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To ask if we can please try to have Palestine and Israel thread where we acknowledge how awful it is for everyone, but try not to throw shit at each other?

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theotherfossilsister · 07/10/2023 19:48

Please

From someone who does have 'skin in the game.'

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FlemishHorse · 07/10/2023 23:46

Ratsoffasinkingsauage · 07/10/2023 23:24

@FlemishHorse Using my media training here and going to ask if you have any evidence that it is a fake. All the supporting evidence- from
multiple sources suggest it is real.

But do be aware of confirmation bias too. It can get the best of us. I know you don’t want it to be real but it does look like it is. Once you’ve accepted that you can move in the reasons why it excusable because you desperately want to defend the perpetrators.

All I’m defending is an idea of “the truth”, slippery concept that it is. There’s no right or wrong side here as far as I’m concerned.

Seventeen years with Reuters gives you some reliable gut feeling.

I’d be interested to see the multiple links to your supporting evidence that the footage (children being executed in the streets) is current from Palestine though.

WhatWhereWho · 07/10/2023 23:47

saffronsoup · 07/10/2023 23:10

What is happening today isn’t helping the people of Palestine.

Have you been speaking up over the years about the violence against the Palestinian people? Have you condemned Israel for their violence against innocent people?

Speaking up? Get the feeling that you think posting on Twitter or Mumsnet makes you feel like you have done something. An 'activist.'

Coughingdodger · 07/10/2023 23:49

Oioicaptain · 07/10/2023 22:11

It is awful for everyone, but I particularly feel for the children in Gaza. Israel could resolve tensions if they were prepared to hand back some of the control of the west bank that they seized in 1967. Currently far more Palestinians live in the west bank than Israelis (3 million v 600,000), yet Israel occupy it and control the movement of Palestinians within it. The UN and most international communities believe Israel's occupation to be unlawful. They have separated the Palestinian nation into Gaza and The West Bank, trapping those in Gaza. Those in Gaza are only allowed to enter the Westbank for emergency hospital treatment, but not other important events such as attending a wedding or funeral. As such they are unable to form relationships with other Palestinians in the West Bank. Israel for all intents and purpose occupy Gaza. They control its air and sea space and bridges. They hold control of all their utilities (electricity and water). They have seized land to create a buffer zone between the two countries. Gaza is the 3rd most populated country on earth and the conditions there are awful.

That's not to condone terrorism of course and they have a right to defend themselves, but unfortunately, due to the high density of Gaza, the impact of any attacks is always disproportionate and so many children have been killed.

There is no longer support for a 2 state solution on either side (only 40%ish in support on either side). People have lost hope. And largely, it would involve Israel handing back control of the Palastinian section of the West Bank that they currently occupy. In fact, the two state solution is pretty much the plan that existed before the 1967 war. And the Palestinians have been so riled and suppressed for so long that there is growing support for them seizing back a greater proportion of the west bank going back as far as the sea.

The only solution that I can see is for Israel to hand back land back to the Palestinians and see if that starts to calm tensions and lift travel restrictions within the west bank. I don't think unfortunately that they can lift restrictions in Gaza for a long time yet, having poked the bear far too many times and for too long. They could however, move some of their buffer zone back in places and provide more humanitarian aid to those in Gaza or allow some vulnerable families with young children into The West Bank or parts of Israel and gradually get some onside.

Instead however, they have a bullish Prime Minister intent on war and the backing of the US.

Agree.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 07/10/2023 23:50

I just end up feeling so awful for all of the ordinary people on both “sides” - they aren’t responsible for either the Israeli government or the terrorist groups, they’re all just trying to live their live.

Honestly, I’ve no idea what the answer is, but killing more people isn’t it

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 07/10/2023 23:51

duchiebun · 07/10/2023 23:09

It is possible to be disapproving of Israel’s treatment of Palestinians and also condem Hamas and their actions today. Because they have actually fucked everyone in that area for the foreseeable. I’m sure they have their reasons but they are shit reasons. Anyone starting up with the ‘well in 1947…’ is just propping up that shit position.

Quite

This sounds right, tbh

mollyfolk · 07/10/2023 23:52

Hummingbird233 · 07/10/2023 23:18

@mollyfolk and the attacks over the past 24 hours haven't targeted civilians?!?!

I’m assuming from the overwhelming evidence of the past conflicts.

everythingwillpass · 07/10/2023 23:53

@TruckDiver Ukraine continue to undertake ethnic cleansing, thats why Russia invaded in the first place.

Moonwatcher1234 · 07/10/2023 23:56

Ratsoffasinkingsauage · 07/10/2023 23:04

@MsLavender

Your mother in law is one person. Just because she has actually been does not mean that the thousands of free Palestine people on Twitter are even half as educated.

There is sadly a lot of anti-Semitic prejudice in British left wing politics. Some of the things I’ve seen posted online today are the worst of post truth social media garbage.

The only people who are pathetic today are the ones who’ve been trying to be fucking edge lords and defend the indefensible because it suits their politics.

It is possible to be disapproving of Israel’s treatment of Palestinians and also condem Hamas and their actions today. Because they have actually fucked everyone in that area for the foreseeable. I’m sure they have their reasons but they are shit reasons. Anyone starting up with the ‘well in 1947…’ is just propping up that shit position.

“Are even half as educated” …interesting statement. I wonder what you mean by that.

JuvenileEmu · 07/10/2023 23:58

FlemishHorse · 07/10/2023 23:46

All I’m defending is an idea of “the truth”, slippery concept that it is. There’s no right or wrong side here as far as I’m concerned.

Seventeen years with Reuters gives you some reliable gut feeling.

I’d be interested to see the multiple links to your supporting evidence that the footage (children being executed in the streets) is current from Palestine though.

I can totally understand the desperation for these videos to be fake. I would be horrified to see videos like these uploaded by people I support, it would make me question my whole view of things They're clearly not fake though. So I think you need to accept what has happened today. There's no point trying to pretend it hasn't happened, millions of people have been watching.

Oioicaptain · 08/10/2023 00:01

I'm just going to say this before I go to bed. I think there's been an awful lot of assumptions on this forum tonight. People have confused explanations (particularly historical) with justifications. I haven't seen a single post that justifies the violence on either side and certainly not by Hamas. For my own part, I am a political and have publically condemned both sides on many other forums for the abhorrent and mindless acts of violence, which have had a huge detrimental impact upon both sides, particularly upon children. I have previously supported an aid charity that works with children in Gaza (again a charity and not a political organisation) and an organisation that seeks build connections between Palestinian and Israeli women. I am relatively neutral, but do believe that the actions of the Israeli govt over the years have inflamed the situation and I condemn Hamas. But what I also believe is that, despite the bickering, the vast majority of us here are actually on the same page. We came to this forum because we hate violence and are saddened to see the innocent victims suffer on both side of the conflict. And I think that we can all agree that our thoughts are with all those affected tonight and that we all sincerely hope that peace will follow (even if that hope may be unlikely).

oxitel · 08/10/2023 00:19

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/SabraanddShatilamassacre

Just read the section called Foreign reporters' testimonies

Huwipulotu · 08/10/2023 00:27

@oxitel

thanks for posting that - Sabra and Shatila massacres are horrific and the Israeli role in them just demonstrates that both sides are perfectly capable of committing atrocities

have you seen “waltz with Bashir”? It’s an Israeli animated film which covers the role the IDF played in the massacre.

ParadiseZity · 08/10/2023 00:28

Oioicaptain · 07/10/2023 22:11

It is awful for everyone, but I particularly feel for the children in Gaza. Israel could resolve tensions if they were prepared to hand back some of the control of the west bank that they seized in 1967. Currently far more Palestinians live in the west bank than Israelis (3 million v 600,000), yet Israel occupy it and control the movement of Palestinians within it. The UN and most international communities believe Israel's occupation to be unlawful. They have separated the Palestinian nation into Gaza and The West Bank, trapping those in Gaza. Those in Gaza are only allowed to enter the Westbank for emergency hospital treatment, but not other important events such as attending a wedding or funeral. As such they are unable to form relationships with other Palestinians in the West Bank. Israel for all intents and purpose occupy Gaza. They control its air and sea space and bridges. They hold control of all their utilities (electricity and water). They have seized land to create a buffer zone between the two countries. Gaza is the 3rd most populated country on earth and the conditions there are awful.

That's not to condone terrorism of course and they have a right to defend themselves, but unfortunately, due to the high density of Gaza, the impact of any attacks is always disproportionate and so many children have been killed.

There is no longer support for a 2 state solution on either side (only 40%ish in support on either side). People have lost hope. And largely, it would involve Israel handing back control of the Palastinian section of the West Bank that they currently occupy. In fact, the two state solution is pretty much the plan that existed before the 1967 war. And the Palestinians have been so riled and suppressed for so long that there is growing support for them seizing back a greater proportion of the west bank going back as far as the sea.

The only solution that I can see is for Israel to hand back land back to the Palestinians and see if that starts to calm tensions and lift travel restrictions within the west bank. I don't think unfortunately that they can lift restrictions in Gaza for a long time yet, having poked the bear far too many times and for too long. They could however, move some of their buffer zone back in places and provide more humanitarian aid to those in Gaza or allow some vulnerable families with young children into The West Bank or parts of Israel and gradually get some onside.

Instead however, they have a bullish Prime Minister intent on war and the backing of the US.

It's hard to do that if the governing body - Hamas - has vowed to wipe you off the face of the earth. Doing so would just allow rockets to be fired deeper still into Israel. Hamas don't want a two state solution, so what is the answer?

JayAlfredPrufrock · 08/10/2023 00:28

@everythingwillpass

Russia invaded Ukraine to prevent ethnic cleansing?

Lostcotter · 08/10/2023 00:33

ketchup07070 · 07/10/2023 21:26

I am so worried for the people in Gaza. I think half the population there are kids. It's already been decreed unliveable by the UN. Most densely populated area in the world, 16 square miles. Heavy retaliation may mean they will be wiped out completely, impossible to bomb it without killing many civilians. They have suffered so much, it's unbearable.

How sad 😢

Flowersfield · 08/10/2023 00:36

Hummingbird233 · 07/10/2023 19:55

If any other country attacked another, people would be calling that country out.

Palestinians attack Israel, killing and hurting mass people - "it's sad on both sides".

WTF. Let's call this as it is. It's atrocious that Hamas, a terrorist organisation, gets to bomb civilians and hide behind a long standing conflict. What they've done is awful.

Hmmm the media wouldn't have reported Israel attacking Palestine first. You've only got a snippet of the story unfortunately. Yes let's REALLY call it for what it is - Israel imposes a system of oppression, control, domination and cruel discriminatory treatment against Palestinians; this is Apartheid. OP i know you wanted everyone to not take sides but @Hummingbird233 went there.

everythingwillpass · 08/10/2023 00:39

@JayAlfredPrufrock Yes; in the Donbas.

Erivo · 08/10/2023 00:49

Today has been difficult with the treatment yet again of women and children, it’s hard as I was in the military in the Bosnia aftermath. Women’s bodies used as a trophy of war. The conflict at the moment is a secondary thought, my empathy is with them and the future women who will have the same fate.

doctorbird · 08/10/2023 00:53

TruckDiver · 07/10/2023 21:28

Why is Israel never treated like other countries?

Because it isn't like other countries. It was formed less than 60 years ago by ethnically cleansing a bunch of Palestinians from their own homeland and setting up an artificial state to safeguard western interests in the region. It maintains its religious and cultural identity by imposing apartheid on many of the people under its control and treating them as second class citizens with rights barely better than animals.

This is exactly how every country in the entire western hemisphere of the planet was formed. The entire concept of the New World was premised on genocide and oppression. A majority of the population of the US is living on stolen land; If the indigenous populations decided to launch rockets from the reservations they have been relegated to and engage in the same level of viscous atrocities, I wonder if the responses would be as understanding and conciliatory? A previous poster mentioned the conflict in Yemen where 10 million people are on the brink of starvation and yet the moral outrage is non existent. We need to stop holding Israel to a different standard, especially when Hamas has proven that they are willing to sacrifice the well being of their own people to further their political agenda. The actions of Hamas are unconscionable and we need to be willing to condemn them as such for the sake of the Palestinians who are held hostage to their leadership as well as the Israeli people.

MezzoSexual · 08/10/2023 01:01

kαλοκαλοκαιρι · 07/10/2023 21:10

Respectfully, I think this is a bit reductive. Using this logic you can easily say the opposite is true too. That the ‘democracy’ Israel has been responsible for the deaths of over 200 palestinian civilians this year alone (prior to today’s events). Or that the same state is using collective punishment- a prohibited war crime by the geneva convention.

That is not to say that I wish to use anything in the above paragraph to justify the targeting of innocent civilian, which is reprehensible and indefensible in any scenario, no matter the perpetrator. But I think the nuance here that’s getting overlooked is that not every Palestinian fighting for freedom is Hamas are they? Israel makes every day under apartheid a living hell for Palestinians in Gaza. The average age there is 18. It’s been under blockade since 2007, without access to adequate water, eduxation, health supplies; electricit, in horrific population density and poverty.

Some people today are stepping outside of this open-air prison for the first time in their lives. For me; it’s as I saw someone write earlier, “We can condemn Hamas as an entity and mourn the loss of every civilian in conflict without losing sight of the fact that Israel and its decades of violent occupation and brutality are to blame.”

I’m terrified for friends on both sides of the wall in Tel Aviv and the West Bank tonight. But you can’t blame an oppressed group of people for fighting back against their oppression.

My opinion only.

But the problem is that on both sides of the conflict the victims are the innocent civilians . They suffer for the actions of a minority. Most Israelis are not oppressors.

JuvenileEmu · 08/10/2023 01:35

Flowersfield · 08/10/2023 00:36

Hmmm the media wouldn't have reported Israel attacking Palestine first. You've only got a snippet of the story unfortunately. Yes let's REALLY call it for what it is - Israel imposes a system of oppression, control, domination and cruel discriminatory treatment against Palestinians; this is Apartheid. OP i know you wanted everyone to not take sides but @Hummingbird233 went there.

There are no justifications for the atrocities that have been committed today. And there is no point trying to. People have seen the videos, and people will make their own judgements. Today has been the worst day for the state of Palestine. Hamas have behaved like sub humans. And millions of people have seen it.

Takoneko · 08/10/2023 07:12

@JuvenileEmu This may seem pedantic but there is no such thing as “the state of Palestine”. That’s the whole issue in a nutshell. The Palestinians do not have and never have had a state of their own.

TheHouseonHauntedHill · 08/10/2023 07:22

@Erivo unfortunately it's a world wide problem the treatment of women and children.

Sarah Everard and all the women killed by men it's everywhere sadly.

I was watching the long shadow about jack the ripper.
The attitudes towards the Victim was shocking.

We have worked hard, suffrage etc to get to where we are but even then women are being attacked and killed. Imagine how much father many of these cultures have to go tp free and liberate women?

TheHouseonHauntedHill · 08/10/2023 07:26

*victims was shocking.

MrsRachelDanvers · 08/10/2023 07:32

I remember as a junior assistant photocopying the draft agreement of the Oslo Accord and feeling real optimism. What a shame Rabin was killed by a fellow countryman who didn’t like that he was prepared to deal with the other side. Yet it’s the only way as in NI. But sadly, I can’t see this happening at all. I feel desperately sorry for ordinary people who are at the mercy of fanatical politicians.

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