AIBU that my child is not the unusual one !

[Lostmymarbles25]

group mum chat today and we were discussing the birthday parties coming up and Christmas ( they do a class secret Santa ) quite a few were suggesting the girls wanted vouchers for Sephora etc for some face cream routine stuff and some kind of elephant cream 😅 they have just gone in to year 5 so mainly 9 approaching 10.
I was explaining that for DD that she would be happy with any sort of squishy / anime surprise bags / fidget toys / rocks. This was described as unusual ?
I don’t think it’s that unusual - she would not know what Sephora is or the difference in face creams !
will she start to fall behind in what her peers are growing in to ? If I suggested face cream for Christmas she would probably cry 😂😂😂
she is not in to her dolls as much anymore but more like Sanrio character / anime figures / slime / fidgets / art sets / rocks / mini brands / mini verse etc
I don’t remember it being this unusual at this age.

Y6 DD's favourite shop is Forbidden Planet. She would think I was crazy if I bought her makeup/skincare.

However some of her friends are really into it but there seems to be no judgement either way, which is lovely.

Your DD sounds normal. My DD is a year older, she likes books, slime, making friendship bracelets and stuff out of cardboard, history and the news. Zero interest in face cream.

This sounds like pretty poor parenting to me tbh. If my DD started talking about expensive face creams, the LAST thing I would do would be encourage her by suggesting this stuff to other mums as a suitable present. I’d be much more likely to check her Youtube history and have a long chat about marketing.

Maybe tumble stones? My daughter has been obsessed with them, and crystals, since she was about 8-9. She has a huge jar of them in her room. No idea why, she doesn't do anything with them, just likes hoarding them like a dragon.

Hmm, I was at private school so it really was common for people to have the expensive brands.

What brands? My mum used Dior or whatever but we were all into Rimmel, Bourjois etc. Plus there just wasn't the ranges of acids, primers, contours, etc.

I’d be absolutely gutted if I had a young daughter and she wanted face creams as a gift. What happened to supporting our children to be comfortable in their own skin?

I feel like we’re going backwards on this at the moment. Some of the teens I see wandering around here have their faces plastered.

Anyway OP your daughter is absolutely normal!

@KakiFruit I actually would! I wouldn't spend £25 on a lipstick for a 10 yr old, 🤷🏻‍♀️ what's wrong with a £14 mini Mac one?

Well, obviously not always, but when I was growing up it wasn't hugely uncommon.

Different parents have different budgets and ideas of what's acceptable to buy for their kids.

Can I clarify that although 13yo Dd is 'into' skincare she doesn't have DE or anything like that.

An expensive skincare brand

I'd find it quite sad a child that age wanted skincare. DD 17 still loves her Squishies, along with very expensive makeup and skincare. I was lucky if I had a pot of Body Shop moisturiser at 18.

Is one of the mums a Sephora MLM hun who has managed to convince the other mums that their 9 year olds need a skincare routine?

My 10 year old wanted 'anything kirby' for his birthday - squishimals, (appropriate) manga, all the same sort of stuff as your OP would be totally welcome.

When he was 12, my eldest's entire class was into 'butter slime'.

I expect there's a child that's pushing this stuff and has turned it into a bit of a fad with that class.

I don't understand why a £14 lipstick would be acceptable to you but not a larger one for £25. They're both expensive.

@margotrose I simply disagreed that it was all dictated by budget. And where I grew up in London it wasn't common to be using expensive hi tech creams etc

Sounds like the queen bee mums are pushing this. The rest of the mums are probably with you.

And obviously private education is not that common.

@KakiFruit I asked what was wrong with a mini one as it's cheaper? I would happily give my dc a high street brand. I certainly wasn't too clued up on what suited me make up wise at 10 yrs of age.

DD is in Y6 and has just had her 11th birthday. Didn’t ask for any face cream or skin care. She has a keen eye on fashion and music. Already has some basic makeup stuff but doesn’t use it much. She had a big bracelet making phase throughout year 5. For her birthday she requested a new school bag, Taylor Swift merch, clothes,stationery, new books to read and a squish mallow to add to her collection. Fidget toys, slime etc were def done by year 4, but she is one of the oldest in her year.

But who is letting children of that age watch anything^^ on TikTok? They absolutely shouldn't be, they're too young! Both according to TikTok rules and morally!

omg had to google drunk elephant and the very first pack I clicked on as I thought it was little body sprays said this:
Electrolyte-packed F-Balm™ quenches and rehydrates hungover, overly parched skin, making it soft and supple; Babyfacial, our 25% AHA/BHA "facial," resurfaces and reveals the look of a more even, radiant, baby-soft complexion; and Brightfacial™, our radiance-boosting leave-on mask, clarifies uneven tone, fades stubborn spots, and reduces redness.

Surely not issues for children this young!

MAC is high end. You said you'd give a £1 Rimmel eyeshadow as a Christmas present but also a £14 MAC one and... yeah I don't get you.

Right, but the majority of people don't go to a private school, nor are all private school parents able to waste that amount of cash on skincare for a child!

This. Very few Y5 gitls would want fidget toys and slime

Yes, which is why I went on to say "obviously not always"

I'm just trying to say that spending lots of money on make-up/skincare for young children isn't new and isn't just down to TikTok - there have always been parents who will spend a fortune on stuff for their kids, whether that's toys, make-up or games.

id be requesting Sephora cream and having it for myself 🤣