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To tell someone their dog barks for 3 minutes?

107 replies

PiggyTigger · 10/10/2023 10:03

My neighbour’s dog barks for a good solid 3-5 minutes when they leave it alone, after that, it does usually settle but this is daily and sometimes twice a day. I have no idea how long it’s left for at a time, so don’t want to say they’re just leaving it but it’s quite annoying. DP (who doesn’t live with me but visits a lot) has told me it’s not that bad and for a relatively short period so we shouldn’t bother, but I’m not necessarily doing it out of having a go, but maybe they’re not aware. Either way, is 5 minutes or so considered prolonged?

AIBU to tell them?

OP posts:
Noodles1234 · 12/10/2023 06:34

it might be annoying but I think it’s an acceptable time of noise.

our neighbours dog barks all evening till they get home (often gone 11pm), that I would class as unacceptable.

Aquestioningmind · 12/10/2023 06:41

Damn, OP.

You’d hate to live by me. One of my foster dog barks when I go to the toilet as her separation anxiety (she’s a rescue who was dumped at the side of the road with a litter of puppies…) is so awful she literally cannot face not being able to see me.

I’m training her to be better as it’s not sustainable.

Five minutes is nothing and I agree with PPs, if you went over there they’d either; tell you ‘okay’ then do nothing or tell you to p*ss off.

Sigmama · 12/10/2023 06:44

I agree it's not very long, but it's annoying living next to a noisy animal

HikingforScenery · 12/10/2023 06:45

ugh, i’d really hate this. I imagine the dog owner wouldn’t care though. What time is this happening. It’d be annoying at any time but if it’s after 11pm, etc, then you could complain

To the person suggesting your talking to a dog barking, I have no words

terraced · 12/10/2023 06:46

Its 5 minutes. It's not unreasonable for a dog to bark for a few minutes at a time. No, don't say anything.

EW671 · 12/10/2023 06:50

3-5 minutes is nothing. I wouldn’t risk your relationship with your neighbour over the length of a standard ad break on TV!

Our neighbour’s dog barks and whines the entire time she’s out - literally the entire time and that could be 3-5 HOURS at a time. It’s infuriating but we still haven’t plucked up the courage to say anything to them.

3-5 minutes would be bliss!

Rewis · 12/10/2023 06:51

5min is almost the same as no barking. I wouldn't say anything.

Sigmama · 12/10/2023 06:56

I love that the first answer was, what are they supposed to do...

PottedPlantsObsess · 12/10/2023 07:12

kitsuneghost · 10/10/2023 15:44

For everyone saying 3-5 min isn't long time, I challenge you:
Set a really annoying ring tone on your phone and set it going for 5min every day. bet it will really get on your nerves after a few days.

Fuck me dead 😂 what a pointless waste of time

Missingmyusername · 12/10/2023 07:13

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 flaming hell. Do you have a timer lol

Ffion21 · 12/10/2023 07:16

No it’s 3-5 minutes so nothing really.

my next door neighbours have a white yappy dog and we have foxes in the gardens. Everyday at the same time it’s let out and yaps. It’s so shrill. I hate that dog so much. I shut the doors and windows whenever it comes out.

However the neighbours know as after ten minutes they always take it back inside and calm is restored. I appreciate they’re considerate but a dog is just being a dog.

what used to really irritate me is they used to let it out earlier bang on 7pm in summer when we were trying to get our toddler to bed, so window would be open and it may as well have been in the bedroom. I never said anything but it changed to 8pm so again I think they were considerate (as they’ve got older kids). I appreciated that.

just be more tolerant and seethe quietly at home.

CallieG · 12/10/2023 07:19

3-5 minutes. That is nothing, my neighbour puts their dog outside when they go out & it barks & howls the entire time they are gone, Which can be up to 3-5 Hours.
I know my dog fusses for 15 minutes or so when I go out simply because I rarely go out without him.

Dibbydoos · 12/10/2023 07:21

One of our dogs used to howl for ages when I left the house even if other people were around, bless him. I didn't know and felt bad when I was told.

He doesn't howl anymore because I fuss him, say goodbye and tell him I'll be back soon. Maybe your neighbours don't know and it's about how they say bye to their dog.

Nowherenew · 12/10/2023 07:37

What do you want them to do about it?

If it barked constantly then it’s different, but barking for a couple of minutes after they leave is fine.

Chances are this will reduce with time on its own.

Feralgremlin · 12/10/2023 07:42

3-5 minutes is nothing! In our street we have 14 dogs including ours. None of them bark incessantly but it does mean that at certain points of the day (postman, bin men etc) there is a fair amount of barking. Interestingly though, the multiple children make more noise, as does everyone mowing their lawns, and lots of people have had building work recently which was definitely louder.

Noise is just part and parcel of living near other people. If some posters are genuinely suggesting that dogs should be trained not to bark at all, then maybe we should also train the children not to laugh and shout when they are playing, disallow anyone from mowing their lawn and strimming their hedges, and builders from using power tools? We should probably also get on to the council and get them to get some silent bin lorries too. Oh and remove the reversing sirens off the back of supermarket delivery vans. 🙄

Katy123456 · 12/10/2023 08:30

No it's not prolonged, and no don't say anything.

MisAvi · 12/10/2023 09:08

Genuine concern for the dog, if it’s very distressed, maybe. my neighbours had no idea until someone was upstairs in bed and they went out, dog didn’t realise anyone was still in and did usual howling…they apologised and said they hadn’t known (didn’t bother me anyway, but wish I’d maybe said now as dog may have got a pal sooner 😂) but now dog has a dog friend and seems much happier!
otherwise no point imo, 3-5 mins twice a day is not excessive for any noise, let the small things go with neighbours…

Rachykins · 12/10/2023 09:31

Is this post a joke? I’d absolutely hate to live next door to someone like you. Hours, yes not acceptable or fair. Minutes? Part and parcel of being tolerant of others around when you have neighbours. My doorbell plays a tune longer than your neighbours dog barks 🤣🤣

Caredforlotsofkids · 12/10/2023 10:08

Great burglar deterrent. Our house and next door were by passed by a burglar because my dogs barked.
The next house door was badly damaged when they broke in, they had a lot of things stolen. The police said it was only because the dogs scared them that we escaped

Teder · 12/10/2023 10:18

I’d mention it if you’re concerned about the dog and want them to know.

I have a pet camera so I would know but maybe they can do something to reassure their dog.

A bit of barking wouldn’t bother me. Next door has a barking dog but a few minutes here and there. It’s part and parcel of living with / near others.

Dragonsandcats · 12/10/2023 10:21

Is this a reverse? How can 3-5 minutes be considered prolonged?

MrsSkylerWhite · 12/10/2023 10:23

Not so bad. Our neighbour’s howls most of the day. Part of living among other people, unfortunately.

BrutusMcDogface · 12/10/2023 10:24

Bloody, fucking dogs.

Pinkelephant66 · 12/10/2023 11:12

Wow

midnitghtgraveyard · 12/10/2023 14:43

Karen.

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