To think this colleague was rude?

[Redcloudsinthesky]

We both work as long haul cabin crew. We are based at London Heathrow but live up north in Cheshire. We were both on the same flight so she asked if we could share a car to Heathrow and back home from Heathrow after we get back so I agreed. She wanted me to drive and use my car so I agreed. In the end she spent the whole drive complaining about everything, the music, the window, the car, pretty much everything. I just think it’s a bit rude to ask someone to drive you and then complain about absolutely everything. She was literally complaining every few minutes the whole way to Heathrow and the whole way home.

The drive home was the worse. I normally do it with music on and the window open but she was trying to insist on all windows closed and no music the whole way. She tried to do the same on the way to Heathrow as well.

Just been looking at my roster and she’s on another flight with me next week, definitely won’t be giving her another lift unfortunately.

Yeah that's awful! Tell her to get a coach next time.

She has a car, she just said that she didn’t want to drive it this time!

@Redcloudsinthesky it gets worse with every update!

I thought cabin crew had to live within 30 mins of the airport?

You can live further away, you are just supposed to stay in hotels the night before your flight and night after you get home before driving home or at least have a rest before driving home but most crew don’t to be honest.

To be fair to OP’s colleague I can kind of see her point. I wouldn’t want to spend a drive home from Heathrow listening to music the whole time, what if OP’s colleague just wanted to sleep on the way but she couldn’t because of OP’s music? I’m with your colleague here, you are being unreasonable OP I think.

No more lifts for her ever!

What? It's OPs car, she's doing the colleague a massive favour and not even getting petrol money. If colleague wants quiet and closed windows she takes her own car!

That’s a bitch of a commute. How does she normally get home?

Was the window wide open? On the motorway? Creating that horrible ear hurting whistling vacuum?

That was pretty inhospitable of you if so.

OP isn’t a chauffeur or taxi, or any paid service. What sort of entitled brat dictates the conditions when someone is doing them a huge favour? Suck it up or drive yourself.

She shouldn't have asked for a lift without checking then. At least she got to rest, the OP had to stay alert to drive.

I think it's like 'my house my rules', only moreso. If I was driving someone I wouldn't be able to deal with chattering and I'd need the ventilation and heating to my requirements.

She said she normally drives in her own car but she said she just didn’t want to do that this time for some reason.

She definitely did not want to sleep. She just wanted complete silence for some reason. She never once suggested that she wanted to sleep.

Why do you have the window open for the three hour motorway commute? Is it to prevent you from falling asleep?

Whole thing sounds dangerous tbh. Why do you flout the safety rules?

To be honest when I’m driving back late at the night it’s the breeze/wind coming through the window that keeps me awake (as well as coffee) as well as the music. Done this job 29 years so I’m very used to this drive.

The window is not fully wide open.

That whistling noise hurts your ears

This. You sound very ignorant and entitled OP.

How do you know that she didn’t want to sleep OP? Maybe she did want to sleep and couldn’t because you had music on and the window open.

What is OP’s colleague wanted to sleep though and couldn’t because of OP? I know that I wouldn’t be able to sleep on a motorway with the window open and music on.

I wouldn’t let myself fall asleep at the wheel. I would pull over and stop driving if I felt way too tired or like I was going to fall asleep.