Catering for a vegetarian?!

[Magenta3]

My brother's gf is a vegetarian. We're having everyone over next weekend for a get together. My family eats a lot of meat and I feel a bit unsure of what to cook her, and if I'm being honest I don't see why we should change our catering for one person.

I asked my brother to bring along some of their own food for her (he eats meat so will be fine, it's literally only for her) and he seemed annoyed at me. He obliged but I could tell he wasn't happy. When we've been to theirs she doesn't cook meat for us so it feels one sided. She jokes she'd probably poison us as she doesn't know how to cook meat but realistically she doesn't want to cook it, so why should we for her?

You’re being a bit OTT. What is everyone else having?

So you want to invite someone over to dinner but you don’t want to provide food for them? How rude.

Because you can eat meals without meat in them and she can’t eat meals with meat in them and may be ethically opposed. Yes YABU and a bit rude.
It’s not difficult to include some vegetarian things in a dinner.

I think you're overreacting, I'm a meat-eater myself, but if one of my DS's bought a vegetarian GF home, there is plenty of easy ready made vegetarian food you can pick up if its too much work for you. No one is asking you to make a gourmet meal.

Christ. Why are you so resentful? It’s not remotely difficult to make food that is not meat. If you didn’t eat a thing for ethical reasons you would not cook it for someone else. Obviously. So no, you don’t get to make a vegetarian cook meat for you.

What are you making everyone else? It’s pretty easy to make a veggie alternative to most dishes.

Roast = replace meat with veggie pie, serve with same veg as you
spag bol = alternative veggie sauce (even just pesto you’re feeling lazy/uninspired)
pizza = easy

I think you’re just bring a bit resistant/spiteful tbh.

What are you planning on cooking? I imagine there's a quick simple something that can be chucked in for the veggie if you want suggestions? I mean, just do it. It's a dickish move not to.
As a veggie myself, I am very bad at cooking meat (although I do try, I use a meat thermometer and everything pleased with myself smile)

Do you have meat at every single meal? Could you not all eat veggie for one meal, e.g. a nut roast or veg lasagne?

Alternatively just do her a veggie version of whatever the rest of you are having, e.g. for steak and chips you can buy decent mushroom based steaks.

You don’t sound v friendly!

Don’t you have veg with your meat? So she could have that with you and a vegetarian pie or similar from the shops?

You're making it into a problem when it really isn't one. Unless you only eat meat and have allergies to all other foods. I take it that isn't the case?

YABVU.
I cant believe you've invited someone over to eat and asked them to bring their own food.
Cooking a pasta and stirring in some meat after you've taken her serving out is not beyond your capability.
Do you have meat in every meal you cook?

Do you dislike her?

That's so rude of you

Surely there's not only meat being served? No veggies, nothing at all? It's super easy to cater for a vegetarian - even a pasta is easy to make. So Yabu.
I would absolutely not cater for a vegan though.

YABU, really rude of you, I expect she feels unwelcome.

Usually people who can only cook meals with meat in them aren’t great cooks. At the very least they are unimaginative and probably not great with flavours. That goes for restaurants with one pithy vegetarian offering too.

I’d probably stop off at the local Lebanese or Indian restaurant and bring my own.

My God. They still walk among us. Even 38 years ago, when I decided to be vegetarian, people didn't respond with such annoyance. It was SO limited then (you got a cheese salad, a nut roast or just the vegetables in those days- which is fine btw) but now there's a myriad of choices everywhere!

As PP have said, if you can't be bothered, there's loads of gourmet ready meals out there to pop in an oven.

I never expect friends to go to any bother, a simple pasta dish more than satisfies me- whap a bit of goat's cheese & some herbs on & I'm ecstatic. It's not hard.

Even my wee mammy sorted me nice food in her 70s. Because I you care you do.

DS's gf is vegan. It's an adjustment for everything - even cuppa & a cake is different, but you just adjust.

You can’t have one vegetarian meal in your whole day/week/life?

wow. That’s a bit scary.

Is this a reverse?

YABVU.

You honestly can’t cook and enjoy any meal that doesn’t include meat? Seriously?

Why so angry she doesn’t eat meat? How unusual.

Calling a reverse

It's poor hosting to not cater for her. Really not hard to get veggie food these days.

I'm inclined to agree.

if I'm being honest I don't see why we should change our catering for one person.

I am not a vegetarian but I think it's madness than in this day and age someone should be treating a non-meat meal like it's a niche option. You sound like you've been living under a rock. And also a bit hostile.

Also for many many (ethical, health environmental...) reasons we all should be eating a lot more non-meat meals than meat based ones. If you really can't bear to go without meat for one meal (and as I said I think it's something we should all be doing) then just make something you can easily adapt for a vegetarian. How hard can it be? I am a shit cook and even I could manage it. Wouldn't even think twice about it to be honest.

She is only vegetarian, it really isn't hard!
Do you not like her or something?