Aibu to feel extreme embarrassment at my behaviour when drunk?

[Ohdearohdearohdeme]

Woken up this morning with the dreaded beer fear at my behaviour when drunk

please tell me it gets better and the embarrassment goes away after a while. Thought I’d left these days behind

I’ll state the obvious then… don’t drink?

hope you head feels better soon.

I am not safe when drunk and rarely, if ever, drink much these days.

The only way to stop feeling bad about your drunken behaviour is to not get drunk I’m afraid.

Dis you do anything especially embarrassing or just general anxiety? Hangxiety seems to get worse as you age (as do hangovers) so I don't really bother with it anymore

Yes I did say some bad things to two people!

Trust me I’ll never be drinking again

The fear will pass op. Awful at the time though

Oh god, the dreaded beer fear.

Don't worry, it'll get better in a few days.

My only concern would be if you were out for work drinks, hopefully not and you don't have to face your colleagues tomorrow 🙈

Honestly just stop drinking. Either your behaviour is embarrassing so it’ll stop if you don’t drink or it’s fine but your hangxiety is affecting you so it’ll stop if you don’t drink. Win win for you.

I stopped drinking because I’m sometimes a knob when I’m drunk and I’m much happier for it.

If you said bad things then you need to apologise for that and put it right if you can. Don't just hope that the embarrassment will subside.

And then you need to think about your relationship with alcohol.

It wasn’t work friend thank god

It wasn’t even friends it was an ex and then my daughters ex. I thoight I was being funny and witty at the time but I wasn’t!

I woke up this morning feeling gutted about somethings a "friend" who gets angry drunk said to me last night. Don't really want to see them again on a night out tbh as they have done this twice now and it's upsetting.

I have to ask, why were there so many exes at an event?

also, what did you say? I am the worst for drinking wine (always when I drink wine) and saying stupid shit that I really shouldn’t say. So you have my sympathy OP! If it makes you feel any better they’re exes for a reason, so fuck em!

I couldn’t repeat some of the things I’ve done, but at least you have an excuse. I’ve noticed for a while now that I’m naturally saying & doing drunken like stuff, & I’m sober.

Alcohol is famous for making you anxious ‘the morning after’, you’ll feel better tomorrow and this time next week, you won’t care. But, don’t ask for gentle support from MN on anything to do with cringey drunk behaviour. They’ll make you feel like you need to sign up to AA for that one night in a blue moon where you drank too much 🙄

Let it go….

Mee too. I think it's as I've got older I'm giving less of a fuck what people think of me and just won't tolerate fools gladly anymore😆😆😆

Ah if it’s exes don’t worry about it. I once said something horrible to a friend after a night on white wine. Thankfully she was drunk to and couldn’t remember it that well herself. I still cringe about it now though. I stick to vodka now.

Oh god. Don't worry, it's an ex!

These things happen. Rest up, have a long bath and try to get some sleep.

Perhaps lay off the wine for a while 😆

I am seriously considering no longer going out drinking. A few at home is fine. But when I go out (which is rare these days) I almost always get carried away and end up making a tit of myself in some way or another. I used to be much worse behaved when I was younger but the hangxiety has definitely gotten worse too. I just figure its not worth it. Also everybody films and takes photos these days too which doesn't help with the fear.

You will feel better after a meal and a good sleep.

Everyone feels like this when they have drank to much you aren't the first and won't be the last.

Same happened to me about 18mths ago - I’ve stopped drinking.
There are some really quite acceptable zero alcohol drinks about now, so most of my friends haven’t even noticed I’m not drinking.
It’s nice to still have a bottle of beer or wine glass in my hand though, turns out it’s enough that it seems like booze!

Is this whenever you drink? If so it sounds like alcohol does not suit you, some people can drink and be reasonable, some can't.

No it’s not whenever I drink in fact it’s unlike me!
mum not worried about my ex but it’s DD’s ex that worries me! I was just joking around saying why did you finish with DD and that shes got loads of boys after anyway! But it didn’t go down to well and now DD is upset, however she wanted me to speak to hi at first - 😣

Oh the horrors the day after the night before! Yuk! Poor you…

I had to stop in my 40s as I couldn’t handle the anxiety the next day

take it easy on yourself, be thankful it was an ex!

its the most awful feeling