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Husband out after work

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Swizzel1408 · 19/10/2023 19:28

We have a 9 week old DD and I am on maternity leave for the next ten months or
so.
DH works in London 3 days a week and loves to join his colleagues
for drinks after work. This has always been in the case but he promised he would cut back when the baby arrived. He hasn’t and is out 1-2 nights a week after work, he might be home by 7pm or it could be later but he’s really bad at keeping in touch and I mostly hate to chase to find out when he’ll be back.

He has absolutely no problem with me going out and will happily watch our DD while I do but I don’t really want to go out drinking and am still at the stage where my friends want to meet our baby so she will come with me when I meet friends.

I don’t begrudge him going out either but during the week is tough because he’s out from 6:30am- whenever. I don’t have family nearby to help so it’s all on me…

AIBU to want these nights to stop?

OP posts:
Coffeerum · 19/10/2023 19:34

1 night seems like a reasonable compromise.

Making a rule that he isn’t ever allowed to
do something after work is quite over the top unless it’s a particularly difficult week with the baby.

Torganer · 19/10/2023 19:35

I think one night a week sounds reasonable. Especially if he is happy for you to do the same.

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