Is your 9 year old really annoying?

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I’m just wondering if this is an age thing or a me thing. I love my 9 year old but I find her so bloody irritating. I feel like I have the ick. I’m hoping it passes quickly but at the minute I’m struggling to be around her!

aibu to hope this is just a common thing with this age group?

In what possible universe is it rude to suggest that someone who thinks she has autism and accompanying sensory issues, which are causing her to find her 9 year old 'icky' and 'bloody irritating', should actually get a diagnosis and appropriate support?

I don’t want to derail OP’s thread, but how easy do you think it is to get an autism diagnosis, and what sort of ‘support’ do you think might be available?

Anyway OP. I don’t have a 9 year old, mine are younger, but frankly I’ve never met a 9 year old I didn’t find hideously annoying and I have no doubt I’ll find my kids annoying when they’re that age.

Haha, mine are older now but yes, I have definitely had ick times. Like they have with me! Apparently I'm very annoying at times. It's normal. We're also very complimentary to each other when we're feeling the love. Stop stressing OP and carve out some me time.

Love my 8 year old to pieces, but I also feel this in my soul. She's either wildly happy or devastated, and the talking just doesn't stop. It's a classic introvert/extrovert clash in this house.

OP you are getting some harsh comments here, but I want to say well done for acknowledging how you feel and wanting to change it.
I’ll put my two cents in: I once was that 9 year old, who talked too much(my mum used to call me “radio”) and whatever I did just seemed to annoy my mum. Once I started picking this up, at first I was confused, then devastated. We eventually drifted apart and I left home at 17. We still talk, but we are not close. I suspect my mum has some sensory issues (won’t go to the cinema as it’s just too loud for her etc). It took me a long time to process my relationship with her and to realise I was not a problem.

I'm really struggling with 9 yo DS at the moment. We constantly clash. He hates everything by all accounts and is turning into quite the spoiled brat. He is disciplined quite strictly, has no phone etc but just seems to complain about everything. Hoping it's a phase rather than this being my life for the next 10 years🤯

With the constant talking I would just not respond to everything she says. It sounds exhuasting. She will realise when you don't respond that you aren't interested and will stop.

Don't feed the undesirable behaviour , try ignore it if possible . Praise her for when she behaves well.

😂😂😂 ok

My 9 year old son doesn't sleep much which is annoying. That's about it, although he's going through that phase when he says words like wee and poo and then laughs hysterically.

My 9 year old niece is really annoying though, very boastful and show offy.

My 10 year old DD2 is intensely annoying. Never stops talking, stroppy, untidy, always pushing at boundaries and generally obstreperous. However, her hormones are at play and she's in full blown tweendom.

This too shall pass. Just like it did for her older sister who is a fabulous teen and whom I felt exactly the same about at 10!

@Pollyputhekettleon i don't think your comment was rude but it is hard to get a diagnosis of autism, and the OP can self diagnose and learn about how to navigate life successfully as a ND person. Having said that getting a proper diagnosis would probably mean more access to help if that help is out there (depending on funding for her area.)

But for the chewing, get ear plugs. Lots of them out there for kids with ASD. It's not her fault you may have undiagnosed autism and sensory issues.

Yeah, great suggestion. Sit down at the dinner table, mum puts her ear plugs in. That’ll help their bond and won’t freak the daughter out at all.

I came here for the very same reason. My 9yo is irritating the hell out of me lately. Silly noises, short screams (similar to when he was 5 but grew out of it), not listening. I feel guilty for feeling this way. I want my old feelings back