Why is a married man copying me?

[ItsDrizzlingNow]

I have this new colleague, he is married. He’s been doing this thing where he copies me, like copying my movements and gestures.

I don’t know what to make of it. Some people think he’s just being friendly but I have noticed he does this to no one else but me and I don’t know why.

Like, if I’m standing and I lean on the wall, he’ll copy me too and do the same. If I’m sitting and I cross my arms, he’ll copy me and do it do. While saying nothing and not making any conversation with me. He’s paying attention a lot to me and my gestures and imitates what I do regularly.

Like if I say hello, he’ll say hello too. If I ignore him, he’ll ignore me too. He never acts like this with any other person at work apart from me. I don’t understand?

He must be in love with you

He makes no conversation with me, just silently copies what I do. AIBU to feel confused by this???

LOL @OnlyFannys

What's his being married got to do with it 😅

Are you sure it’s not a mirror next to your desk?

@CatLoaf because he’s acting strange towards another woman at work when his wife’s not there

I thought you were sitting opposite a mirror too OP!

Oh do stop it 😂😂😂

If you think he fancies you, just say so.

I mean what difference does it make?

“Like if I say hello, he’ll say hello too.”

Tell this to HR. He’s clearly dangerous.

That's just mirroring....I do it subconsciously after years in sales

Do you mean in a flirtatious way, @ItsDrizzlingNow ? Like what teenage boys used to do when we were all in Year 9? Maybe he has a crush and wants to flirt so is trying to do it in a way which will offend his wife the least? Sounds odd.

He thinks that if he mirrors you you will be flattered and win his approval. Are you senior to him?

Married or not, he fancies you and it’s his way of getting into your hood books of your circle.

Whatever he’s up to he’s behaving like a twerp.

’Why are you randomly copying whatever I do bloke at work?’

Then you shall have your answer 🙄

He makes no conversation with me though apart from if I say hello in passing?

Mirroring someone's body language can be a sign of admiration or attraction and is often subconscious.

Chances are he’s just terrible at talking to Women and knows it.
Copying mannerisms is common really but he sounds like he’s doing it too excess to fit in.
But he might fancy you as well lol

He’s new, perhaps he’s nervous. Why not trying making conversation? Get to know him a bit and try to help put him at ease rather than wasting time on noticing something as trivial as him ‘copying’ you.

But what's with the fake wide-eyes?

You've basically told us he fancies you without telling us he fancies you.

So there's your answer - he fancies you.

If he's getting on your nerves then tell him.

He read a book on neuro linguistic programming which told him to do this to build rapport.

Seems fairly standard to say hello only when someone else initiates the conversation, if he's not naturally talkative.

The other mirroring behaviours could be a sign of conscious or unconscious attraction, or maybe you're only imagining that he's singling you out.

If he was attracted to me, he would be initiating conversation… but he doesn’t

Maybe it's a twin flame thing and he is posting on Reddit about this strange woman at work who keeps copying him...

Perhaps he has a mental condition OR he is sort of teasing you and think he's being clever?

Do a headstand and see what happens

Sharpening his mime skills so he can have a new career as a street performer?