Why is a married man copying me?

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I have this new colleague, he is married. He’s been doing this thing where he copies me, like copying my movements and gestures.

I don’t know what to make of it. Some people think he’s just being friendly but I have noticed he does this to no one else but me and I don’t know why.

Like, if I’m standing and I lean on the wall, he’ll copy me too and do the same. If I’m sitting and I cross my arms, he’ll copy me and do it do. While saying nothing and not making any conversation with me. He’s paying attention a lot to me and my gestures and imitates what I do regularly.

Like if I say hello, he’ll say hello too. If I ignore him, he’ll ignore me too. He never acts like this with any other person at work apart from me. I don’t understand?

Yes. Does anyone else remember the repetitive 'married colleague covertly fancies me and wants to leave his wife, we've never actually spoken but I just KNOW it!!' Threads?

And if he says you were doing it, look confused, deny it, say why would I do such a strange thing and ask if he's feeling ok.

Please please please please please pretty please do this!

Maybe a bend and snap as well. Or splits. Or some Cossack dancing.

Don't most people say hello back if you say hello to you and ignore you if you ignore them?

What is your workplace? If you’re both teachers try doing heads shoulders knees and toes next time it’s your turn to do assembly

No I mean he started ignoring me because I ignored him. He wasn’t doing this before I started.

When I decided to start talking to him again, he also starts.

I would ignore a work colleague if they ignored me too (unless it was about work). What else can you possibly do in that situation?

I meant go quote this!

Well? Do we think work colleague fancies OP?

It’s just NLP body language mirroring, isn’t it?

honestly am lol at the headstand suggestions.

that mirroring thing makes me want to vomit as i got conned by someone who did it before i knew it was a thing.

my actual point is that i find myself copying people when i'm talking to them - because i like them and i can't fight it tbh. (just friends. i'm not using it with any non existent dating i'm not doing).

but i agree with the headstand/macarena/ suggestions.
also is the man a letch?

He's mimicking you. Probably thinks you're great and wants to be like you.

Is it so blatant that other colleagues notice it too?

Not sure why other posters mocking you are ignoring that this is a well-known 'how to pick up a woman' technique. He's probably socially inept and making it too obvious.

Why do you care, op? As in, is he freaking you out, or are you desperate for him to like you?

I care because I’ve noticed it happening

But isn't that fairly normal? If you were ignoring him, then he's taken the hint and is ignoring you back. Seems fair enough?

Mirroring other people’s behaviour is often what very empathetic people do. It’s generally subconscious.

This is almost certainly why. Nothing to do with his marital status.

Would it have been acceptable if he was single?

It sounds like a weird clunky PUA thing.

Pick your nose, fix your bra straps and twiddle imaginary chin hairs.

Claaaassy!

He's done NLP or 'building rapport' courses and learnt that 'mirroring' someone is a good way of building rapport but he's not great at it.

psychcentral.com/health/echopraxia#:~:text=Mimicking%20or%20mirroring%20someone%20else's,it%20isn't%20as%20common.

imaginehealth.ie/the-psychology-of-mirroring/

You could have some fun with it.

Hand on hip and the other hand stretched out and hand bent over in the style of a teapot!

Or Y M C A!

See if he will copy you then!

Notice how OP is swerving all the questions about whether or not she likes this bloke.

He’s married.