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Is it offensive to say inshallah?

396 replies

Loulou599 · 08/10/2023 12:35

I think it's a really beautiful sound and is more wistful than saying touch wood or god willing, but would it be offensive (if you're not muslim)?

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Shirtcollar · 08/10/2023 18:49

Just to add to my previous post, I'm a born and bred Muslim with a very wide network of other fellow muslims in the UK and abroad and I doubt any of them would take offence to a non-Muslim saying the phrase. I'm sure it'll bring a smile to their faces like many PP have implied.

FYI MNetters, you may get a different reaction from those newer to the faith who didn't grow up in the culture and only know the phrase in a religious context. As I mentioned before, we don't own the phrase and if it pleases God, who are we to complain. 😬

MankyMinge · 08/10/2023 18:52

Mvslimah · 08/10/2023 18:42

Look it’s not jaw on the floor offensive BUT in the wider cultural context of Muslims living in the Uk are still viewed as the enemy within or as not to be trusted or general Islamic terms and beliefs wildly misrepresented it can get a bit frustrating to then hear that because a word sounds cool someone’s going to use it without it’s kinda annoying. Now this is just my opinion, some might find it nice, but I would say largely it’s dependent on the person trying to use it, ie if trying to find common ground or just sounding exotic. I personally feel Muslims sometimes can’t do right from wrong. Just look how many on here are offended by modest fashion and the headscarf

Yeah I have seen quite a bit of hijab hate and ignorance on here. And the historical context of Muslims in Britain and how they are perceived would make a difference as compared to Spanish or French or Russian phrases, for example. I remember once someone on a baby names thread wanted to call her child a Greek name (Eleni, I think it was) and I seem to recall the consensus was some people might think it's weird and raise an eyebrow but no once could say it's offensive or appropriation because the historical context is different. Apart from the Elgin marbles of course!

gotomomo · 08/10/2023 18:55

@VineRipened

Allah is just Arabic for god just like Dieu is French. There's only one God in the Jewish/Christian/Muslim world - it's just we disagree on prophets and sons of god Grin

Pinkchairs · 08/10/2023 18:56

Shirtcollar · 08/10/2023 18:49

Just to add to my previous post, I'm a born and bred Muslim with a very wide network of other fellow muslims in the UK and abroad and I doubt any of them would take offence to a non-Muslim saying the phrase. I'm sure it'll bring a smile to their faces like many PP have implied.

FYI MNetters, you may get a different reaction from those newer to the faith who didn't grow up in the culture and only know the phrase in a religious context. As I mentioned before, we don't own the phrase and if it pleases God, who are we to complain. 😬

My family member is born and bred Muslim too, though not exactly so religious nowadays. But she and her whole family have no issue with others Saying it.

I did notice the person that has the main issue is not born and bred Muslim. I’m not Muslim, I’m atheist but I’m not claiming to be anything. Just writing how my family member uses it and her whole family.

Mvslimah · 08/10/2023 18:57

gotomomo · 08/10/2023 18:55

@VineRipened

Allah is just Arabic for god just like Dieu is French. There's only one God in the Jewish/Christian/Muslim world - it's just we disagree on prophets and sons of god Grin

No it’s not, please be a bit more precise

Allah means THE god. The Arabic word for God or diety is Lah. al is the definite article hence Allah is The God (implied the one true god)

Mvslimah · 08/10/2023 18:59

Pinkchairs · 08/10/2023 18:56

My family member is born and bred Muslim too, though not exactly so religious nowadays. But she and her whole family have no issue with others Saying it.

I did notice the person that has the main issue is not born and bred Muslim. I’m not Muslim, I’m atheist but I’m not claiming to be anything. Just writing how my family member uses it and her whole family.

So I have less of a say in appropriation than a ‘born and bred’ Muslim? I’m less in this equation right? My opinion matters less. Cool thanks!

Mvslimah · 08/10/2023 19:01

Point is it’s not jaw on the floor offensive but those non Muslims and non Arabs that want to use it, need to do some self interrogation as to why.

if it’s just to sound exotic or to use ironically or actually when they hold Islam in contempt then it’s weird and problematic

Pinkchairs · 08/10/2023 19:01

Mvslimah · 08/10/2023 18:59

So I have less of a say in appropriation than a ‘born and bred’ Muslim? I’m less in this equation right? My opinion matters less. Cool thanks!

Not what I said. Don’t put words in my mouth. All I did was agree with what the poster said, that you have a different opinion on it potentially because you are newer to the faith.

fucking appropriation. It’s called sharing cultures with others who admire it.

Mvslimah · 08/10/2023 19:06

Pinkchairs · 08/10/2023 19:01

Not what I said. Don’t put words in my mouth. All I did was agree with what the poster said, that you have a different opinion on it potentially because you are newer to the faith.

fucking appropriation. It’s called sharing cultures with others who admire it.

But it’s not though is it? It’s not sharing culture, because it’s a maligned culture. Maybe if you’re an advocate and an ally and heavily involved to the Middle Eastern and Muslim community it’s different but given as most aren’t well

Normalsizedsalad · 08/10/2023 19:15

Mvslimah · 08/10/2023 18:57

No it’s not, please be a bit more precise

Allah means THE god. The Arabic word for God or diety is Lah. al is the definite article hence Allah is The God (implied the one true god)

Yeah. I found fatwa explaining the translation into just gof not The god because god is simply any diety (even "false" ) etc. So distinction is important

Pinkchairs · 08/10/2023 19:20

Mvslimah · 08/10/2023 19:06

But it’s not though is it? It’s not sharing culture, because it’s a maligned culture. Maybe if you’re an advocate and an ally and heavily involved to the Middle Eastern and Muslim community it’s different but given as most aren’t well

اعوذو بالله

audhu billah

😉

ForfarBridie · 08/10/2023 19:21

Idratherbepaddleboarding · 08/10/2023 18:17

We do as a family, despite not being Arabic or Muslim because we lived in Saudi Arabia when I was a child. It’s usually used ironically though as we all know Inshallah means… hmmm we’ll see!

Seriously?

Thats quite the generalization.

My experience over many decades living in the Middle East is that it’s something taken very seriously and only usually uttered by people who wouldn’t dream of using it as a get out clause. It’s actually quite a thing to say it because once you do say it you really are supposed to try your very hardest to make whatever it is possible. It’s why most people who do say it do so with a lowered voice and with feeling and respect.

Someone previously said that her husband who’d worked in the Middle East uses the word often throughout the day and I find it ridiculous. I can go days without hearing it for the smoke fact you really don’t say it lightly.

JustAMinutePleass · 08/10/2023 19:23

It means god willing and in my experience with my many, many muslim friends, it’s mainly used when they don’t want to commit but don’t know the other person well enough to say no. Lol close family and friends get mashallah. Eg I ask if they can come to my son’s party and they want to go - mashallah he’s so big, we will come. If they don’t want to - Oh bless him. Inshallah we will definitely come (and then they don’t grr). Lighthearted.

Mvslimah · 08/10/2023 19:32

Pinkchairs · 08/10/2023 19:20

اعوذو بالله

audhu billah

😉

Edited

Are you Muslim? Do you know what that means and the rest of that phrase? I don’t get why you’d use it here, it’s not really appropriate

Mvslimah · 08/10/2023 19:38

JustAMinutePleass · 08/10/2023 19:23

It means god willing and in my experience with my many, many muslim friends, it’s mainly used when they don’t want to commit but don’t know the other person well enough to say no. Lol close family and friends get mashallah. Eg I ask if they can come to my son’s party and they want to go - mashallah he’s so big, we will come. If they don’t want to - Oh bless him. Inshallah we will definitely come (and then they don’t grr). Lighthearted.

i appreciate thats what you’ve heard but that’s not what the words mean

ma sha Allah isn’t definitely it’s basically being in awe of gods work, like you’ve said ma sha Allah he’s so big, that’s basically praising the work of God

Pollyputhekettleon · 08/10/2023 19:40

gotomomo · 08/10/2023 18:55

@VineRipened

Allah is just Arabic for god just like Dieu is French. There's only one God in the Jewish/Christian/Muslim world - it's just we disagree on prophets and sons of god Grin

Again, this is absolutely not agreed by many Christians and Jews particularly. Just saying it over and over doesn't make it so.

Pollyputhekettleon · 08/10/2023 19:49

Mvslimah · 08/10/2023 18:26

forgetting Unitarian Christians there but ok.

there is no punishment for polytheism in Islam, so you can’t. There’s a punishment (debatable) but leaving Islam but not for being a Hindu

well the bible isn’t widely understood to be direct revelation, that’s something a basic theology degree would teach you, so the Islamic position is that people misunderstood the message. The bible was comprised hundreds of years after jesus’s death through much oral history, it’s not that much of a ridiculous position to have that some things could’ve got altered changed. We have a similar issue with hadith, which is why some narrations have been viewed to be weak or even if they are deemed reliable they can vary here and there

Did you really just say there's no punishment for polytheism in Islam? Look, I get that you're new to this but you need to do some reading.

The concept that Jesus was the son of god, that he was god incarnated, is not some little misunderstanding that somehow crept in there. It's the literal foundation of Christianity. It's inseparable from the Christian concept of God and always has been. The idea that you could read the Old and New testaments, the Quran and the hadiths and conclude that the being described in them is the same is actually so nuts to me that I genuinely don't know where to start with it. I mean, the god of the Old Testament is very obviously not the same god as the god of the New Testament. Let alone the god who chose Mohammed, of all people, to be his final prophet. Utter madness.

But I generally don't waste my breath arguing with religious people. Futile.

Pinkchairs · 08/10/2023 19:49

Mvslimah · 08/10/2023 19:32

Are you Muslim? Do you know what that means and the rest of that phrase? I don’t get why you’d use it here, it’s not really appropriate

I’m atheist. My immediate family member is Muslim and I know what it means. I’m casting out the devil. light hearted

Normalsizedsalad · 08/10/2023 19:55

Dh is now on this we are having beers and enjoying some interesting reading. He even included some family members 😂

Pollyputhekettleon · 08/10/2023 19:55

FatOaf · 08/10/2023 18:48

Declaring this to be so doesn't make it so. Many Jews and Christians in particular do not agree with this, never have and never will.

So they think it's a different god? A different Moses? A different Abraham? A different Noah? A lot of coincidences there.

People have studied in tedious detail how Islam incorporated aspects of Christian but even more so Jewish traditions/stories. It often did so in a strangely garbled form, which makes sense if you think about 7th century Arabia and oral stories being passed over distances. It made perfect sense to do that, of course, if you wanted the Jews to convert. Obviously you have to fit your new religion into the framework of the existing ones, for legitimacy. Why would that be a coincidence?

Mvslimah · 08/10/2023 19:56

Pollyputhekettleon · 08/10/2023 19:49

Did you really just say there's no punishment for polytheism in Islam? Look, I get that you're new to this but you need to do some reading.

The concept that Jesus was the son of god, that he was god incarnated, is not some little misunderstanding that somehow crept in there. It's the literal foundation of Christianity. It's inseparable from the Christian concept of God and always has been. The idea that you could read the Old and New testaments, the Quran and the hadiths and conclude that the being described in them is the same is actually so nuts to me that I genuinely don't know where to start with it. I mean, the god of the Old Testament is very obviously not the same god as the god of the New Testament. Let alone the god who chose Mohammed, of all people, to be his final prophet. Utter madness.

But I generally don't waste my breath arguing with religious people. Futile.

How offensive, I’ve been Muslim for the majority of my adult life and have a masters in theology.

what is the sharia punishment for someone being born a polytheist? You’re talking absolute nonsense. In this life?

there is a very prominent verse that says to you your religion and to my mine. Were there times that the Muslims battled the mushrik of Arabia, yeah, but it wasn’t under the banner of ‘kill all the polytheists’.

might I suggest that you do some reading (and not from the mail or fox news). I know you think you’re more qualified to talk on Christianity and theology than the Pope but you know, maybe try a book

Photographsandmemories · 08/10/2023 19:58

I love it that Inshallah can be used by people who have absolutely no intention of doing X to kind of pawn the blame off on God when it doesn't come about.😁

It's very endearing and much more likeable than, say, English politicians saying "We are very much committed to..."

Pollyputhekettleon · 08/10/2023 19:58

Mvslimah · 08/10/2023 19:56

How offensive, I’ve been Muslim for the majority of my adult life and have a masters in theology.

what is the sharia punishment for someone being born a polytheist? You’re talking absolute nonsense. In this life?

there is a very prominent verse that says to you your religion and to my mine. Were there times that the Muslims battled the mushrik of Arabia, yeah, but it wasn’t under the banner of ‘kill all the polytheists’.

might I suggest that you do some reading (and not from the mail or fox news). I know you think you’re more qualified to talk on Christianity and theology than the Pope but you know, maybe try a book

Edited

I absolutely don't care what you find offensive. Shrieking offence doesn't work on me. But I enjoy how you rephrased my question, you've been doing some googling! Keep going, by all means. I won't be engaging with you further. As I said, I don't debate with religious people about their religion. I'm sure I have paint to watch dry.

Dunnoburt · 08/10/2023 19:59

Don't even know what it means....can't pronounce it...spell it....guess that could be offensive too?...... only reason I could even think you would say it was to prove you aren't ignorant.....which could in turn cause offence! Say nothing......

Mvslimah · 08/10/2023 20:02

Pollyputhekettleon · 08/10/2023 19:55

People have studied in tedious detail how Islam incorporated aspects of Christian but even more so Jewish traditions/stories. It often did so in a strangely garbled form, which makes sense if you think about 7th century Arabia and oral stories being passed over distances. It made perfect sense to do that, of course, if you wanted the Jews to convert. Obviously you have to fit your new religion into the framework of the existing ones, for legitimacy. Why would that be a coincidence?

And they’ve said the same about Christianity, especially the authors of the gospels, writing to show Jesus as the fulfilment of the Jewish prophecies