from Ali Express!!!! What a horrid thing to suggest, buying the fake stuff that would be against the law to actually sell in the UK.

Ask him to set up a savings account just for that, and give him some money towards it. If other people buy him gifts then let them know he is saving. For something specific and would love contributions.

The set will be around long enough for him to save up if he sets his mind to it.

My DS is 16 and also wants that set. Difference is that he has a part time job and knows if he wants it he can work and save for it himself.

EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 23/10/2023 02:36

Nomoreminecraftplease · 22/10/2023 14:05

I guess not completely out of budget. We spent more on my ds1s 18th birthday this year. We currently have £800 in our birthday/Christmas account but that includes celebrations costs well as presents. Ds2s is the last birthday before Christmas. Its such a lot of money for us to be honest

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Is he having a party? Could it be a no party combined birthday and Christmas gifts that other family chip in for?

AllosaurusMum · 23/10/2023 02:45

I think regardless of the cost that’s really crappy of you to spend so much on DS1 because his birthday is earlier in the year.

Fingerscrossedfor2021HK · 23/10/2023 04:28

It really depends on whether or not you can afford it. If you can, then it’s a lovely thing to do for him. If not, you need to explain that you can’t afford it right now but perhaps you could ask other family members to gift him cash instead and you start a piggy bank to fund the gift down the line?

Workplacenoob · 23/10/2023 05:01

@AllosaurusMum
It was DS1s 18th

Icequeen01 · 23/10/2023 05:17

My DS23 has just bought this for himself as he still loves Lego!. A word of warning - it's bloody massive! There is no way we would have bought him it for him at 16 or any age to be honest and I still cannot see why it costs so much but it's his money to waste now.

pinkfondu · 23/10/2023 05:46

This is where he learns about saving up

Zanatdy · 23/10/2023 05:51

I do spend a little more for milestone birthdays and I’d consider 16 semi milestone!! As in not as much as 18th / 30th (I’ve had both of those in the last year for DS’s) but more than say 15th. But no way I’d spend £580 on Lego. I’d give money towards it and help him get a part time job as he’s old enough to work. It’s fine to say no I cannot afford that.

Stresa22 · 23/10/2023 05:53

Even if you can afford it it’s still a lot of money on a gift for a kid who I assume needs practical things like driving lessons and saving for Uni?

givemeasunnyday · 23/10/2023 05:53

I would give him the money you would normally spend on his birthday and Christmas gifts, and if it comes to less than tell him he will have to find the rest.

ThickSkinnedSoWhat · 23/10/2023 06:15

There is not a chance on this Earth that I would ever have asked my parents for a gift this price. Especially plastic bricks. If it was something like a laptop for educational purposes I still would have been scared to ask and would have picked the cheapest. I'd suggest a part time job. I can understand why you spent more on an 18th, but it's hardly fair then to just get the 16 year old something that extravagant unless the 18 year old got the same 2 years ago either.

ThickSkinnedSoWhat · 23/10/2023 06:22

ThickSkinnedSoWhat · 23/10/2023 06:15

There is not a chance on this Earth that I would ever have asked my parents for a gift this price. Especially plastic bricks. If it was something like a laptop for educational purposes I still would have been scared to ask and would have picked the cheapest. I'd suggest a part time job. I can understand why you spent more on an 18th, but it's hardly fair then to just get the 16 year old something that extravagant unless the 18 year old got the same 2 years ago either.

I also think by saying it is all he wants, he is trying to guilt you into getting it. This wouldn't sit well with me either. At 16, I assume he no longer believes in Santa and therefore knows how much he is willing to put you out of pocket.

Wanderingowl · 23/10/2023 06:58

You could look at the knock off versions on aliexpress? They tend to be less than half the price.

DaftQuestionForToday · 23/10/2023 12:28

KimberleyClark · 22/10/2023 22:48

If she does she EARNS that money.

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@KimberleyClark

So what? He was asked what he'd like for his birthday. HE would like Lego.

When it's Olives Birthday (a poster, she's not the OP) she can choose what she would like.

she thinks Lego is too expensive, he probably thinks her choices are a waste of money.