To think it's not funny anymore or am I just being uptight?

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I fell over when out with a relative, I'm quite badly bruised and burst into tears from the shock and embarrassment after falling. I'm in my 20s so there was no concern about my being seriously injured, but I was still badly bruised and in pain. It happened in front of a huge crowd and was really embarrassing.

My relative found it hilarious watching me fall over, and stood there laughing whilst a stranger came over and helped me stand back up again. I laughed it off as well at the time, and tried to make a joke of it as I didn't want to take myself too seriously and I was embarrassed as a lot of people had seen it happen.

The whole day when I was with my relative they would randomly start laughing to themselves, and say they were thinking about when I fell over. They found it hilarious and kept bringing it up. It's been a few days now and they still laugh, like when they first see me they will start laughing and tell me they're remembering about when I fell over.

I'm finding it really tedious and annoying now, as I don't find it funny anymore and it feels like it's getting to become quite mean in nature to keep laughing about it, but I don't know if I'm just being uptight with no sense of humour?

Oh, give over with the "slapstick humour" 🙄. Standing there tittering away at someone having an accident makes you look like an imbecile, not someone with a fabulous sense of humour.

Exactly! Though it's a pity you need to point it out.

Of course there's a difference. People aren't actually laughing at serious accidents where people are injured or badly hurt. They're laughing, as in the case of the OP, where someone has just slipped and looks a bit silly, but they're not seriously injured.
I usually laugh at myself if ever I've fallen (I dance so it happens sometimes).

I'm not generally a fan of slap stick, but I confess I once laughed at a friend who slipped down some steps on their bottom. It looked like they were riding a toboggan. Fortunately they laughed too and were mortified with embarrassment.

I'm surprised it was your mum. I was expecting you to say it was your teenage son or daughter.

I laugh at slapstick and 'fail' videos of people falling over, sliding into puddles and walking into doors etc, because I don't know them.

I don't have an emotional connection with them. If it's a member of my family it might be mildly amusing if they drop something or stumble but a proper falling over is not something I would laugh at especially if you burst into tears.

Leave a banana skin on her drive.

Have you actually told them how you feel though? Because if you were laughing along too, how do they know you didn't find it funny? Yes, they probably should have got over it by now, but just tell them.
My reaction to someone falling over seems to be a gasp of shock and then if obviously not seriously hurt, I do find it funny. I would try and help them up and check they are OK though. I find it funny when I fall over too (to the extent I probably look a bit mad sitting on the floor laughing).

They're laughing, as in the case of the OP, where someone has just slipped and looks a bit silly, but they're not seriously injured.

Well she says she was badly bruised - so in my book that makes it a more serious fall.

@StarlightLime

I'm certainly not an imbecile, though you are entitled to your opinion, but that doesn't negate the plain fact that 'slapstick' humor is NOT somehow 'unnatural'.

It's as old as the hills, and not 'immature' or somehow 'weird'.

I get that you don't understand it if it's not your sense of humor, but that doesn't mean everyone has to agree with you, does it ? 🙄

Oh, and calling someone 'names' because they have a different opinion ? Now that IS 'juvenile' as being respectful to others while disagreeing is the 'adult' way of having a discussion...

Sorry if you took that personally, @Autumntimeagain
I meant it as a general concept.

I don't think laughing in the moment is that heinous, schadenfreude is a thing and not uncommon. As a catastrophically clumsy person I appear to have made it my mission in life to fall over at least once in every city in the country, I have to laugh at myself and accept being laughed at.

Reactions range from bursting out laughing from my friends and siblings, to "you ok love?" while gallantly trying not to laugh from my husband, and "oh for fucks sake mum" from my increasingly exasperated teen.

BUT. Continuing to laugh about it and bring it up and poke at it days later is mean. And stupid, it's not that funny, especially if you actually hurt yourself! It's a bit mean spirited to keep bringing it up. Maybe just say "how boring is your life that me hurting myself is still this funny? Do you not have anything else going on?"

Yes, that's exactly it.

The whole premise of the hugely successful you've been framed show and comedy throughout the ages has been based on people tripping up and walking into things so most of us do have an instant reaction to laugh but in the ops case it's the weird mother carrying it on which is unpleasant.

Why would you tilt your head? That's a bit weird unless you've got a sore neck.

Bruises are often the result of fall, yes. Of course they are, and they often hurt! But they're not usually visible immediately and OP wasn't seriously injured.

So maybe hold off with the sniggering simply because you can't tell 🤷🏻‍♀️

well put @StarlightLime

Is your relative a sibling? If so, your relationship is more likely to be slightly more childish.

Bruising is not a serious injury, and quite common after even a minor fall, as in the case of the OP.

A few years ago l met someone l'd initially 'met' on twitter in London. We'd planned to go and see an exhibition the next day.
This friend was a very nice (gay, so no agenda) man. Very, as it turned out. Two hours after we met, l fell backwards down an escalator at a tube station.
Ended up being taken to hospital in an ambulance, shaken and bruised. We sat in A&E for four hours while l waited to be seen.
He chatted to me all the time we waited, after l'd been seen we went for food and then back to our hotel. He made sure l was okay, and we went to the exhibition the next day. I was sore and exhausted, so went back to the hotel to have a couple of hours sleep, he left me to it and went off sightseeing.
I felt better in the evening (strong pain relief) so we went out for food. And l apologised to him for spoiling our time together, especially for him having to sit all that time in A&E with me.
And he said "Don't be silly. It gave us time together, and helped us to bond."
Not once did he laugh, appear annoyed or exasperated or impatient. That was eight years ago, and we're still firm friends, and planning another break together.
I cannot understand people laughing in a situation like that. I was very, very lucky. I could have been maimed, scalped (l have long hair) or worse. I was literally bruised from head to foot. Ruptured my shoulder joint.
I appreciate people sometimes laugh at inappropriate times, it's an involuntary reaction, embarrassment, or shock.
But to laugh and take the piss for days after, and keep raking it up?
That's just nasty.

That's a classy gent. Some on this thread could learn something from him.

That's a great story but it's not really relevant. OPs fall was in no way comparable and everyone who says they laugh, says they don't when it's serious.

This.

That's a great story but it's not really relevant. OPs fall was in no way comparable and everyone who says they laugh, says they don't when it's serious.
But we didn't know it was serious until l got to hospital. I was just mortified and embarrassed, the tube was packed and everyone saw me fall. The thing l remember most is being embarrassed, and pulling my top down because it had ridden up when l fell. Thank god l had trousers on.

How dismissive.

This would make me laugh even more.

Really? What's the matter with you?

Stick your leg out and push her over it...Then ask, who's laughing now?! ;-P

I was once walking to the loo in a pub with my mate and out of nowhere she went hurtling across the lounge into a group sat enjoying their drinks. It was really weird, she hadn't tripped, we were both completely sober - it was like a poltergeist had launched her across the room. My initial reaction was shock but when we got into the loos I couldn't stop laughing, even now if it pops in my head I laugh - no idea why.

It's weird how falling over can be funny - if someone gets run over by a car bystanders aren't pissing themselves laughing, I wonder why falling is (potentially!) funny? Is it to cover second-hand embarrassment? I don't know.

This is your mum though OP, just tell her to stop?