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To tell someone their dog barks for 3 minutes?

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PiggyTigger · 10/10/2023 10:03

My neighbour’s dog barks for a good solid 3-5 minutes when they leave it alone, after that, it does usually settle but this is daily and sometimes twice a day. I have no idea how long it’s left for at a time, so don’t want to say they’re just leaving it but it’s quite annoying. DP (who doesn’t live with me but visits a lot) has told me it’s not that bad and for a relatively short period so we shouldn’t bother, but I’m not necessarily doing it out of having a go, but maybe they’re not aware. Either way, is 5 minutes or so considered prolonged?

AIBU to tell them?

OP posts:
Redcargidan · 11/10/2023 13:36

Yes this would be ridiculous.
Our dog barks when DH comes home, when neighbours are all slamming doors outside, or when our neighbours cat sits on our garden fence. It doesn't last long each time and is what I consider "normal" levels of barking.
If my NDN complained about it then there would be a LOT of noise complaints coming their way about the 800000 things we hear from their side.

If you don't want to hear a small amount of neighbouring noise then you should either not live in a house where there is likely to happen, or brace yourself for them to get seriously petty whenever you make a peep.

sandyhappypeople · 11/10/2023 13:55

DP (who doesn’t live with me but visits a lot) has told me it’s not that bad and for a relatively short period so we shouldn’t bother.

When he says WE, he means YOU shouldn't bother.

Besides, they know their dog barks as they leave, as they rarely wait for you to get off the drive before starting to bark.

Our next door neighbours dog used to bark as soon as their front door shut, he'd bark for a couple of minutes then go quiet, it was never a problem, as it's a few minutes out of your day

I think you need to show a little more tolerance for living in such close proximity to someone, if you say anything you'll be in danger of starting a tit for tat over every little thing that 'annoys' both of you .. is it really worth it?

IncompleteSenten · 11/10/2023 13:56

Max 5 minutes is not in any way excessive.

Redbushteaforme · 11/10/2023 14:09

That sounds really annoying. Love (not) all the dog owners above posting that it's OK. Maybe they should watch "Dogs Behaving (Very) Badly" on TV and realise that dogs can be trained out of this kind of behaviour.

x2boys · 11/10/2023 14:11

Redbushteaforme · 11/10/2023 14:09

That sounds really annoying. Love (not) all the dog owners above posting that it's OK. Maybe they should watch "Dogs Behaving (Very) Badly" on TV and realise that dogs can be trained out of this kind of behaviour.

Its three minutes ,there are lots if annoying sounds in the world ,mums net gets more and more ridiculous about dogs .

margotrose · 11/10/2023 14:23

Redbushteaforme · 11/10/2023 14:09

That sounds really annoying. Love (not) all the dog owners above posting that it's OK. Maybe they should watch "Dogs Behaving (Very) Badly" on TV and realise that dogs can be trained out of this kind of behaviour.

I'd rather listen to a dog bark for three minutes than people shouting, or fighting, or children screaming, or cars revving at 5am - but there we go. That's life when you live in close proximity to other people.

As an aside, I want my dog to bark at certain things so it's not a behaviour I have any desire to train out of him.

Glitterdavies · 11/10/2023 14:25

Its like a baby crying at nursery when the mum leaves and then settle in to play for the day.

Its not that big a deal.

Redbushteaforme · 11/10/2023 14:29

I'd rather listen to a dog bark for three minutes than people shouting, or fighting, or children screaming, or cars revving at 5am - but there we go. That's life when you live in close proximity to other people.

As an aside, I want my dog to bark at certain things so it's not a behaviour I have any desire to train out of him.

  1. * *It's not an "either or" situation. Neighbours shouldn't have to put up with dogs barking at close proximity, or with the other sorts of things you list.
  2. Well, why not train your dog to bark at appropriate times and train him not to bark at inappropriate times (like when you leave the house)?
user1483387154 · 11/10/2023 14:38

3-5 minutes 2x a day, really not a problem. We all make noise during the day whether intentional or not. This is miniscule

margotrose · 11/10/2023 14:45

Redbushteaforme · 11/10/2023 14:29

I'd rather listen to a dog bark for three minutes than people shouting, or fighting, or children screaming, or cars revving at 5am - but there we go. That's life when you live in close proximity to other people.

As an aside, I want my dog to bark at certain things so it's not a behaviour I have any desire to train out of him.

  1. * *It's not an "either or" situation. Neighbours shouldn't have to put up with dogs barking at close proximity, or with the other sorts of things you list.
  2. Well, why not train your dog to bark at appropriate times and train him not to bark at inappropriate times (like when you leave the house)?

Mine doesn't bark when I leave the house Confused

WiddlinDiddlin · 11/10/2023 15:18

Redbushteaforme · 11/10/2023 14:09

That sounds really annoying. Love (not) all the dog owners above posting that it's OK. Maybe they should watch "Dogs Behaving (Very) Badly" on TV and realise that dogs can be trained out of this kind of behaviour.

Not by that man however, he's a total charlatan and the methods he uses are very outdated 'quick fixes' that long term, don't work and often make matters worse (I do know, for a fact, as colleagues of mine have been called in to deal with many of those cases shown on the program, once he's gone!).

Pineappleshakethetree · 11/10/2023 15:20

I can fart longer than that.

SamanthaCarta · 11/10/2023 15:23

Next door's dog puts in a 14 hour barking shift, even when they're home. Anyone passing their house, so at least every 10 mins. Sick of it. I have a dog and I'd never allow that.

JRM17 · 12/10/2023 00:07

Yoohoo Karen is that you 🙄🙄

Tryingmybestadhd · 12/10/2023 00:36

Oh please it’s 3 minutes put on your big girl pants

XenoBitch · 12/10/2023 00:51

3 minutes of any sort of noise in the day is not a problem. People and pets make noise. If they were drilling a wall, or practicing a musical instrument, would you be so concerned?
My neighbours had a baby who cried for a lot longer than 3 minutes at all hours. I would BVVU to complain about that. A dog barking for 3 minutes in the day is nothing. It sounds like the dog does settle anyway.

Thatladdo · 12/10/2023 01:01

At most 6-10 mins a day.

Really?!

YABVFU

Cecilisacaterpillar · 12/10/2023 01:13

Come and stay at my house for a day or two OP, my NDN has 3 large breeds who bark constantly (and deafeningly) both indoors and out and aggressively attack the fence every time we dare venture into our garden, you'll be desperate to get back to a few minutes 'normal' barking a couple of times a day!

Fionaville · 12/10/2023 01:36

It's a few minutes. So should they just stay home?

hellohellothere · 12/10/2023 02:01

So what? It's a few minutes ffs. Hardly an issue.

TheLurpackYears · 12/10/2023 02:19

You don't need to tell me , I know.

Isittimeformynapyet · 12/10/2023 02:21

Cecilisacaterpillar · 12/10/2023 01:13

Come and stay at my house for a day or two OP, my NDN has 3 large breeds who bark constantly (and deafeningly) both indoors and out and aggressively attack the fence every time we dare venture into our garden, you'll be desperate to get back to a few minutes 'normal' barking a couple of times a day!

Jeez... Is anyone doing anything about it, or are your neighbours as aggressive as their dogs?

Cecilisacaterpillar · 12/10/2023 04:16

Isittimeformynapyet · 12/10/2023 02:21

Jeez... Is anyone doing anything about it, or are your neighbours as aggressive as their dogs?

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They are equally aggressive funnily enough Isittimeformynapyet, how did you guess? Grin RSPCA won't do anything, they've had multiple reports from us and other neighbours but still no visit as far as I'm aware, and certainly no action taken. The housing officer from the HA is sympathetic but toothless, they've sent NDN a few letters I believe but never follow anything up.

It's been going on so long I'm mostly numb to it now tbh, if I think too much about those dogs lives it makes me ill (has done in the past) so I have to just accept I've done all I can. Tbh it's only a matter of time before something awful happens, the dogs fight a lot and, horrifyingly, there are children living there too (SS have all the information before anyone asks), it's literally a ticking time bomb Sad

Dentistlakes · 12/10/2023 04:43

You won’t get much sympathy here op. Dog ownership trumps everyone else’s right to a peaceful life, no matter how much noise they make! However, in the great scheme of things, a few minutes whilst irritating, isn’t really grounds for complaint and there’s probably not a lot your neighbour could do anyway. I would probably leave it and thank your lucky stars it bloody shuts up and doesn’t keep going for hours on end.

jumpingbean1810 · 12/10/2023 05:19

My NDN is out from 7.30am-5.30pm 5days a, week. She leaves 2 dogs alone all day - one howls, the other barks all day long, literally for hours. She has a dog walker who comes in briefly but they're off again as soon as he's left. We live in terraced houses so noise travels through the wall and is like nails on a blackboard. I've complained to her but she can't afford doggy day care. It's no life for those dogs. Have considered reporting it but feel mean doing so as dogs could be worse off if end up in a shelter.

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