Is your 9 year old really annoying?

suzukili22 · 2023-10-07T17:25:44+00:00

I’m just wondering if this is an age thing or a me thing. I love my 9 year old but I find her so bloody irritating. I feel like I have the ick. I’m hoping it passes quickly but at the minute I’m struggling to be around her! aibu to hope this is just a common thing with this age group?

Toloveandtowork · 07/10/2023 18:49

My two were extremely irritating at that age. Very hard times that I'm glad are now past. The worst of it at least. Still plenty of irritation which seems unavoidable as a parent unless you are a saint.

Pollyputhekettleon · 07/10/2023 18:51

What exactly is she doing that you find so irritating?

Lorelaigilmore88 · 07/10/2023 18:52

No sorry I don't think thats normal. My 7yo is a total chatterbox and drives me crackers sometimes but saying you've got the ick? Struggle to be around them?
What exactly are they doing thats bugging you?

Gymmum82 · 07/10/2023 18:55

Mine can be quite annoying. More so than when she was younger. Hoping it’s a phase

TomatoSandwiches · 07/10/2023 18:57

When my DD was 9 she had a habit of constantly talking that got a bit irritating but she has never given me the ick, neither have my sons.
What exactly is it that makes you feel like that?

Here4thechocs · 07/10/2023 18:59

Mine 9 year old, (10 in Jan 🙏) is quite pleasant. At school, home, everywhere , ti be honest.

Notintheparentingbooks · 07/10/2023 18:59

My 9 year old could never give me the ick ? Not sure what yours is doing that you struggle to be around her.
9 year old can be annoying at times but couldn’t imagine the behaviour required that I would struggle to be around her !

Paramummy3 · 07/10/2023 19:00

Quite annoying. Daft noises, inane conversation, pointless questions (standing by the Thames ‘mum, mum mum mum mummummum……….can I jump in’

Desecratedcoconut · 07/10/2023 19:01

No. He's really lovely. So are my teens. They were all fucking nightmare babies though, you can't wint them all.

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suzukili22 · 07/10/2023 19:02

The sudden inability to use her own brain, the noise she makes when she eats, the stupid questions, the CONSTANT talking, the laziness…. I need a break. I think I’m probably autistic because I suffer really badly with sensory overload and she just ignores all the wrong nerves for me. I know she can’t help it but I hate how I feel around her.

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thecatinthetwat · 07/10/2023 19:06

Some phases can be very difficult. Can you ask someone for a bit of help, babysitting etc. so you can get a break.

Bittercup · 07/10/2023 19:07

OMG yes! Such hard work. Will get an idea in her head and go on and on and on about it.

She's the reason I drink and the reason I get out of bed every day.

So swings and roundabouts really.

I hope you feel better soon OP.

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suzukili22 · 07/10/2023 19:07

I’m going to pull a sickie next week I think so I can have a day at home alone to recharge. I don’t get any time away from the kids unless I’m at work so I just some time to unwind. I love her very much and don’t want to feel like this.

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Guessguess · 07/10/2023 19:10

My eldest is and always has been my best friend in the world but at 10 she was SO fucking annoying. Certainly didnt struggle to be around her or get the ick but everything you describe was her at 10. Constantly correcting me as well about everything. She's 15 now and stresses me out for very different reasons

Pollyputhekettleon · 07/10/2023 19:11

suzukili22 · 07/10/2023 19:02

The sudden inability to use her own brain, the noise she makes when she eats, the stupid questions, the CONSTANT talking, the laziness…. I need a break. I think I’m probably autistic because I suffer really badly with sensory overload and she just ignores all the wrong nerves for me. I know she can’t help it but I hate how I feel around her.

Noisy eating: It's your job to teach her to chew with her lips closed.
Inability to use her own brain: What does that mean?
Constant talking: Does she have ADHD or something? Otherwise, you tell her that mommy needs quiet time now for however long. Set a timer if you need to. Send her off to do something else,
Laziness: What are the consequences for laziness? Again, could this be an ADHD thing?

Your suspicions about your own autism make it more likely than average that your DD has some kind of issue also.

What do you mean you're probably autistic? Are you going to get that diagnosed and get help so you can manage it or are you just going to keep getting annoyed at your child and hoping she doesn't pick up on it?

Guessguess · 07/10/2023 19:12

Oh and mine does have ADHD I think although haven't had an official diagnosis yet. I might have been more understanding of the talking and the questions and the correcting and the utter utter laziness if I knew that then but it didn't become obvious until she hit puberty

Desecratedcoconut · 07/10/2023 19:12

Oh yeah, for sure. That sounds hard. Everyone is annoying if you never have any time to relax in the quiet now and then.

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suzukili22 · 07/10/2023 19:13

She does chew with her mouth closed but still manages to make a shit load of noise, I genuinely don’t know who’s she does it.

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Differentstarts · 07/10/2023 19:38

Yanbu anybody is annoying when you spend to much time with them and all these things that start of minor like loud eating soon become very very irritating. Does she hang out in her bedroom or is she like your shadow. One of mine was like my shadow and I'm somebody who needs alone time, I had to create space between us to stay sane.

Pollyputhekettleon · 07/10/2023 19:41

suzukili22 · 07/10/2023 19:13

She does chew with her mouth closed but still manages to make a shit load of noise, I genuinely don’t know who’s she does it.

You didn't answer a single other one of my questions.

But for the chewing, get ear plugs. Lots of them out there for kids with ASD. It's not her fault you may have undiagnosed autism and sensory issues.

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suzukili22 · 07/10/2023 19:44

Pollyputhekettleon · 07/10/2023 19:41

You didn't answer a single other one of my questions.

But for the chewing, get ear plugs. Lots of them out there for kids with ASD. It's not her fault you may have undiagnosed autism and sensory issues.

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No I didn’t answer them because you’re incredibly rude.

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Minniemouse85 · 07/10/2023 19:54

I’ve felt like this op with my 6 year old ever since we got back from a 2 weeks holiday at the end of the 6 week holiday. I didn’t feel like this before . I’ve just had a bit too much of her I think and I need a break just not possible atm.
I can’t face going a shop with her at the moment as she’s on the want constantly and at home she so unbelievably messy, moody and such a know all.
it will pass tho!
pull that sickie.

Thanksforreading · 07/10/2023 19:56

I do believe it a phase, my now teen was hard work at that age (I just thought it was because I was a young mum aged 30 when she was 9/10 years old). Also niece and nephew was super annoying at 9, but I just put that down to being pregnant at that time. I just always gave them excuses at that age because they are just a child at that age. But like my niece would be asking if my baby (in my belly) liked blood… if she would like glass… I just found it super wrong. And the constant crying between them two was insane, hormones for them are kicking in I guess. Niece and nephew are 12/13 now and have stopped asking funky questions and are actually lovely with my youngest and will make great baby sitters! So just hang in there, this phase will pass!

Pollyputhekettleon · 07/10/2023 19:57

suzukili22 · 07/10/2023 19:44

No I didn’t answer them because you’re incredibly rude.

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Oh so you just wanted company to bitch about your unfortunate daughter but have no intention of doing anything to sort out the situation. Nice. I'd rather be 'rude' any day of the week.

BakedTattie · 07/10/2023 20:00

Ffs all the ‘no my children could never annoy me’ fuck off.

kids are annoying. Even more so if you have sensory issues. I hear you.
we love them, but they are still annoying.