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Clever ideas for petty revenge...

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2021x · 18/10/2023 03:53

Petty revenge... with a purpose.

I live in a flat and one of my immediate neighbours of a married (gay) couple, is an hostile but cowardly goblin. A couple of years ago at the height of the pandemic lockdowns, there was some increasingly hostile emails being sent about people using the washing line or something, and I asked him to tone it down. That night, he had had a few bottles of wine, lost his shit and attempted to kick in my door and banged on my windows screaming all types of abuse. It was so bad, I thought he was having a pyschotic break and was frozen in fear and 3 different people called the police. Afterwards, his husband who is very sweet and kind, wanted me to come into their flat so he could apologise to me but, that was a hard no, and there was some more intimidating behaviour after that. After a few weeks I was still terrified, so I followed up with the Police. They visited him, he told them that all he did was kick my door a few times and screamed at me, and that wasn't illegal and no harm done. The police informed him that it very much was illegal and told him to stay away from me. Since then, I have been scared about getting entering and leaving my own home and everytime I hear them putting the bottles out in the recyling in case he kicks off again and I also avoid walking past their flat at all costs (including hurricaines)

Getting on to my problem. I live at the end of the building and to access the west set of stairs, people have to walk past my bathroom window, front kitchen window, and then as the stairs go down the side of the builiding passes the side ktichen window. Every morning this mad bastard goes out of his way to take this route rather than other shorter more sheltered east stairs, like his husband now does since the warning from the police.

However, I have now grown a spine and I want to take action to stop him intimidating me. I know I can't obstruct him or the common areas and I am not going to speak to him, but I really want to put up something in my window that makes him so uncomfortable he has to stop. Obviously he is not a reasonable person i.e. perpetural victim, militant vegan, has violent outbursts that he (blames on a head injury rather than alcohol), and is deeply mysogynistic.

I was thinking about getting some sort of pornographic style picutres of women, something that will disgust him so much he won't want to walk past but do any of you wise mumsnetters have any other more classy or clever suggestions, recommendations etc.

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Thepeopleversuswork · 18/10/2023 14:38

I find these sorts of "revenge" ideas batshit tbh.

See also all the suggestions for revenge against cheating husbands. Or people who recommend blocking and deleting friends etc.

The most fundamental point about these sorts of people is that above all they want to get inside your head. If you put porn up in the window or any kind of clandestine "signal" its a sure fire signal to him that he has indeed got to you.

Why the fuck would you give anyone that kind of power? The correct approach in any situation like this is ALWAYS to ignore, rise above.

plumtreebroke · 18/10/2023 14:43

Put somethings with eyes looking out through the windows I read somewhere that eyes looking out make people subconsciously nervous. Stuffed owls or ornaments with faces, rag dolls, whatever you have or could get cheaply. So he feels you are watching him.

Vinvertebrate · 18/10/2023 14:43

Anonymous glitter bomb.

bonzaitree · 18/10/2023 14:57

I would put that film on where you can see out but others can’t see in. Or get a nice voile or blind. Then ignore.

Diegofrompennyburn · 18/10/2023 15:01

There is NOTHING you could put in the window that will magically make him go "Oh what a fool I've been, I shall instantly change my ways".

girlfriend44 · 18/10/2023 15:27

No just let it go fgs.

Soubriquet · 18/10/2023 15:47

Send him an anonymous glitter bomb Grin

LostThestral · 18/10/2023 15:49

I'd be gleefully tapping on the window as he passed & giving a happy jaunty wave, but then I am very childish

SurvivingCPTSD · 18/10/2023 15:58

ALittleTeawithmilk · 18/10/2023 07:30

Obviously. But I can’t see how a beautiful painting of a vagina is pornographic. It doesn’t strike me as ‘porn’

I’m just surprised other people would think that way. (Perhaps people of strict religions) . Not being combatitive, just a bit surprised about it, is all.

I agree with @ALittleTeawithmilk . It's not porn. It's art.

redribbonrose · 18/10/2023 19:32

Send something nasty in the post

One of those glitter cannons

TheSweetEndOfTheLollipop · 18/10/2023 19:53

Be careful with some of those window films. The reflective ones only work when it's light outside. When it's dark outside and light inside, they have the reverse effect! It means people can see in at night when the light is on.

BigSwiss · 19/10/2023 10:41

clakster14 · 18/10/2023 08:08

When my absolutely vile steroid addicted woman hating thug of a neighbour called me a fat cunt for no reason I lost nearly 7 stone. His vile remark has changed my life for the better. I look fantastic and feel it. First time he saw me in skinny jeans was priceless. I turned the situation round to suit me. Not for everyone I know but it's a priceless piece of revenge on my part

Go you! Just wonderful!

Whataretheodds · 19/10/2023 10:45

Don't do any of these petty things. You will put yourself in the wrong.

Either keep a record of his deliberate taking of the long route past your windows, and report to the police - it could constitue harassment.

Or, don't do that and ignore him.

MrsSkylerWhite · 19/10/2023 10:48

Sign him up for JW literature. They’ll be round within hours.

Or, be better than him, put a nice big plant in your window and ignore.

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 19/10/2023 10:50

Sunbird24 · 18/10/2023 08:07

I’d probably put up some of that one way window film so that you can still see out but all he can see is himself. Not on the whole window, only as high as he’d be able to see in if he were trying.

This is what I was going to suggest. It is very effective, and you can remove it easily, it isn’t stuck, it stays on through static .

BigSwiss · 19/10/2023 11:02

LostAtTheCrossRoad · 18/10/2023 08:10

Reflective window film, a Ring doorbell and cctv in by the kitchen. Do not engage.

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