To think this colleague was rude?

[Redcloudsinthesky]

We both work as long haul cabin crew. We are based at London Heathrow but live up north in Cheshire. We were both on the same flight so she asked if we could share a car to Heathrow and back home from Heathrow after we get back so I agreed. She wanted me to drive and use my car so I agreed. In the end she spent the whole drive complaining about everything, the music, the window, the car, pretty much everything. I just think it’s a bit rude to ask someone to drive you and then complain about absolutely everything. She was literally complaining every few minutes the whole way to Heathrow and the whole way home.

This!! I'd say the same, just to be civil and yet drive home in peace. She sounds awful! To not even give you fuel money either! How would she have got there without you? She'd have either had to drive, with her own fuel money, or train, again, of which she'd have to pay.
Try and avoid her in future!

@Redcloudsinthesky

I definitely won’t be doing it again.

Good - your colleague was rude and entitled. You did her a huge favour and she behaved badly - and saved the cost of the petrol she'd have to pay for as well. 🌹

We are already back. The lift down to Heathrow was earlier this week.

I wouldn't have given her a lift back, I'd have told her to find her own way home.

She sounds a nightmare. Then to offer no petrol money is awful

I don't think she'll want lift again, so no problem.

She wasn't polite and she obviously didn't enjoy your taste in music or the amount of fresh air and let you know about it. Personally I would have tried to compromise in the music and fresh air and asked her for half the petrol money.

Well of course it was rude, but there is no point in complaining about it - it's over and done. Just don't let there be a repeat performance! Some people have no concept of basic good manners.

Colleague gave me a lift from Manchester to Heathrow and back. She played awful music the whole time and I was freezing as she insisted on having the windows open. I mentioned several times that I was uncomfortable but she didn't care. I couldn't sleep for the noise and cold. Should I offer her petrol money? I'm loathe to do so in case she wants to car-share again.

That lift sounds the stuff of my nightmares. I'd definitely not ask for another lift so a win-win I suppose.

A colleague offered a lift once after a night shift. Only 10mins drive - but the windows down, awful music, she was speeding and even managed half a fag. The smell🤮
I didn't say anything but now I disappear pronto at the end of the shifts.

Your car, your rules.

If she'd wanted a kip or the wind noise was hurting her ears she could have said so, but she didn't.

If she had a headache and thats why the music was upsetting, again, she could have used her words effectively, instead of just moaning.

Ultimately, you want a lift, from someone who has zero obligation to give you a lift, and you're not intending on contributing to the costs... you put up and you shut up unless you're really bloody poorly (like, about to vom everywhere).

You let her leave rubbish in your car?

Your car, your choice. Personally I’d prefer talk radio to music and chatting to a random

shes a CF. Cadging a free lift and not offering petrol money is rude enough without the rest. Don’t do her any more favours.

I mean, music on full blast and windows wide open as you drive down a motorway would bother me.

And I might have asked you to close the windows and turn it down op.
Especially if I didn't like the music.

But I'd ask politely. It's still rude to "complain". I guess it depends how she expressed it.

Because it's rude to go to sleep in the car if you're the only other passenger, the driver is doing you a favour by giving you a lift and you have no intention of doing any share of the driving.

@Someoneonlyyouknow I'm not sure what you are achieving to achieve with this post other than sounding rather odd

It’s a non issue now anyway never give this person a lift again under any circumstances and you enjoy your drive home how you like 👍. Window open is a non issue too, your car, your rules. Your colleague sounds like a really big CF to me. You sound like a lovely accommodating person however, I hope you have learnt your lesson NEVER go out of your way for a CF like this again.

Driver chooses the music, shotgun shuts their cakehole.

If I'd cadged a lift from London to Cheshire I'd have kept my mouth shut at the music but , by The Midlands, I'd possibly have asked for the windows to be shut, especially at this time of the year and on a motorway ( the racket!)

However it is your choice.

Just a bit concerned that you need to play music and have your windows open on a long drive after a long flight in order to stay awake.
That is not safe.

She can make her own way OR accept the terms of the driver!