Catering for a vegetarian?!

[Magenta3]

My brother's gf is a vegetarian. We're having everyone over next weekend for a get together. My family eats a lot of meat and I feel a bit unsure of what to cook her, and if I'm being honest I don't see why we should change our catering for one person.

I asked my brother to bring along some of their own food for her (he eats meat so will be fine, it's literally only for her) and he seemed annoyed at me. He obliged but I could tell he wasn't happy. When we've been to theirs she doesn't cook meat for us so it feels one sided. She jokes she'd probably poison us as she doesn't know how to cook meat but realistically she doesn't want to cook it, so why should we for her?

IF and it is a big IF

IF you would like to have this person over to your house then your attitude is unreasonable.

Providing food is a fairly standard element of hosting but currently you are blaming her for your lack of confidence which isn't fair.

A good technique to consider if you're feeding a lot of people might be tapas style where there are lots of bowls of food some of which are vegetarian and some of which aren't.

Unfortunately you will never win this argument on Mumsnet however I totally agree, I choose to eat meat, she chooses not too but I don’t see why her choice is more important than my own

Yes but presumably you don't eat only meat? So why would it be a problem to eat things made out of non-meat ingredients that you normally eat anyway? Do you literally never eat any meals without meat in them? I eat meat. I also really like lots of vegetarian dishes, because I'm not a caveperson, a barbarian or living in the last century.

So you want a vegetarian to cook meat for you, but you won't cook without meat for her.

And you don't know what to cook for her? Have you tried Googling "what to cook for a vegetarian"?

Just bear in mind that some people are vegetarian because they don't like the taste and/ or texture of meat. In which case meat subs like Quorn can be a bit grim. They're also highly processed. Chickpeas are great though - go in many different dishes and are very good for you.

A curry night is so easy to do to suit meat eaters and veggies just do one meat option one veggie and all the sides are veggie anyway! We have a veggie in the family and this goes down a treat even if we didn’t I’d prob do the 2 options anyway!

@Magenta3

If you're making curry it couldn't be easier. Find Chetna Makan on YouTube and look up her vegetarian dishes. She has a simple mixed vegetable curry that is sooo easy and delicious. And lots of others, including cauliflower ones.

And don't buy a ready meal ffs! What a crap goat would that make you!!!

There is a lovely recipe for a paneer jalfrezi on gousto.. you could cook the sauce and then add chicken for you and a separate paneer one for her

If the scenario when you go over to hers does your family only take meat, and only eat the meat they've taken, then what you say is fair. If actually you eat lots of vegetarian stuff that she has made, then not fair. I imagine that actually you and everyone else would easily eat a number of vegetarian dishes, so there's no reason for you not to make them.

@CurlewKate I am sorry but 'Crap Goat'
That's my new favourite insult.

Hey OP I don't know what everyone is complaining about, if you're making a curry then clearly the gf can eat the rice as that's vegetarian. Obviously she should be grateful for that. 😂

@HerRoyalGoddess Someone did actually put this forward as a genuine suggestion earlier in the thread 😁

All I could hear was Denise Royle saying “You could make a load of turkey sandwiches, and they could just take the turkey out themselves”.

Jeeze op.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=R4HV-qsMI2M

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You are being so rude! She’s a vegetarian ffs. This sounds like something my nan would have said 50 years ago. You clearly can’t cook if you can’t find a suitable meal that everyone would enjoy. I eat a lot of meat but have no issue if someone cooks a non meat option if there is someone who doesn’t eat meat!

Wow very rude

You need to grow up

I’m stunned that you can compare yourself, a person who eats meat and plant based foods in terms of your cookies repertoire, to someone who does not touch meat being expected to cater for meat eaters. Mind boggling.

I wonder if there is more to it. Do you dislike her? Is she of a different cultural background to you? It can’t just be a good thing, surely. Not in this day and age where plant based meals are SO easily accessible.

You may think that sort of thing never happens
But
My aunt in Ireland did the traditional one pot stew of potatoes, cabbage and bacon. ( or is it called ham….)
I ( vegetarian ) was dished up the potatoes and cabbage from the same pot dripping in pig fat.

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I would cancel if I was your brother. I would assume, rightly, you didn’t really want us for dinner at all. You are being so rude and your brother must be very embarrassed of his inhospitable family.

Don’t be remotely surprised when they go low contact. You come across as very judgemental. It’s not hard to provide a dinner minus meat. Nothing extra is required unless you are serving a hunk of steak and literally nothing else. 🙄

Can’t you all just have a vegetarian meal. Isn’t that something that you would do regularly anyway?

And by the way you do sound like the most crap of all goats.

If you are making curry YABVVVU.

Who serves just one type of curry? I'd always have at least one vegi curry along with the 'main' curry, pakoras, reads, raitha...

My standard is one meat, one veg, one dhal with rice and some form of bread.

If you don't want to make a curry from scratch get a packet of frozen mixed veg and a jar of curry sauce, stick them both in a pan and heat.

If you don't want to make a curry from scratch get a packet of frozen mixed veg and a jar of curry sauce, stick them both in a pan and heat.

I think I would rather have the pot noodle!