It’s a shame the class Teddy is attached to Star of the Week - I have one for my reception class and it’s pulled out the pot so everyone sees it’s random - a bit like the daily class helper.
However - it’s not all sunshine and roses this way either! For the first couple of children who’s names were drawn, it was ages ago to their 4 year old minds and they sit there looking hopeful every Friday and get upset that their name hasn’t been drawn and basically haven’t grasped that if they do get a second go, it won’t be till towards Easter (I’m in a private school so a smaller class, but I’m still going to have to calculate if everyone can even have it twice).
And even this way doesn’t stop the parents requests. I’ve had emails each week asking for their child to be next for similar reasons as above (it’s making them sad), I’m getting requests for special events, people requesting it for the half term week because their child deserves it more……I’m going to be honest, I’m not taking any of it and politely reminding parents that’s it’s a random draw and remaining that way otherwise it’s just a never ending can of worms.
I agree with someone above - write a class list at home and get him to tick off so he can see that he isn’t alone. Now if people start getting it a second time before someone has it a first time, yes say something, but it won’t help him to request it because come next term or whatever he’s just going to get disappointed again and again when his turn has been done. Let him wait, it will be all the more exciting for him when he’s genuinely chosen. Do you really want him chosen because you complained or for him to be genuinely chosen and recognised for something good?
The truth behind the bear’s weekly allocation will be a combination of good behaviour, ticking off down a list, an incentive for good behaviour for certain children, as well as being used as a tool for less settled children (particularly the first few weeks to give them something exciting to associate with school) - and somewhere in there will be quiet children who just get on with it who get thrown in and then there’ll be the few who come up every week as a good possible but ultimately will be held till last because they will be deemed as sensible, patient, resilient, and always deserving so just kind of “held”.
The reward systems aren’t always easy. We don’t have star of the week thank god but we do have reward assemblies and yes I have a list and yes someone has to be last.
Give your son a big hug, his turn is coming, have a little rewards system at home for him and use it as a learning opportunity.