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To think it's not funny anymore or am I just being uptight?

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notfunnyy · 12/10/2023 18:25

I fell over when out with a relative, I'm quite badly bruised and burst into tears from the shock and embarrassment after falling. I'm in my 20s so there was no concern about my being seriously injured, but I was still badly bruised and in pain. It happened in front of a huge crowd and was really embarrassing.

My relative found it hilarious watching me fall over, and stood there laughing whilst a stranger came over and helped me stand back up again. I laughed it off as well at the time, and tried to make a joke of it as I didn't want to take myself too seriously and I was embarrassed as a lot of people had seen it happen.

The whole day when I was with my relative they would randomly start laughing to themselves, and say they were thinking about when I fell over. They found it hilarious and kept bringing it up. It's been a few days now and they still laugh, like when they first see me they will start laughing and tell me they're remembering about when I fell over.

I'm finding it really tedious and annoying now, as I don't find it funny anymore and it feels like it's getting to become quite mean in nature to keep laughing about it, but I don't know if I'm just being uptight with no sense of humour?

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MedievalWell · 12/10/2023 21:32

LakeTiticaca · 12/10/2023 18:50

Over the past half a century I have fallen over on numerous occasions and I can't remember at any time did my friends not piss themselves laughing.
Lighten up a bit

You all sound very easily amused. You are probably also the ones snorting out tea/waking the baby laughing at banal threads on MN too.

ReturnOfTheRainMac · 12/10/2023 21:38

I can't help but laugh when someone falls over... unless it's a bad fall or they are at risk. DP fell over recently really badly and I didn't laugh once and the previous time I was like your relative, every time it popped into my head I had a chuckle. I also do the same when I fall over. We don't generally fall over, I feel I need to state after writing that!

I get the shame and embarrassment and im so sorry you feel that way plus the tenderness but it is funny. You've been framed is full of that shit!

itsmyp4rty · 12/10/2023 21:39

You were crying and they thought it was funny? There's something wrong with them.

LightSpeeds · 12/10/2023 21:45

How old are they? 12?

Mydogmybestfriend · 12/10/2023 21:48

They're annoying I had a friend like this. I fell in a pool from a float and my friend kept telling everyone that we were with as they came down to the pool
I think even they were thinking okay and

AlexaCanYouHearMe · 12/10/2023 21:53

They sound like a rude and immature and nasty bully. What relative is it @notfunnyy ? A cousin? I assume they're younger than you by at least 10 years? I hope so, with such nasty immature behaviour. What a pathetic c*nt. Hope you are OK. Flowers

Lonesomefetter · 12/10/2023 21:59

I can understand inititially laughing because that can sometimes be a reaction to surprise, but to keep on about it is twatty. Are they generally a bore insensitive? It seems like they are either a bit stupid, or being a bit underminey.

AlexaCanYouHearMe · 12/10/2023 22:01

Evaka · 12/10/2023 21:27

I wouldn't spend much time with your relative. They sound a bit deficient.

100% this. ^

OnAir · 12/10/2023 22:11

I still laugh now about my partner falling over in tesco. Even writing this I had a chuckle.

Heyheyitsanotherday · 12/10/2023 22:13

I have a a friend like this. She absolutely wees herself laughing when any of us fall over (unless it’s serious). It’s not meant cruelly. And usually makes the ‘faller over’ laugh too. Be concerned when they don’t laugh. It either means you have a serious injury or you’re looking elderly (older people falling isn’t funny, but young and drunk non serious fall is) hope you’re ok. Ignore her or tell her she’s annoying you now and to shut up about it.

Bumblepig · 12/10/2023 22:15

Your relative seems a bit of an idiot to continue to laugh about the incident.

Hope you’re ok and have no injuries

CherryMaDeara · 12/10/2023 22:16

The relative is a cunt. They like to see you in pain and unhappy.

Stop seeing them. Ignore the dick.

EmpressaurusOfCats · 12/10/2023 22:22

I hate You’ve been framed. And slapstick in general.

And I’m obviously missing something about why it’s funny when people fall over - is it funny when people bump their heads too? Why?

Passepartoute · 12/10/2023 22:24

Have you told this relative that actually you were shocked, upset and in pain whilst they were pissing themselves laughing?

It sounds like this is a relative you should distance yourself from.

BrightGreenMoonBuggy · 12/10/2023 22:35

I think people who have a bit less empathy than usual are the ones who laugh hard when people fall and clearly hurt or embarrass themselves. It should be obvious when it’s appropriate to take the piss - a bit of comedy where the other person laughs too - and when it’s just plain unpleasant because someone really isn’t laughing along. Say something.

BethDuttonsTwin · 12/10/2023 22:38

My teen daughter cried when I fell over and hurt myself, because I was in so much pain in the aftermath.

I'd have lost my temper and told your family member what I thought of them long before now if I were you OP. I hope you're ok now.

BethDuttonsTwin · 12/10/2023 22:39

You all sound very easily amused. You are probably also the ones snorting out tea/waking the baby laughing at banal threads on MN too.

Well said.

ReturnOfTheRainMac · 13/10/2023 00:43

EmpressaurusOfCats · 12/10/2023 22:22

I hate You’ve been framed. And slapstick in general.

And I’m obviously missing something about why it’s funny when people fall over - is it funny when people bump their heads too? Why?

Yes you're missing something - obviously. Bit of a silly question.

No they don't laugh at head injuries too. As I, and others who laugh have said, it's not funny if there is an injury.

ReturnOfTheRainMac · 13/10/2023 00:46

Heyheyitsanotherday · 12/10/2023 22:13

I have a a friend like this. She absolutely wees herself laughing when any of us fall over (unless it’s serious). It’s not meant cruelly. And usually makes the ‘faller over’ laugh too. Be concerned when they don’t laugh. It either means you have a serious injury or you’re looking elderly (older people falling isn’t funny, but young and drunk non serious fall is) hope you’re ok. Ignore her or tell her she’s annoying you now and to shut up about it.

This! I fell off my garden decking as one chair leg was over the edge and lost stability. I mildly hurt myself but laughed my head off. When no one else did, I've never felt so old and really questioned what the people I was with thought of me. Had they laughed I doubt I'd even remember it.

StarlightLime · 13/10/2023 00:49

ReturnOfTheRainMac · 13/10/2023 00:46

This! I fell off my garden decking as one chair leg was over the edge and lost stability. I mildly hurt myself but laughed my head off. When no one else did, I've never felt so old and really questioned what the people I was with thought of me. Had they laughed I doubt I'd even remember it.

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Why did you laugh your head off when you were hurt and presumably not particularly amused?

ReturnOfTheRainMac · 13/10/2023 00:54

@StarlightLime I just do when people fall over. It's funny to me. I can't say why and I can't stop it. I think it's because they're there and then suddenly they're not. Again, when someone else is injured that takes away any hilarity and my obvious reaction is concern.

ReturnOfTheRainMac · 13/10/2023 00:55

It was a laugh and an ouch sound I made 😂

evergreener · 13/10/2023 01:01

I think the initial reaction can be laughter because it relegates the incident to something less serious and worrying, and covers embarrassment to some extent.

So I might forgive t he initial laugh, however inappropriate, but not the ongoing unkindness.

I have dyspraxia and fall quite regularly - the nicest people are the ones who check you are ok, then maybe have a little chuckle with relief, and then move on.

The only people making on ongoing joke of it I have ever come across are a couple of boys from the bottom set year 9, and even they apologised before they were in year 10

RantyAnty · 13/10/2023 01:53

Tell them to FO, and laugh at them.

Are you in holiday with him or something as you mentioned being with them over several days.

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notfunnyy · 13/10/2023 07:13

Thank you all, it’s my Mum who is the relative in question. It’s the ongoing laughter I find annoying, where it’s constantly brought up days later. She has done this with other things before.

I’m like a lot of you where I don’t find falling over or slapstick comedy funny, if I see someone fall I worry they’ve hurt themselves and I don’t want them to feel embarrassed.

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