To be absolutely fuming at my son

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His friend stayed last night. I couldn’t find my toothbrush today. Turns out it was in his bathroom - he allowed his friend to use it. I feel a disgusted but so angry. Not sure if he should be grounded or just the friend never stays ever again. He’s 12.

Surely the natural consequence is he pays for your new toothbrush?

YABU. 12 year olds can be stunningly dim sometimes.
Keep spare cheap toothbrushes. Remind child to ask next time and stress the importance of not sharing these things for hygiene reasons.
Grounding would be ridiculous.

Gross! Why would the friend want to use someone else’s bush?

Seems a bit OTT! Chuck the toothbrush, buy a new one (or your son can if he gets pocket money) and have a stern word to never do it again!

Get a new tooth brush and an extra one.

Make him buy you a new toothbrush then move on. Don’t make a mountain out of a molehill

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Yes it is. But it’s more than that. It’s really really upset me. They had to come into my bedroom, then my bathroom to take it. Disgusting g.

What a massive overreaction! Just get a new tooth brush. They’re 12.

I think you need to calm down a little
12 is still young - immature and not thinking things through are part of the territory

Im sorry it haas upset you so much- I also hate my things been touched or moved. It’s an element of parenting I find really difficult.

I have a 12 yo boy too and find it really odd that they would do this- my son just wouldn’t brush his teeth! At least you’ve really embedded the teeth brushing!

Honestly OP, as your kids become teenagers you have to learn to pick your battles.

I would be telling DS it was out of order, but to be honest I probably would have laughed at his audacity.

Buy spare toothbrushes as this could easily happen again.

Honestly you are overreacting.

Keep spare toothbrushes. Explain hygiene to your DS and tell him where the spare ones will be next time.

I'm sorry to say this isn't a rational response. I'd expect to see this filed under 'you'll not believe the gross thing my son did lol' not 'reasons to ground your child & be furious'.

It’s the fact I don’t feel unsure if it’s ever happened before and I’ve just not known. Ugh it genuinely makes me feel sick. Maybe I’m over reacting then. Fine I’m over sensitive about my toothbrush.

I get that you're upset, but it's a massive overreaction to say his friend can't ever stay again.

You’re really overreacting. Get him to buy you a new one and maybe keep a few spares in the house.

Just make him pay for the toothbrush from pocket money. It’s not a big crime, he’s just been an idiot 12! Grounding him or stopping sleepovers is a step too far

It wasn’t my son - it was his friend who used it.

It's just a toothbrush and your son is 12. A bit dim but compared to some 12 year olds he sounds fine.

Do you like your child? Sure doesn’t seem so

massive over reaction, kids do stupid things. He didn’t do it to upset you

This is another reason why electric ones are useful, just change the head and move on with life rather than having to go out and buy a new one with unbrushed teeth 😃

Jesus. Calm down, your poor son! Grounded, really?!

Gross but you’re over reacting! Tell him it’s gross and to not do it again… buy a new one and a pack of spares for his bathroom. Easy.

I really don’t think it’s a big deal. Explain your room and bathroom are off limits when friends are over. Buy a new toothbrush for yourself and keep a few spares. 🤷🏼‍♀️
Don’t really think with all the awful things happening in the world it’s something to be that fussed about.